he has a temper if he has none mood swings all the time not much ambition or drive left in him. he is always affectionate and wants sex all the time but does not last so long unless we have already had sex atleast twice that day. i want to help but dont know where to start.
2006-08-01 02:20:03 · 22 answers · asked by charlotte 1 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
It seems you have picked a loser. He is using the 'green' as an excuse for his weakness. Mary Jane is not addictive, (I know, I have been smoking off and on for more than 20 years, but always in moderation) but it has one serious 'flaw' when one is feeling down. If one is happy, it increases the 'happiness', and the same happens when one is moody or depressed. Total despair. The only thing that can be done is that HE must stop for a while, to get things back on track. If he is not prepared to do this, pack up and leave, or kick him out.
He is giving the 'green' a bad name!
2006-08-01 02:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First Step: He has to want to stop for his own reasons.
Second Step: Stop thinking you can change a persons life-style.
Third Step: Just be there for them if they need a should to cry on.
Fourth Step: Realise the facts about depression it is suffered by many people.( Not just cannabis smokers)
Fifths step: Go swimming or find a 2-3hr walk, in a natural environment. It's a positive way to release energy.
Sixth Step: Remember the need to change a lifestyle has to come from the person themselves.
Seventh Step: Find a good outreach service. There are many in operation throughout the country. Professional people run these places. Where the public can find drug counselling.
Eighth step: Fill you time with hobbies you both enjoy.
Ninth Step: Be a friend and be honest with him.
Tenth Step:Communication is important, talk to him. Find out whether you both have the same desires in life.
Good Luck hope this can help you.
2006-08-01 02:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like me a few years ago after smoking for just short of 20years. Knock it on the head, its the smoke giving him the depression and the mood swings, tell him to at least give it a try for one month and see how he feels, you will probably find he is craving for the nicotine Not the green. It's got to be worth a shot after 20 years, he's got nothing to loose. All the best
2006-08-01 02:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by codge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 38 I've smoked drugs most my life,i stopped using ganja about 2yrs ago it was hard but now lifes much better.I think if you want it you'll do it, weeds not addictive but it takes about a month for the chemicals to get out of your system and by then you should feel on top. I would say the mood swing are because you use drugs,not because you haven't used.Its not heroin.Trust me i know. Anyway good luck you can do it
2006-08-01 02:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by T. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try with holding sex for a while and see if that sorts him out - if not, then you need to think wat you seriously want from him and life - if your happy to plod along then do so, if not - get up and go - World is a hugh place and there the perfect person for everyone out there - am not saying we're all perfect people just find someone just as messed up as you are and you'll live together forever in complete harmony!!!!! ;o> Above all keep smiling!
2006-08-01 02:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by fuziukhp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that if you hook up with an alcoholic or a junkie, you take on all of their problems too. Only he can give it up if he's ready and wants to. Its a shame when you hear "He's the nicest person you could ever wish to meet - if he's sober."
Only persevere with this relationship if you really love him, and you want to spend your time with him. If he had the problems long before he met you, it will be harder to help him. You can only try to persuade him, but remember he might see you as a nag.
Encouraging him to seek help for depression can only be a good thing.
2006-08-01 02:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is down to him wanting to quit, there is nothing you can do unless he is willing to stop!
I use to smoke it but eventually had to quit for work reasons, i wanted to at the time cause i relised all the negatives. Just keep pointing them, hopefully he will take them on board and do it for him self if not you!(nagging him). Good luck!
A holiday helped me (stopped me thinking about it for a few weeks)
2006-08-01 02:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Macka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can be made to realise that it is very likely his smoking which is causing the depression, lack of drive and mood swings, then maybe he'll start to help you help him.
2006-08-01 02:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by Jooles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no chance unless he wants to. does he say he wants to give up or is it what you want? the green is why he is depressed, there has been a massive increase over the last few years of people having mental health problems smoking skunk, believe or not it is more people than have problems with heroin or crack
2006-08-01 02:26:08 · answer #9 · answered by minesanarf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he want to stop? Because if he doesnt.....give it up its not going to happen. I would encourage him to seek counseling for the depression & temper...he probably wont though but you can try. Id give up the "green" fight though he will stop when hes ready which may be never. It may take some serious consequenses to get him to realize its not good for him but other than that.......its not your fight.
2006-08-01 02:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by Coyote 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋