I have been like this with my Fiance for the past 12 months. We have been seeing each other for 9 years.
2006-08-01 02:02:32 · 12 answers · asked by LOAJP 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes you can. Try this if you like, make a list of all the good points and bad points about your relationship. See which scores the highest. Then try and see yourselves in five years time. Where are you living, what are you doing, where are you working, things like that. Then place your fiance in the picture, does he fit? are you happy and comfortable with him being there in the same context as he is now or would you rather he was a friend? Or would you rather he be some where else totally? Only you have the answers. I have been in this situation with the self same questions. When you know the answers then you will know what to do. I hope every thing works out for you.
2006-08-01 02:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely! I was in a relationship for 9 years and definately didn't fancy him for at least the last 4. The 'love' you feel is habitual and convenient, like you stay together because it is easy and you are used to it. But, if you are happy enough with that then I guess stick with it?
2006-08-01 02:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by SadCheatedOnGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel,i was with someone for 12 years and we were best friends but thats all it was in the end,we split up and it was the best thing for both of us.
i miss him sometimes cos he was a big part of my life but i have a new partner and a baby now and i'm happier then i've ever been.
2006-08-01 02:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love someone and not fancy them...I mean do you fancy your mum? That's loving someone and not fancying them. Anyway, I think that being able to fancy someone you love is important...but there are more than one way to be attracted to someone, be it looks or personality or something they do...obviously looks isnt the one that attracts you to him..
2006-08-01 02:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes very much so, a lot of people in long term relationships feel exactly the same way as you.
2006-08-01 02:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by xXMichelleXx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes without a doubt
2006-08-01 02:14:15 · answer #6 · answered by Ã?â?¥Ã?ÄPixie Queen~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my daughters, but I don't fancy them. Does that count?
2006-08-01 04:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by geminipetelondon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very much possible...its happening with me for last 9 years.
2006-08-01 02:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by ashutosh s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you mean you still love him but your not attracted to him any more... if so this is possibl the fire kind of dies of you can love some one with all your heart and not be attracted to them..
2006-08-01 02:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys need to spice it up and discover new things, but I guess it's a normal stage
2006-08-01 02:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by Guillaumeb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋