Here is my problem, I have been told for most of my life that I would need help getting pregnant. I have problems and only one ovary. I was married in Feb of this year and started a new job in Jan. I found out last month that I’m pregnant! It’s a miracle to me, I’m 29 and to just get pregnant out of the blue is just amazing! But we were not planning on trying to have kids for about 2 or 3 years. Here is the problem, my coworker and boss are unhappy that I’m pregnant. My co worker will not talk to me unless spoken to and is telling everyone behind my back that she is unhappy about this. I went to my boss and she said to tell the truth she is not happy about it either! Before I was hired here my position went unfilled for about 4months. This coworker had to do my job and her own. My boss she it was horrible for both of them and they are not looking forward to be being out for 6weeks. Now I’m not going to be out till MARCH of next year! This has been going on for 3weeks now. I wish I had not told anyone but cant undue that! And I know my coworker who has been married for 9years wants to have a baby, I don’t know if she is also upset that she hasn’t gotten pregnant and I am. I was tiptoeing around her for the 1st 2weeks but now I’m getting sick of this and she has started telling my boss my work is slacking! I do not know for sure that it was her who told this but I’m 99% sure it was. I have had horrible morning sickness and extreme fatigue but I have not missed a day at work. I do not believe my work has suffered but I think it’s understandable if I’m running to the restroom several times a day that I’m not going to be at my desk and I may not get as much done. How do I handle this situation?
2006-08-01 01:41:16 · 16 answers · asked by sullie812 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Wow. It sounds like they need to grow up and work on using the time that they have before you go on maternity leave to plan!
Talk to your boss about ways that you can help make things easier during your time off. What can you complete ahead of time? Can you train a temp to fill in for you for 6 weeks? Can you duties be split among several people for the time that you are off? Be the bigger person and try to get them thinking about ways to SOLVE the problem instead of focusing on how bad they expect it to be.
2006-08-01 01:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1
2016-12-20 18:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I didnt think that we would be able to get pregnant again. After only trying a few months I got pregnant. I came in to work all excited and all my co worker could say was...."I hope your baby is born in January where I don't miss my March vacation. I already missed my vacation this year in March" (that was due to the fact her hubby had a heart attack) Anyway my baby isn't due until March 4th and would be way to early if she got her wish. Needless to say I have been very bothered by her comments lately. The only way I have found to deal with it is to know that no matter what her comments are I will have the greatest reward in the end because rather she likes it or not I will have a wonderful new baby in MARCH.
2006-08-01 04:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well than you need to get another job or stick it out and know that you have rights! They can't pressure you like that. It is wrong. If they are worried about your position not being filled, then they are not running the company very well. Good companies have a back up plan! Don't let them get you down. And you told them far enough in advance that they should be able to work it out when it is time for you to be home. Your baby is more important than this job!
2006-08-01 02:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by sputmonkey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, congratulations, having a baby is a miracle, do not stress yourself out. Now to business.
1) They are p/off that they will have to carry your workload while you are out
2) Your co-worker is p/off that you got pregnant first and now its not appropriate for her to try and get pregnant
3) You must get legal advise, you can go see someone in legal aid or even the department of labor or department of fair trading.
4) Your co-worker is saying your work is slipping so they have reason to fire you, don't give them a reason, keep a record of the work you do, the time you get in, the time you leave and the times you have lunch. Keep a record of everything they say to you with dates and times, trust me you will need this and you will remember my words. They will do anything they can now to make you look bad, you need to start receording this with a lawyer or with yourself. b Every inappropriate thing they say.
Good Luck
2006-08-01 02:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Freckles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like yu haev a case for labour relations...they have no right to make your life miserable just because you are pregnant. You need to sit down with your boss and sort this out now...you don't need the stress in your life. They are lucky that you don't live in Canada...You get a year paid (by unempoyment) maternity/parental leave...Its only 6 weeks...I'm sure that they can deal with it.
2006-08-01 04:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them both to f*ck off. That's pathetic. You're pregnant for crying out loud. They sound like selfish @$$holes is you ask me. If I were you I'd stand up for myself and tell them either they stop treating you poorly or you'll quit and they will have a lot more then those 6 weeks of maternity leave to worry about. Pregnancy is a wonderful thing. Don't let them tell you otherwise or make you feel otherwise. If it really comes down to it, I'd quit because you don't deserve to be treated like that just beacuse your pregnant. Id make it clear to them that you're not going to deal with their attitudes and immaturity surrounding the issue and you will quit if it continues. Best of luck to you and don't take their crap. That's insane.
2006-08-01 01:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by ktpb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thats ridiculous... having a baby is supposed to be a happy thing... there being selfish they need to get over themselves and start supporting you... if they werent so busy talking behind your back maybe you guys can work together and come up with a plan for when you will not be there.. honestly i dont think you should take any of there crap confront them and let them know how you feel.. they should be working with you now against... and this is sure not a time to be stressed!
2006-08-01 02:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is alot of jobs out there and very few chances of being a mom!!!! They are just jealous and ignorant keep doing what you are doing and think about this baby you are working for you and this family!!! Remember, whatever happens it was meant to be. Please though if you dont do anything else please dont get stressed out over this, its not good for the baby and who is more worth it those lil bi**ches or your lil baby
2006-08-01 01:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by â?¥á?¦á?¦â?¥ CRISSY â?¥á?¦á?¦â?¥ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have found out from revel in that if you happen to cannot believe them now , then you can under no circumstances be equipped to believe them . And if you happen to cannot believe them ; you then do not want them . Trust is an excessively essential facet of a courting and with out believe it is going to under no circumstances figure out . Sorry !!
2016-08-28 14:37:09 · answer #10 · answered by alienello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋