about 2 years ago my wife & i were separated, some hard times we were going through and she met someone, nothing never came of it becuz I confornted her about it. we got back 2 gether and everything was great. I just found out she was seeing someone,going out to lunch with this person, just really making time to see this person. Then would come home to me,loving me,not coming across like things were that bad with us. we just had a great family vacation and everything and the whole time she was messing around with this person. I love my wife and don't know how 2 do anything else. but the pain of this is heavy on my heart, how do I get through this? how can we as couple get through this?
2006-08-01 03:52:54 · 8 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to discuss it with her, let her know that it hurts you and that she needs to make a choice, she needs to decide who is more important to her, and if she chooses you, she has to stop talking to that guy or any other guy in the future, as long as she has these strong feelings for you, that's the only man she should make time for. But if she chooses him, you have to be strong enough and let her go. That's up to you, but suffering like this is not an answer! Good luck!
2006-08-01 03:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
See if your wife will go to counselling with you. If she refuses, you need to go by yourself.
If she has no intentions of changing then you have some serious decisions to make.
This is a VERY painful realization and a situation where you need someone to help you understand what has happened & help you get through this.
Find a reputable counsellor through friends or your Dr.
2006-08-01 04:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first tin first sorry about ur pains bt are u sure she is seein the person asin is he her lover or is it that sm1 told u about it ? u hvae to ask urself dat ? well cos it would be very bad to jump d gun when u are nt sure about it.bt if she is truly cheatin on u then u have to wake her up in d middle of d nite and ask her if she is doin it and why she is doin what she is doin.i kn u love ur wife so try and make it work bt if u feel she is makin u hate her then free her be4 u do wht u ought not to do so think about dis and pray .and i think u shd go 4 counsellin urself .bye and gdluck
2006-08-01 04:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by Helen D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling. Talk to her about this. It is unacceptable behavior for someone in a committed relationship. Lies and betrayals aren't the way to treat someone you care about.
If she isn't willing to be with you and ONLY you, then perhaps you should consider letting her live her life without you. You could certainly do better than someone who is a cheater.
2006-08-01 03:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should sit down and talk to you wife sounds like you two don't want the same thing anymore once okay but you said she is seeing someone else again ask her what is the deal do you want to be with me or not
2006-08-01 03:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by ahrtracy13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't want to sound cold, but you probably can't. Like the old saying says, a leopard can't change their spots. If she is cheating on you now, she will continue to do so. Let her go know before you have kids to worry about as well......
2006-08-01 03:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by pnk517 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. She wont change until she thinks she's lost you for good. So make her think that. Humans always want what they cant have!
2006-08-01 03:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your wife still seeing this someone? Is she cheating on you? Have you confronted her? Did she give you any reason why she does it? If your wife is still dedicated into the marriage, please considered marriage counseling.
2006-08-01 03:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Chicagoan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋