How can I get my 22 year old daughter to stop treating me like a doormat?

Question

I've tried not speaking to her, yelling, etc nothing works. Any advice?

Answer 1

I can only assume that the reason why your daughter treats you like a doormat is because you let her. I know my mom did not let me walk all over her or her home. She was very straight forward with how she wanted to be treated and her things.(I'm 24 and my mom was like this from the beginning). The best thing you can do is be HONEST let her know that she can not continue to treat you like this. If that doesn't work act rather than talk. Which means...have her move out. Give her 30 days to find her own place. Don't help her with money. Let her be an adult. It may be hard but she'll be better in the end for it. Good Luck.

Answer 2

I would suggest a serious talk with her, letting her know exactly what she is doing and what you expect to change. Then make sure she understands what you expect, and that you will accept nothing less. She is 22 time for her to grow up. Would you take being treated like that by any other adult in you life?

Answer 3

Looks like you didn't get a handle on it earlier when it would have mattered. Now at 22, there's really no way to adjust her behavior. All I would suggest is to let her live her own life and don't allow her to come around you if she's going to be negative. You have to be strong and NOT let her talk to you any sort of way. Ignoring her is a good idea. Block her out and retain your inner peace.

Answer 4

She can only treat you like one if you let her. I know it's hard. I have a grown child, too, thankfully he doesn't do this to me. Yelling never works. She won't respect you until you respect yourself and not give in to her. Good luck.

Answer 5

Don't speak to her until she is ready to speak to you like an adult and with the respect you deserve.