i hav been feelin really upset and sad for a while now, that most days i end up cryin myself 2 sleep everyday. my parents r always fightin ova stuff, they throw things round. i lock myself in my room everyday afta skool as i dont wanna go out. the only comfort i ever get is listenin to music and being with my boyfriend. i dont talk to my parents bout anythin that is happenin in my life, neva hav as i am scared, think they dont care or wanna hear it etc. they always used to tell me off 4 gettin bad skool marks as if i had purposely done bad, that i hated showin them my results. i hav now worked myself into such a state that i am thinkin more and more about death. wat is it like? wen will it happen? just out of the blue i started thinkin bout these things and now i am scaring myself. i dont want to talk to any1 as i feel there is no1 2 talk to. has any1 else gone through this? wat should i do? is this all normal? im am totally petrified of wat i am gonna mayb do 2 myself. i am so scared
2006-08-01 02:39:38 · 16 answers · asked by Sirena 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You really need to talk to someone. If you can't talk to your parents how about another adult in your family? Death is the last thing you need to be thinking about. You have your entire life ahead of you. I think your parents have so many problems of their own that they don't think about the problems you might have. Please don't consider suicide. If you don't have a relative to talk to, then try talking to a counselor at school. That's what they get paid for. And it's nothing to be afriad of. They are normally very nice.
Don't think you are alone out there. Many children and adults go through depression. That is what you are feeling right now. You need to take the steps to make sure that you set yourself straight. Suicide is not one of the steps. One day you will be grown yourself, and then you can look back on this time in your life and know how to help your own children through it. If you don't have anyone you feel comfortable talking to, try the links below.
http://www.hopeline.com/
http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html
2006-08-01 02:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mary J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK. First of all you shouldn't be around your parents when their fighting! Do you have any friends or family in the neighborhood? Just leave a note on the back door and tell them that you asked your friends parents if you could stay the night and they said yes. Or call your boyfriend and ask him if you could stay the night at his house. Tell him all you want to do is be with him and watch movies and listen to music. NO SEX!!!!! Only if you think that will keep things off your mind! Don't think of death. Your not going to die soon! If you still need some help visit this website.
2006-08-01 03:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through pretty much the same thing when i was your age. i suggest that you focus on yourself and not your parents, and do what makes you happy. You need to make a conscious decision everyday to be happy about what you are doing. If you make bad grades then you shouldn't be upset by them unless you are unhappy with them, and if you are then change your life to please yourself and not your parents. If you are unable to start on this plan because of your depression (that's what it is) then maybe you should try out an anti-depressant. They can help, and you don't have to take them forever, just until you feel more confident that you can take care of everything that goes on without breaking down.
Hope this helps
2006-08-01 02:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by jamileen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry for everything your going through right now, i think everyone at one point or another has thoughts about death when theyre life is going bad, but you just have to remeber that there is always another way and hurting yourself is def. not one, depending on your religon maybe you can pray or meditate just something to help yourslef calm down, maybe your parents are just going through a ruff time let them know it hurts you or if you cant do that just think about everything you could be as you grow older, make sure you get good grades go to college and be a successful person would you rly like to take your life away or hurt yourself without getting to your full potential, you could do so much good in life why take it away, if you wanted to take personally you can e-mail me at chanelliie_xo@yahoo.com i would like someone to talk to and it seems like you could too, dont be shy about e-mailing me i actually hope you do, and i hope this helps too just never doubt your full potential
2006-08-01 02:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your school nurse about it. But seeing as school is out, try a friend or your boyfriend. My boyfriend and I tell each other everything. He has depression problems and talks to me about it. If it is bad enough, I just go over to his house and try to be there for him. You should see your boyfriend about this until school is out. But when it starts go to your guidence counselor or school nurse. Tell them the situation and just that you want someone to talk to. Tell them you don't want them to contact your parents. I was an aide for the guidance counselors and you would be surprised how many people do this. You can go at lunch, get out of a class whatever. They will probably help you with school work as well. They will not turn someone down who is crying out for help.
2006-08-01 04:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Modern_Monroe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not normal or healthy. Your parents need some counseling and a good church to attend. You need to be around your friends.....or people that will give you a positive outlook on life. Find a family member or group of friends that you can find good clean (legal) things to do with so that you aren't around so much negativity.
Find a church youth group to connect to. All these things will help.
2006-08-01 02:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by sputmonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you don't want to talk to anyone, find someone you can confide in FAST. I think it's normal for teenagers to contemplate death at some point. But you appear seriously depressed. Do you have a teacher at school that you like, or an older sibling, cousin, aunt? Anyone. Please don't do anything to hurt yourself. Find someone to help you.
2006-08-01 02:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone about what you're feeling. Maybe a grandparent, an aunt or uncle? Someone you can trust. You're depressed even more when you dont talk about it and get it off your chest
2006-08-01 02:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by someone_unperfect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do think about death often i never got help when it first started not i cut myself sometimes and you shouldnt start doing that because its hard to stop it probly wouldnt be a bad idea to get help because if you dont it could lead to suicide ive come very close to it. if you ever need to talk dont hesitate to email me eaw_mkj@yahoo.com alot of my friends come to me for advice and tell me i give really good advice maybe i can help you if you let me.
2006-08-01 02:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by eaw_mkj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO GET YOUR PARENTS A MARRIGE COUNCLER AND YOU NEED A REGULAR COUNCLEAR TRUST ME THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME DONT LET YOUR SELF GET ALL STRESSED OUT JUST WAK AWAY AND DONT GET INVOLVED WITH YOUR PARENTS FIGHTING JUST GO TO A FRIENDS HOUSE AND ALSO GET IT OFF YOUR MID YOU NEED TO TALK ABOUT IT TELL IT TO SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST A FRIEND OR TEACHER A NOTHER ADULT SCHOOL PRINCEABLE OR EVEN THE SCHOOL COUNCLER ITS OK
2006-08-01 02:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋