When you first came out or even just admitted it to yourself did you find you became highly sexualy charged and found yourself acting like some kind of ****, this happened to me and now i feel ashamed of my behaviour and some of things i have been thinking,hopfully i can now grow up a bit and settle into my new bi lifestyle just wondered if this is common or am i really just a bad person.
2006-08-01 01:36:19 · 17 answers · asked by sister 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Nah its really common. When you discover this new side of yourself you wanna explore it as much as possible so tart it around a bit!!!
2006-08-01 01:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by OriginalBubble 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
yes, I think most ppl go through this when they first come out. You feel liberated (for some), and it's all new and exciting. From my own experience and for Lot's of ppl I know, you sleep around quite a bit and then you find someone you really like and you settle down (a bit). Most of my male gay friends haven't settled, they just little sluts and loving it! It doesn't matter how many ppl you sleep with as long as you are enjoying it and your happy!
2006-08-01 06:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Chez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine, and you shouldn't feel guilty. It was just
a stage in your life. You don't have to answer to anybody. It is a common thing that people sleep around, and likely more so when they discover the gay scene and want to be a part of it. There's always going to be people who have been more of a **** then you! Myself, I have felt bad after a one night stand that didn't go so well - I guess it's just a learning process :)
2006-08-01 07:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by SonicBoom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first came out I had a lot of sex. I'm still having a lot of sex. I can tell you now that I will never be monogamous.
I was raised Catholic and wasted the first half of my life on repression, fear, and guilt. I am sure as hell never ever going back to that.
I love being slutty. I love sex. I'm a hell of a lover. I see no reason to deny myself or restrict myself. a S L U T is just someone who is having more sex then other busy bodies want her to have and I've stopped living my life for my nosy neighbors and tsking church ladies.
For all the sex I've had, public or private, in relationships or one night stands, plain or with accessories, I've never disrespected my partners. I've never used anyone. I've never abused anyone. I've rarely lied to anyone (hey no one is a saint here).
A couple years ago a guy came to defend me against homophobes on an online board we both frequented. He said "In matters of the heart, as most things, take the risks and be proud of your scars" and that's what I've done. Even the people I probably shouldn't have slept with, I'm still proud of because those experiances made me who I am. To deny them is to deny parts of myself and to hate them or regret them is only serving to hate myself. And f*ck that sh*t, life is way to short for that low self esteem crap.
I think you should ditch the "woe is me I'm a bad person" riff and focus on how your past made you into the awesome person you are now.
2006-08-01 04:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darling stop being hard on yourself. you've done nothing wrong pet, you're just allowing yourself to be you at long last.
you've got one life, enjoy it, u is wot u is.
i doubt youre a bad person, u obviously have a conscience, possibly your conscience is making you feel guilty for enjoying yourself, when u neednt be feeling guilty. if you knew wot i got up to when i first came out...and i dont regret any of it now, though i used to and there was no need to regret or feel guilty.
its ok to be u chuk, most of us have urges you know, its arl gravy baby, hunky dory, easy as pi...thats 22 divided by 7 by the way ;o)
to answer your question, yes i did feel highly sexed when i came out, i only wish ad kept having fun rather than just trying to find a partner. my downfall was i got serious when i should have just continued to let my hair down ;o)
love yourself sister, you have the enviable gift of being able to love both sexes.
peace love n hugs swot xxxxx
2006-08-01 12:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by swot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't do that but I wouldn't say it's not normal. Define normal. All people are different and react different ways.
I did want to be part of the GLBTQ community though. That was before I had to defend being bisexual to a gay guy. Jerk. You live you learn right. I've always been a very sexual person anyways. Guess I didn't need it.
2006-08-01 04:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you describe is the process of discovering yourself. Its perfectly natural to want to explore suddenly what you've suppressed for a great deal of your life. As long as you didn't rape, or deliberately hurt someone, then there's nothing to feel ashamed of. Even the most conservative of people have their dark hidden secrets from the past/present/future.
2006-08-01 10:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to you is the same experience that most newbies go through when they first come out . There is so much that they have wanted to experience and to learn they all want to learn it as soon as possible . Don't sweat it we have all been there at one time or another .
2006-08-01 02:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first couple of answers. Its normal, and not "bad" but if continued it may be "bad for you." You need to learn to focus your love!
Have a great life, and never let anybody tell you you are a bad person.
2006-08-01 01:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes to your fist question and no to your last one. I think it is normal you are new to the acceptance of your orientation and you are anxious to try it all to make sure and you may go overboard. It is OK you are still a good person just go and sin no more. hehe
2006-08-01 01:40:22 · answer #10 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋