My friend works for a great company. She has recently come on to some hard times in the last few months and just recently had a utilities disaster that is going to cost about $2,000.00 to fix. She called me last night and told me that the other day her boss came up to her and told her the department was going to get together to do a fundraiser for her an was going to see if her company would match whatever they made. Well here is what she is fighting with. She has never been one to ask for charity and she is always willing to help others. But, she does not know how to act, what to say, what to do with this information. She would rather just make it on her own but she appreciates the generosity of the whole company. These fundraising events are usualy pretty lucrative, plus the company match she may not have to out of pocket anything. Help me tell her if you think it would be ok to turn down the help, or just smile and deal and tell me how to tell her how to deal with it.
2006-08-01 01:25:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take the help and always be prepared to do the same. This is the action of a company that greatly values her.
2006-08-01 01:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, that's a tough one. What a nice thing for them to do but if I were her I'd tell them no thanks. Her coworkers will think of her as the poor girl who couldn't pay her bills every time they see her, even years from now. Why should her financial situation be known to everyone in the company? If I were her I'd talk to her boss about an advance on her pay instead of this fundraiser. Also if they do the fundraiser and make lots of money for her she is going to feel obligated to those people and the company and when she eventually wants to get a new job she'll feel guilty leaving. She'll become the company doormat without even realizing it.
And for future, she should keep her personal problems out of the office if she doesn't want people to know about it. Rule #1: NEVER talk about your personal finances with your coworkers. Big mistake!
2006-08-01 01:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by brainchild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should be grateful that she has a workplace that cares so much about the people that work there. No one likes to take a handout but in this case shince you said she is always helping others I think she should let someone help her. She is on the good end of Karma because what goes around comes around and she must be an amazingly good person!!!
2006-08-01 01:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the pride get in the way. This is a blessing for her and she should accept it with gratitude. It's hard sometimes when you would rather do things by yourself. You don't want to make it seem that you have to depend on anyone. That's fine. But don't get too hard where you won't accept anything. Tell her to thank God because it's him working. She's being blessed. I hope everything works out for her!
2006-08-01 01:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by pammajamma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend she should not deny others the opportunity of giving to help someone they love. They are not being forced to give to her, they WANT to give. Remember "it's more blessed to give than to receive?" Let them give and get a blessing. She should be happy that they think so much of her; and humbled by their gift. Later on when she is on her feet, she will be able to pass on this blessing to someone else in need. She must be a fantastic person. God Bless.
2006-08-01 01:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings just come. They are not controlled, nor turned on or off like a faucet. I'd tell her that what goes around comes around and her helping others is coming around to her and you hope she has the ability within her to accept it. AND thereby have the energy and resources to keep helping others. It's what the world is about.
2006-08-01 01:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a pride issue for her, but people *want* to help her because they like her and want to show her that they care. By the same token, it makes THEM feel good, too! It's sort of like a special gift that someone is excited to give you... you don't just give it back.
2006-08-01 01:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that it is great of them to offer their assistance... and i think i would just tell them thankyou and except the help...and be appreciative..sometimes what goes around comes around..so sometime you may have the chance to help someone else..i see the other side too, but they have made this gesture and i would not turn it down...
2006-08-01 01:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never say no to help because then others will think that you think you are too good for help and it will make others feel bad. then one day when you really do need help, no one will want to give it.
2006-08-01 01:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn it down. The money they are giving here can go to someone that really needs it
2006-08-01 01:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by researchtissue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋