ok my son is going into highschool. but he has no friends now he saying that he wants to go to vocational school to become a carpentar. and he is going to know no one there that he will know. i think that he wants to go to vocatiional to get away from the pressure of the people he knows. first do u think he should go to vocational or the regular highschool and second how do i talk to him and tell him that i dont think wat he wants to do is right or wrong cause this is really hhis life and his decision i dont want to rule it but i also dont want him making a big mistake. pleease help me!!!!
2006-08-01 03:00:54 · 18 answers · asked by williamt 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
Where do his true interests lie? If he really like carpentry and wants to make it a lifelong career, then a vocational school is a good choice. However, high school will give him a more rounded education and give him a better chance at a good job later on down the road. The friendship matter doesn't enter into the equation. All through his life he will be meeting new people and making new friends and perhaps forgetting old ones. That's part of growing up. Show him how to deal with the pressures. If it entails bullying, then alert the principal or change high schools. Carpentry classes can always be taken at a community college. Look at the long run and apply the best options to your son. You are still responsible for him.
2006-08-01 03:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may not know anyone there when he starts, but chance are that there will not be many people that he would know in the regular high school either. That is why the first year of high school is the hardest.
He may be wanting to go to vocational school so that he has a better start on a career after finishing high school.
The only way for you to be able to advice him in the best possible way is to talk openly with him. Find out the exact reason he wants to do this.
If you are worried about him not having friends, talk to him about it and find a way to fix this situation. He will be able to make friends at any school that he attends.
It is very important that you make it clear to him that you only have his best interest at heart, and it not that you are wanting to make all the decisions for him.
2006-08-01 03:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by jhack52593 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Objectively speaking, and setting aside an individual's right to decide their own fate and/or occupational future, I would try to persuade him to finish high school at the very least. If it were my son I would want to find a way to gain enough of his confidence so that he will tell me why he doesn't want to go back to high school. If his worries are legitimate and understandable, then try to find a solution, even if it means talking to the school and trying to change schools. Formal traditional education is an important foundation, even for carpenters. Nothing wrong with being a carpenter. The country was build by them. But he would be even a better and smarter carpenter if he would please continue with high school, be patient, work with you in making it easier to do. This may be the most important dad-son cooperative project you'll be faced with in his whole life. I would hope the both of you could have a no-holds-barred, no wrong answers, no embarassment, just father and son chat to find an answer that will be to his best future interest, regardless of career choice.
2006-08-01 03:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vocationally, the questions he needs to answer are: 1) is he very good with his hands, does he have any carpentry skills of his own, 2) how long is the carpentry course going to take and how much is it going to cost, 3) what is the carpentry job market going to be like in the area he wants to live and work by the time he is finished the course. The issue of going to a place where he doesn't know anyone is a tougher call to make. If he is very close to his fellow students, the loneliness of being separated from them could place an extra stress on top of his studies. On the other hand, if his fellow students have done nothing but call him names and bully him, he may welcome the new learning environment free of that stress.
2006-08-01 03:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has no friends, then why would it matter that he knows no one at the vo tech? Carpentry is a good trade and he might meet some people there who have similar interests, so I would say let him go for it! The vocational schools today are not the clearing houses they used to be. I know in my county it is not easy to get in and students get a rigorous education. Good Luck!
2006-08-01 03:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
High school is so much different. You need to tell him this. (I'm a mom of a 17 year old and 26 year old). After middle school, he's going to be in a mix of a whole bunch of newer people and he will meet friends. I know my son was worried about it too but then it turned out that high school years have been the best years of his life and he was popular and intelligent!!! I think if he doesn't at least try high school, he's going to make a big mistake. He may regret it later. All his life he's going to hear people talking about their days in high school. He may think back then and realize it was an error. He can go to Vocational School WITH high school. Plus, who knows, in high school.....a new interest may spark in his brain on what he wants to do with his life. He's only going in high school so you do need to PUSH him along still. It may still be "his life" but he still doesn't know where his life is going to lead yet. He's going to be pleasantly surprised once he starts high school I think.
2006-08-01 03:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, well it is his decision, and vocational school is really better than high school, as it teaches you a trade, you earn your degree, they prepare you for a job, and even help you get a job. To me that is a great way to start in the working world. It also depends what he is running from. If hes trying to distance himself from "friends" that will get him in trouble or something similar, it seems like hes making the right choice.
2006-08-01 03:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer is probably not much use but I think being a carpenter is a fantastic job. If your son is talented in this direction let him go for it. Even if it does turn out to be a mistake he can take classes he needs at any time in his life.
As for avoiding people at school, sometimes a person needs to change where they are to flourish. You sound like an understanding and supportive Mum, just talk to him like you have talked to us, he's lucky to have you.
2006-08-01 03:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by cobra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are the chances of getting two pig-tailed girls to answer?
On topic though: I'm not sure what you should do with the kid. If he's unhappy at the place he's at now maybe you should let him go away to a vocational school.
2006-08-01 03:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by leavemebe_11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the key to think about, is if he's wanting to go in a different direction, is to support his idea, but as well, help him stay on task.
Do you want him to graduate, or does he feel his education will be better supported by this choice?
Carpentry is a good field to go into, people will always need housing, and other work....just have some paitence for him, and he'll amaze you.
2006-08-01 03:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by steveraven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋