I have been living with this guy for 7 years. I am not denying that he has done good things for me and so did I. He just does not want to move out of his mama's house and he hitts me. His mother is involved in everything we do. When I got in the relationship I was 16 years old. He made me ran away from home. Now that I am 23 I feel like there is a better future for me. I want to go to school and do other things. He says he will hurt me if I ever left.
What he fails to understand is that I am not the 16 year old he met years ago - I am smarter and realized I made mistakes. I want to get out quick. He has been very abusive through the years and I feel like I need to get out and find freedom. I lost touch with most my family and old friends.
Do I just ask the police to help me get my stuff out of the house? I really don't want to get hurt. I don't have friends . all my friends are his friends. I need out right now. I have had it. Help me please. I am scared.Sorry for gramar mistake.
2006-08-01 03:57:42 · 26 answers · asked by K.S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His mom is a nurse. she is gone to work. he is at work too. I have no children at all. I will pack my little things and go, but where? I only have $16.00 in quaters. We were never married even though he introduces us as husband and wife to people. I will pray and leave in an hour.
2006-08-01 04:19:57 · update #1
The police probably are not the ones you need to help you.Unfortunately in most places the police will not come and stand guard while you remove your things. What you need to do is call a Domestic Violence Shelter in your area. Do a search online (if you can't search online, search from the library), or you can call the health department, hospital, police department for a number of one close to you. The shelter can help with setting a plan to remove your things or help in getting new items. They will help with temporary housing if you need to hide out from him temporarily (I don't know how bad he is)
They have the resources to help get you away and help you start over.They can probably even help you locate your family.
Good Luck!
2006-08-01 04:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack a small bag with stuff to get you by for a day and then call the police and tell them your leaving and want them there so he wont hurt you.When you get out get a restraining order and make an apointment with an officer to go back to get the rest of your stuff,they will usually make him leave so you dont have to see him when your packing.Try and get back in touch with your family and admit you made a mistake and that you miss them,if they are worth a dime they will greet you with open arms.Get your new life going and make some new friends,you deserve hapiness and nobody has the right to put their hands on you even if they done alot for ya in the past.
2006-08-01 11:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by alecnaaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I was there for 6 years! I finally got out just this Jan. You are right to be scared and that you need out NOW! It will never get better, only worse! I pray that there are no children involved! If you have any brusies on you, then you need to file a report with the police! If he touches you again, call 911 and press charges! He will do a mandatory 48 hours and that will give you a chance to run like hell! I am hopeing that you can just leave while he is at work or something! You do need someone to help you, he is less likely to act out in anger if there are vitnesses, NOT his mommy! Please get out though! If you need to talk, I am here. brightooeyes@yahoo.com
2006-08-01 11:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by Dani California 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If possible at the first oppourtunity "when he's not there" move out. Quickly and as fast as you can. Go to a hotel at first not family or friends as he will find you. Don't leave a note or nummber where you can be reached. I'll say it again Don't!If that's not possible contact the authorities explain your situation and they can help you move out. At this time you should not tell him of your plans to move out, or how you are going to do it. After you are out of harms way, get legal advice! It's out there and it's free in your case. You have been in this relationship to long and time for a change! Find strength within you to go on with your life.. Don't you worry about the grammer, just Take care and good luck.....
2006-08-01 11:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read no further than the first paragraph. Find a friend or woman's shelter or whatever you need to do to get away from this man. NO ONE should be hit.
If you need the police there, then call them. They can't stay there for a long period of time so have a friend there with you to help you pack things up.
2006-08-01 11:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out now!!! Is there a woman's shelter you can go to?If I was you, i would grab only the things that your really going to need, and go. If you need to contact the police, they can help you find a woman's shelter, and other help. It's not worth getting hit on everyday, and obviously you have no one to to talk too. Your things are repaceable, your life isn't!!!!! Take it as a lesson learned, get out, and go on with your life. If you want to go to school, do it, but first leave the man behind. He sounds like a control freak, and a mama's boy. Your a woman who needs to gain independence. I just hope there's no children involved, as that could get messy. Try to reconcile with your family and friends, you may be surprised!!! Get out, and away from this monster!! GOODLUCK!!!!
2006-08-01 11:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by leslie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you, and the yrs. you've wasted with this guy. You are in a terrible situation and have been for a long time. Go to the police station and tell them you need a police escort to leave this place and need the time to grab your belongings. They will do this for you! Tell them who your boyfriend has threatened you if you leave him, and has hit you in the passed.This is part of the police protective act. Please take this advise and get your schooling and live your life the proper way, not being afraid. Good luck in the future. Cocoa
2006-08-01 11:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not wait......Call the police if you need to. Or forget the stuff and get out. After you leave you can go to the hospital and they will get you in contact with a victims advocate to help you out. But don't wait till it is to late. The advocate can find you safe housing and can help you with a restraining order against him. And should be able to help with the police in getting your things out of the house. Good luck and stay safe.
2006-08-01 11:06:24 · answer #8 · answered by yp_later_kalispell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im glad you understand this man is very hostile and abusive and want out.Do you know where your family is maybe your mom try and contact her.If you really want out you need to go to the police and they will put you into a shelter for abused women and since he has threatned your life they will probaly want you to put a restraining order against him.If you are in a womans shelter he should not be able to find out where thats it to harm you.If you need to you can im me because i know how you feel i have went through this before and sometimes are still going through it
2006-08-01 11:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie there is a lot of help put there for batter woman. You can go to a shelter, get a restraining order out on him there is also a hot line for abuse woman. You need to really get out before it is too later. All the calls are confidential and he would never. I wish you all the best.
2006-08-01 11:07:17 · answer #10 · answered by blksxyqueen4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋