Ladies wat would u do if your best friend was having an affair with your fanciee and you guys are about to get married would you keep your friend and call the wedding of or would you leave your friend and stay with your fanciee?
2006-08-01 02:37:07 · 39 answers · asked by ♥~PrInCeSs 804~♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would get rid of both. Neither would be worthy of me as a friend or a wife.
Remember , respect, respect , respect. Without respect you have nothing.
Anytime a fiance would sleep with your friend and your friend would sleep with your fiance, I feel with friends like these how would you know your enemies.
Cheating is very painful and hurtful and when its done by ones close to you its a double sword so I say cut off this friendship and get with friends who truly love you and respect you the way you deserve to be treated.
2006-08-01 02:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said ladies only but I'm going to give at least one mature man's perspective, for whatever it's worth. My advice is the same as all of the ladies --dump them both.
If you go through with the wedding, you will always be suspicious of your hubby and that isn't a foundation for a happy marriage. You will always wonder about him when he's gone or you'll subconciously do things to sabatoge the relationship (I won't try to explain that one here, but it happens frequently). A happy marriage can ONLY be built upon total trust.
It's painful to lose the two people in the world who you should have been able to trust and it's sad that it happened. You deserve better friends so just admit to yourself that they weren't good friends and move on.
The ring is yours to keep and when you cancel the wedding plans make sure you are very open with everyone about why you canceled the wedding so the truth comes out and you don't look like the bad apple.
Best of luck to you.
2006-08-01 04:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by calif_dad.4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call the wedding off, and get rid of both of them. Take and ad out in the paper letting every one know what they did. The deserve to be embarrassed about this. Why would you want to marry someone who did this to you? I would make sure that it was clear to everyone why you broke it off in the first place and get rid of both the scum bags. Sorry that happen to you.
One more thing, if I were you I would keep the ring, he is the one that broke things off when he went with your best friend. You could win that one in court if you had to. Then sell the ring and go on a nice vacation or buy a new car.
2006-08-01 02:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ditch them both. I dont need that in my life. If I was with a man that I was about to be married and he cheated on me before the wedding, How would I know or trust that he won't do it after the wedding? Also if my best friend actually did that to me, she was not much of a friend to begin with. I would question who else she slept with that I went out with and if she would do it again. I deserve better and I would live life for myself not them.
2006-08-01 02:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave them both. Neither one was true to you and now you can never trust them again. It'll hurt but eventually you'll find someone else who is honest and true to you. If you don't, you'll invited others to wipe their feet on you also. Your best friend? She obviously doesn't consider you to be the same or she wouldn't have back-stabbed you so brutally. Get rid of her. And him!!! What an *** to come between you and a friend. He has no scruples either and probably would have cheated on you during marriage. Better now than later. Good luck .
2006-08-01 03:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by Princess J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i would get both of them out of my life this was not just your friends fault or your fiances fault this was both there faults.Your friend and fiance both did not have any respect for you and they both betrayed your trust.And believe me they will do it again i know from my own experience.If your fiance truly loved you he would have never of done that Im sorry but its the truth.Now you are left to make a big desision when this is supposed to be the happiest time of your life.You deserve better treatment then what they did to you.Friends like that boy you dont need enemys.If you decide to stay with your fiance just know that this could happen again if not with your friend with someone else you know how the old saying goes once a cheat always a cheat.I wish you the best of luck.
2006-08-01 02:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this even an issue? Can't you think for yourself? You fiance is cheating with your "best friend." These are the two chosen people in your world who are supposed to mean the most to you and they're "dissing" you like this?
OH.. if I've beated around the bush too much, you need to find a new fiance and a new best friend.
2006-08-01 02:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my friend was doing that to me I would beat the s h i t out of her and kick him out after calling off the wedding. I mean honestly if she really was your best friend she wouldnt be sleeping with your fiancee. I would definately confront them both or even better catch them in the act that way they cant deny it.
2006-08-01 02:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by rnikkiwilson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go to jail because a few people would be getting seriously hurt! J/J! :) I'd be really hurt and I would keep...let's see....NEITHER of them! Together in one act, they both trampled YOUR trust! Neither of them deserve your trust. One wasn't better than the other to "prove that your fiance or friend is a bad person"
Oh, the wedding would be as good as CANCELLED!!!!!! I'd also alert the world as to why it was!!!
2006-08-01 03:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a nightmare! I'd call the whole thing off and tell those two they deserve each other. with friends like that, who needs enemies? Then take the money you'll save on wedding expenses and go on a fabulous vacation. You deserve it.
2006-08-01 02:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by shycello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋