My fiance and I have two children we are separating and his parents want custody, what can I do?

Question

I am a stay at home mom and now that we are over I have to move out. With no job and no home I have virtually no chance of keeping them without your help. His parents are very very wealthy and threaten to use that to get them. Will somebody please tell me what I can do

I have been sole caretaker of both of them from day one. Their father was doing meth behind my back. When I found out is why we are separating. His parents may be wealthy but both of them are not responsible enough for kids. The grandfather is going through problems with his family because he volunteered to take care of their althziemers parent and wound up beating the crap out of him with a kitchen chair. The grandmother has a problem with children, period. This is simply a situation of spite. They've never liked me because I come from a poor family and don't fit in with their idea of what their son should have.

Answer 1

My help? :)

Well it depends on your state. Here in Michigan, mothers have all rights no matter what. Check with your local FIA or whatever you call your state aid department or shop around for a mother/child shelter til you get on your feet.

What about your family or parents? Are they able to take you or the children in?

In any case, these are your kids so fight, fight, fight!

Answer 2

You should go down to the county courthouse and file for a restraining order against the grandparents stating that they are trying to use intimidation tactics to coerce custody of your children.. You should also start looking for a family attorney that deals on a pro bono case... meaning that they work for free..

Also, work on getting yourself into an apartment and a stable job asap...


Either way, don't panic.. the father would have to prove his paternity AND he would have to give up his parental right to the kids AND a judge would have to remove the kids from your custody... before the grandparents could ever file...

Then department of Children and Families would do surveys, interviews etc all which take a long time to do...

A Family Court wouldnt remove you as guardian just because your poorer and they are wealthy. As long as you can provide a stable, safe environment for your kids, without legal proof the grandparents would be hard pressed to get custody.

You are a resident at the house that you reside in with your fiancee... legally, you don't have to move until you are evicted...legally.. and that takes at least 3 weeks if not more..

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

Grandparents have no legal rights and if you are showing that your are doing the best that you can and your children are being taken care of the judge wont take them away from you. And technically they are not your fiance's children yet because you two were not married. Just find you a good roommate who also has children and do the best you can. It is gonna be very hard for them to take the babies away from you unless they can prove you an unfit mother.


Don't listen to Elana. If you were a stay at home mom you are really the only one who truly know your kids so don't you give up and keep fighting for those kids.
And I do agree with the girl wo said don't let them have the children until this is all sorted out or they may not return them to you and they can do that(or the father can). My husband tried to do that to me so they will try be careful.

Answer 4

Fight for your kids hun. Don't give up just because his parents are threatening you with their wealth. As long as you have a way to support your children comfortably, you have a good fighting chance. You definately deserve your children. Get a good lawyer, look around there are lawyers who will work with you if you don't have alot of money. You do need to try to find a job. And maybe think about moving in with your parents until you can get on your own feet. At least then the children will have a roof over their head and that counts for alot. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Can you move in with your parents? Without a home there is NO chance you will get to keep your children. But if you live with your parents the court will take that into account. Then call a women's advocacy agency, some states allow stay at home mothers X-amount of time to get on their feet before the final decision. Then FIND A JOB. This is most important, even if it is at Wal-Mart, you must find SOMETHING. Good luck.

Answer 6

First, get 2 lawyers. One for Palimony and support, then for custody. Always keep the children with you. There is no order of custody yet, so custody is in possession. Until the custody hearing, allow no-one to take or visit the children without you present. That is the way to start. Do not move until you are forced to. that way, you have leverage in court. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 7

Well first things you have to do is get a job and a place to stay.No judge will give custody to an unemployed homeless person.If you have a job and a place to stay all you gotta worry about is are you a fit parent.By that I mean can you take care of and support the children.

Answer 8

The courts usually favor the mother having custody of the kids most of the time so this is in your favor. Do you have family or friends that you can live with? I would call the Housing Authority in your area and tell them your situation. They can probably offer you housing assistance and ask them where you can stay in the meantime. Also, you should apply for food stamps and whatever government assistant that you can.

Answer 9

FIRST GO GET A JOBANYTHING SO YOU CAN HAVE A INCOME SAVE $ IS THERE ANYFAMILY YOUCAN STAY WITH UNTIL YOU SAVE ENOUGH FOR A PLACE TO LIVE OR A GOOD FREIND THAT WILL LET YOU STAY WITH THEM HOPEFULLY THE KIDS CAN GO TO DAYCARE WHILE YOU WORK OR PRESCHOOL DEPENDING ON THEIR AGE DO YOU HAVE YOUR OWN BANK ACCOUNT IF SO IS THERE ANY $ IN THERE THAT CAN BE OUT DOWN AS PAYMENT FOR AN APARTMENT PLEASE SAY YOU HIDE SOME $ AROUND THE HOUSE FOR JUST IN CASE EMERGENCY IF SO USE THAT 2 GO GET AN LEGAL AIDE LAWYER IN YOUR TOWN OR CITY TO HELP YOU AS WELL EXPLAIN TO YOUR HUSBAND THAT HIS PARENTSARENT THEIR PARENTS ITS YOU 2 AND IF ANY THE KIDS NEED TO STAYWITH HIM NOT THEM UNTIL YOU GET ON YOUR FEET OR WHY CANT HE HELP YOU GET A PLACE HE SEE YOU NEED THE HELP AND HAVE THOSE KIDS ASK CAN HE HELP YOU OR CAN YOU BORROW THE $ FROM HIM AND WHEN YOU GETON YOUR FEET YOU'LL PAY HIM BACK TELL HIM THE KIDS NEED TO BE WITH YOU NOT THE GRANDPARENTS

Answer 10

You will need a lawyer to work out child support. You will have to go and get a job and be self sufficient. If his parents decide to pursue this, the judge will look at your situation and how you can provide for your children.