Here is my problem, I have been told for most of my life that I would need help getting pregnant. I have problems and only one ovary. I was married in Feb of this year and started a new job in Jan. I found out last month that I’m pregnant! It’s a miracle to me, I’m 29 and to just get pregnant out of the blue is just amazing! But we were not planning on trying to have kids for about 2 or 3 years. Here is the problem, my coworker and boss are unhappy that I’m pregnant. My co worker will not talk to me unless spoken to and is telling everyone behind my back that she is unhappy about this. I went to my boss and she said to tell the truth she is not happy about it either! Before I was hired here my position went unfilled for about 4months. This coworker had to do my job and her own. My boss said it was horrible for both of them and they are not looking forward to be being out for 6weeks. Now I’m not going to be out till MARCH of next year! This has been going on for 3weeks now. My boss said I needed to understand where they are coming from. I wish I had not told anyone but cant undue that! And I know my coworker who has been married for 9years wants to have a baby, I don’t know if she is also upset that she hasn’t gotten pregnant and I am. I was tiptoeing around her for the 1st 2weeks but now I’m getting sick of this and she has started telling my boss my work is slacking! I do not know for sure that it was her who told this but I’m 99% sure it was. I have had horrible morning sickness and extreme fatigue but I have not missed a day at work. I do not believe my work has suffered but I think it’s understandable if I’m running to the restroom several times a day that I’m not going to be at my desk always and I may not get as much done. I have lost 6pounds in the last 2weeks from being sick and not being able to eat, and this stress isn’t helping. How do I handle this situation?
2006-08-01 01:46:06 · 28 answers · asked by sullie812 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
First off, it doesn't matter if they are upset because they can't fire you for being pregnant. Law states they have to give you your job back when you return from leave.
There is nothing they can do about it BECAUSE it is the law.
For your boss, is there any one higher? I would speak to them if need be. If they are trying to make things miserable for you where you are to the point where you want to quit, get a lawyer.
I know your boss wants you to see where she is coming from, but no job is worth not having a family that you want to have.
If it gets really bad, after you have your child and go back to work, maybe look for something else!
2006-08-01 01:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to say the first person is right, QUIT.
You want the baby but if you are losing weight due to stress and you only have one ovary then you have bigger concerns than work. You are in danger of a miscarriage or a tubal pregnancy. Think of your own safety and the safety of your child first and money second.
Since I think you want a legal answer here, I will give you this advice, get a lawyer and get this out in the open. It may go away if you do so. Then again it may queer any case against and any relationships you may have with the people where you work.
At any rate, go see an obstetrician and look into your diet. You should not be losing weight. And stress is a bad thing, avoid it. The peeing will ease in a little bit and then it will keep you up at night. The nausea and gas will continue but there are anacids and crackers for that. Remember you have a life outside of work so focus on that.
2006-08-01 02:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE!!! you think this situation will not increase future arguements?
You know what another problem is? your boss and co worker are WOMEN!!!
you know the type that talk trash behind your back and while your away taking care of your children that your "werent" supposed to have. I say leave, if you can financial afford it, and get another job somewhere else. You should be taking care of your children and make sure they grow into great people and not some white trash child everyone looks at and says "Product of their own environment". You dont need this stress and especially during pregnancy. You must think to yourself, if these people are not going to support you when you need it most in this "miracle" of yours how can you work together?
Forget'em, there are plenti of jobs for you if you look hard enough after giving birth to your health beautiful child!
2006-08-01 01:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by redirus92 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your boss. Tell her how you are being treated is unfair. You don'y need this stress. This maybe your only chance to get pregnant and you are not getting any younger. You don't need the stress and if this form of HARASSMENT continues you might want to seek an attorney and see what your best options maybe. CONGRATS to you and your baby on the way! I really hope that everything works out for you!
2006-08-01 01:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take care of yourself. If your Boss is upset to the point of being unable to work with you then you might need to start looking for another position. This is a very special time for you and you don't need them ruining it for you. Your co-worker has something very basically wrong with her if she cannot accept the facts and treat you like a human being. Sounds like she is being abusive, and you don't have to take it. Tell her about it and make a complaint if she doesn't get her act together. If your boss is treating you unfairly then you should go to her supervisor, if she has one, or just tell her that you do not care for being a target and she needs to direct her anger somewhere else. Be straight. Be upfront. If they don't want to work with you then you reallly have no future there anyway.
2006-08-01 01:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Cattlemanbob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to them that it was unplanned and that you had been told by doctors that you couldn't get pregnant without medical assistance. Emphasize that you will be at work until you are about to go into delivery and that you will be returning after wards. Maybe you can do some work at home while on pregnancy leave.
It sounds like they are being unreasonable, just in case, look for a new job.
2006-08-01 01:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by laetusatheos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all they can't treat you like crap for being pregnant. It's against the law you are covered under the Americans with disabilities act!! It is just shameful that they make you feel this way. Personally I'd tell them where to stick it but you probably like the job or you wouldn't still be there. If there is some sort of human resources director complain to them. No one deserves to be treated that way and they need to keep their personal feelings about something you couldn't control to themselves!!
2006-08-01 01:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by zara01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can not fire you, lay you off or make you so miserable you quit. There are laws against that kind of treatment.
They should be celebrating your pregnancy & helping you out.
Since they are not, you need to look into whats best for you.
Your sick right now, that won't last long, soon you will be feeling great & begin to enjoy your pregnancy.
Working with jealous women is never fun, you need to make a chioce either deal with the stress or leave that job.
Remember stress in never good for the baby.
Good Luck.
2006-08-01 02:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are clearly stressed out by the length of your question! But, hey, forget about it... enjoy the fact that you're going to have a baby!! That is way cool. My kids are young adults (16, 18, 21, 22) and I would do the young mom thing all over again in a split second!
As for your job, be the BEST employee they have ever had... ever! Go out of your way to be happy and helpful. Clean and decorate the office, bring in cookies, get your work done accurately and superbly. Become an indispensable employee.
Most of all, be happy about your pregnancy. Congratulations!!
2006-08-01 02:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!! Take care of yourself. As for your situation, do your work better than you have ever done it. Show them what the little lady is made of. Might not be a bad idea to be looking for another job while you are out...hmmmm?
As for your boss and coworker not liking the fact that you are pregnant, how in the known universe is it any business of theirs? It is not up to them to dictate when, where, how, or what you do with your life!!
I think their core problem is having to do additional work (slackers) during your absence.
Good luck doll baby!!
2006-08-01 01:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by reynwater 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋