insomnia, depression. and pmt to add salt to injury.?

Question

i spend all my time making others lives better but no one gives a toss how i feel when its ME.
i need to get out of the rut i'm in, sick of crying, sick of hiding, and SICK TO DEATH of being on 'form'
if i even venture to say whats wrong if asked (note:IF) The response is usually, what THEY have wrong with THEM, like its a bloody contest who feels worse, sick of cheering everyone up and being kicked to the wayside.
I'm happy 90% of the time but this last week has been my all time lowest, in terms of a stalking abusive EX, a shallow step dad - and some health issues.
I've been dealing but i'm not coping.
where do i even begin to to get happy again?
I've gone for walks, done crafts wit the kids, made tents, I feel like a complete failure..I'm sure its temporary, its so not like me, Just typing this into a stupid site thats likely to attract MORE neg comments to grind me down is like self battery..
maybe i'm on the wrong site.
any good ideas?
forums? help?

Answer 1

Hai Sara,
After going through your question, I went through your profile & 360 page.Ifound you to be pretty & smart lady worth friendship.You have very impressive personality. You are very social,with so many friends.you have good ideas with you as per your profile. There is no reason to get depessed.You should think every time may not be good but one should not loose the spirit. So dear good lady, chear up, you are far better then so many other like me.Irequest you to be in my contact regulerly, Iam here to help you all the time so now I hope to get your response in a best of your hilarious mood, OK, Should i expect that
Thanks.

Answer 2

Scream a little. Be honest with your friends. Tell them that once, just once, you need a bit of support.
Keep on doing the stuff that makes you feel a little better. But it sounds like all of those things are done with or for other people (crafts with the kids etc). Do something for YOU. We all deserve to be a little selfish sometimes.
You sound like a lovely person and a brilliant friend. Give yourself a little credit and do something for yourself.
take care

Answer 3

What are you doing to make YOU --just you ---feel content---forget happy---can you find small moments for yourself to enjoy --do little things just for you---put yourself emotionally out of ex`s reach and as much as possible , physically also ! Are you getting enough sleep--good sleep--eating what your body is telling you that you need....sometimes mine says"feed me liver" Had xxx losses this year,and is damn hard to get back to ourselves-feeling ok and not a failure- what/who`s standards are you using for that call any way -but be easy on your self--we are our own hardest judge anyway.Be as kind to your self realistically as you have been to the others you spoke of....could be hormones are a bit wacky also...try some soy products.....and I like Melatonin to help me center and feel comfortable in my own skin again !
Luck and Peace to you

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Like yourself most people simply want to talk about themselves, sounds to me as though you need to stop trying to make others lives better & work on your own! Doing something for someone is good but never expect anything in return! Do it just for the sake of doing it!

Answer 6

Someone does give a toss, but probably doesn't have a clue what to say or do to help without possibly putting their foot in it or making matters worse.

Answer 7

COUNSELLING for you my dear. what do you get out of helping all the time? You are quite lucky that you are happy 90% of the time, how do you manage that? do you ask for help from other people?

Answer 8

I think ure being taken for granted a lot. I think its "TIME FOR ME". You wont be able to cheer any one up if you dont find ways and means to cheer ureself up.

Good luck!

Answer 9

wow you are so me!! keep picking yourself up and one more thing don't help others untill they help you i know it sounds bitter but you so need respect lady. That's what i done and it works