I have been living with this guy for 7 years. I am not denying that he has done good things for me and so did I. He just does not want to move out of his mama's house and he hitts me. His mother is involved in everything we do. When I got in the relationship I was 16 years old. He made me ran away from home. Now that I am 23 I feel like there is a better future for me. I want to go to school and do other things. He says he will hurt me if I ever left.
What he fails to understand is that I am not the 16 year old he met years ago - I am smarter and realized I made mistakes. I want to get out quick. He has been very abusive through the years and I feel like I need to get out and find freedom. I lost touch with most my family and old friends.
Do I just ask the police to help me get my stuff out of the house? I really don't want to get hurt. I don't have friends . all my friends are his friends. I need out right now. I have had it. Help me please. I am scared.Sorry for gramar mistake.
2006-08-01 03:58:21 · 8 answers · asked by K.S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
His mom is a nurse. she is gone to work. he is at work too. I have no children at all. I will pack my little things and go, but where? I only have $16.00 in quaters. We were never married even though he introduces us as husband and wife to people. I will pray and leave in an hour.
2006-08-01 04:20:24 · update #1
Look for a local domestic violence shelter. They can halp you, you don't have to live there, they will have all sorts of services and referrals for you. I worked at one for 2 years and we always helped women get out of their/his house then hook them up with support. Yes, he really could hurt you especially if he has hit you before. You could apply for a restraining order with the shelters help. Good luck.
2006-08-01 04:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by mommaof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave like right now or your going to be in trouble.I have been there myself so I can really understand.I also almost lost both my sisters from abusive guys and I lost a good friend of mine and lost her son as well to a abusive guy so I would not want that happening you just pack up some things or not just leave start over call your local battered women's shelter and go there they will help you out a lot give you protection get you aid ,resources, a safe place for you and they could meet you somewhere to pick you up and get you to the shelter if you can contact your family or a old friend too because you will need to also the shelter give you advice .If I can do this you can your strong and smart you know that you do not want this anymore so your on your way also contact your local police too they will help you.Be Brave and Strong it will be OK but you really need to leave now let us know so we all know your safe sweetie please leave no matter what he says to you just go leave when he is not home that is the time to do it.God Bless you can also go to your local Churches in your area too....
2006-08-01 11:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by kutiepye28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest going to the police. Tell them what he has done to you in the past. Ask them to escort you to get your things. If you have nowhere to go check into women's shelters. I live in Ohio and there is a Baptist Church that runs a shelter for abused women. It is called the lighthouse. You may find one or something similar in your area. They actually keep the fact that you are there confidential. Nobody can call them and find out you are there. The police would most likely be able to refer you to an organization for battered women in your area that can help you make this transition. You really need to get out now. Abuse can escalate and you could end up seriously hurt or worse. There are people that can help you. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-01 11:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by geni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly. Listen sweets: My husband is a cop! This happens alot, go to the police tell them what you told us, they will help you. File a restraining order asap! Get a cell phone, even if its prepaid and keep it with you always! Good luck. Its good to know some women who get abused have the common sense to leave when they should.
2006-08-01 11:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first him threatening you with physical harm is a criminal offence, so get out, report him to the police. may be consider a legal name change and moving to the other side of your country, or the other side of the world.
as for his mom getting involved in everything, she sounds like an interfeering old moo, so you would be better off out of there.
wait for him and his mom to go out then just pack as few things as you can the essentials and be ready to run, have enough cash ready to pay for a hotel/ motel room until you have completed your official legal stuff, as i said the police should be made aware that you are in a domestic violence situation and would like them to know who to look for as a suspect if the worst ever should happen (i hope that nothing bad ever does happen to you, but if you realy do fear for your safety then you have no choice but to get out and reort him)
and yes you need to ask the police for help, they can make arrangements with you to go back to theproperty to collect your stuff, if you feel your life is in danger.
my opinion only here, but if you wish to talk, i can't promise i'll be able to help, but i will listen, contact me via my profile.
2006-08-01 11:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you know what I know what your going through because I to have had an abusive relationship. But you know what I told him that if he hurt me i would hurt him more so i broke his nose and put him into the hospital for 2 months. If he keeps hurting you kick his *** and put him in jail. You never know it could get worse. mscrystal0607@yahoo.com
2006-08-01 11:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by RED BLOOD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and get out fast. Can you leave while he is at work? Go some where safe. Do not have your mail forwarded. get a restraining order.
2006-08-01 11:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the police about the hitting and they can help you get away.
2006-08-01 11:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jumpin Monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋