if i find my wife cheating wat should i do?

Answer 1

get therapy if you want to save the marriage, if not, get a divorce

Answer 2

Can you live with it? Don't count on it stopping. Are you better off with her or without her? Are you ready for an open relationship? Deep down, is it your possessiveness that is offended or your feelings? Cheating isn't always about "love," sex, or anything but a spur of the moment insanity. Only you can tell if what has happened will ruin what has been. If it is broken and can't be put back together, then get the hell out of the deal...it ain't gonna get better. IF deep down it doesn't really matter, then leave things alone, keep your mouth shut, don't try to punish her (SHE will leave if you pull that crap). Know that there is nothing that can be done to undo it. Realize that part of it MAY be your fault (it may not be, only you can answer this), and if you decide to stay, then really work it out..don't play like you have. If you can't, part on good terms. She didn't plan on this happening any more than you would have had the shoe been on the other foot. And, in reality, she may not want to stay..there is always that possibility, isn't there. My advice is..if this is going to cause you real pain for a very long time, leave now. Don't punish yourself, it will get in the way of success in life. I really do wish you the best of luck. Just know that things will never be the same between you two..it could get a lot better, it could just fall apart. That is up to you as a couple.

Answer 3

It depends how she's cheating on you. Have you got proof or are you suspicious? Here's a few ideas that may point to her cheating on you.

Is she spending more time on the computer (particularly when you're asleep).
Your wife seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy"
You get calls but there's no-one on the other end.
She has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.
She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
Does your wife freak out over simple questions
Does she suddenly seem to be doing an awful lot of shopping? Is she gone for hours only to return with maybe 1 bag or nothing at all?

And that's just for starters. If you're worried then there are ways to catch her without her knowing. Have a look at this site it might give you some ideas on how to go about catching her red handed.

Answer 4

Observations needed. Is she a housewife? career lady? Housewife - Firstly, ask urself, anything that u've annoyed her? R u good enought in ur sex life? Financially provided 2 her? Or is she always being left alone for u've 2 be out b4 dawn & back with a tiresome body late at night? - Secondly, has she lost interest & trust in u? This is what u've 2 do - (Remember, this is what u've asked - "If I find" - only but not confirm., so, have a check on her & see who's she always around with. The places she always goes. How is her spending - over spent or much, much more than b4? The phone is always ringing & none is urs! - Career lady - Is she always on appointment? Any eye contacts or body languages 2 other men? Has she accompanied u 2 important functions (If she has 2b with u)? Is she secretive & excited when her mobile phone rings? Only when u've proof that all these r true, u really need 2 talk 2 her. Either u make the decision or 2 give her A chance! If the 1st is ur answer - let her go. If u still luv her deep in ur heart, then, take the 2nd. Lead her the correct way & win back her heart (For mostly, women, who have lost something & found it back from someone, she lost her directions too!). Is it that ezy & simple? Wishing u **** luck.

Answer 5

That question! " 'if' I find my wife cheating what should I do?"

Did something change? her way of dressing, habits, the manner in which she talks to you? Does she stay out until two in the morning with 'friends'? If you said no to any of these questions then maybe you have to much time on your hands! Why don't you ask your wife out on a date?
see what happens? Quit being paranoid!

Answer 6

Divorce

Answer 7

Don't walk around worrying about the what if's. It will drive you crazy. Trust her until she gives you reason not to. You sound insecure, get some counseling or you stand a chance of running your wife off.

Answer 8

you would have 2 options
1)find out why she cheated on you and try and work it out by getting councelling
2)get a divorce normally once they cheat always a cheat

Answer 9

Well I wouldn't be happy if I were you, but don't do anything that you would regret later. I would ask her why? Then do what ever you feel you have to do, like leave or tell her you want a divorce or whatever is on your mind. I feel for you.. If you need a friend to talk to just email me - [e-mail]..

Answer 10

well if you found her cheating on you you are the blame for not being there for her and if you let it get to that point you must of did some thing in your marriage for her to cheat on you so i think you need to divorce her and go on in your life

Answer 11

Find out why she is cheating. Apparently, there is something wrong in your relationship, she is looking for a missing piece. If you love her work it out. Find out what she needs...it will either break you or make you both stronger.