Ok this happened to my brother but he didn't quite know how to handle it so he asked me. His wife's (of 3yrs) laptop was in the shop so she was using his computer. Later that night as he was messaging me he found a folder on his computer with porn pics of women (mostly girl-girl). Since he and his wife are the only two people who use his computer she obviously put them there. His wife has always been completely straight. He is worried. The thing is his wife always tells my wife their sex life is great and as our wives are best friends I hardly believe she is lying. I told him to just plain talk to his wife but he is afraid that she is going to leave him. What should I do? Should I talk to his wife for him? (I think thats a bad idea.)
2006-08-01 01:18:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yep first off your idea is a very wrong idea. he should be the one talking to his own. second, prolly the way she had this folder could be a way that when her husband is not at home, she enjoys to watch porn. it could be a secret that shes keepin her own which doesnt mean shes interest in girls. Also as long you said she talked to your wife and told her that her sexual life was great, as long shes watching porn, maybe is a way to learn more stuff or just things that she wants to experiment. tell your brother to be more sexual talkative with her wife so he can find whats going on with her watchin this.
prolly he would end up happy at the last lol
2006-08-01 01:31:05 · answer #1 · answered by *live,laugh,love* 2 · 15⤊ 4⤋
does your brother think think that women shouldn't have fantasies? The simple answer is his wife likes girl/girl thoughts and images and it turns her on. The more complicated answer is that she is fooling, or planning to fool around with another woman. If it's just for the turn on your brother has to put himself in her place. How would he like to be quizzed and made public on every fantasy and thought that turned him on? He wouldn't. The most I would do is "find" the pictures and ask my wife if I could enjoy the images and thoughts "with her". I never would have told you and I suggest you don't tell anyone else. Just because she is straight does not mean she can't have a thought or two about being bisexual. I have even though I have never acted out the thought.
Let it rest for your brothers sake.
Tom
2006-08-01 01:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk for him. If they have a good relationship they should be able to talk about anything. Maybe it's just a fantasy. Doesn't mean she is going to leave him. He should talk to her and tell her what he found on his computer. Maybe she put it there on purpose so he could find it. Why else would she save it in a folder on HIS computer? Think about it. There may be a simple reason why she did it. I think it's stupid that he's afraid that she'll leave him for this. If he feels this way, then maybe there's more to the story.
2006-08-01 01:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your brother not to worry and have a good talk with his wife. Maybe that will lead to a better relationship.
2006-08-01 01:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't talk to his wife for him. If anything, you could get your wife to talk to her since they are best friends. It seems like perhaps she is bi-curious. It may be a phase, or it may suggest she is starting to have feelings toward women. For his sake, he needs to find out. Ask him how he feels about your wife talking to her.
2006-08-01 01:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should talk to his wife and find out what is going on. Maybe she is curious that's all. Good Luck
2006-08-01 01:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the number one male fantasy is to have two women at once.. perhaps she is thinking of pleasing him?
2006-08-01 01:25:54 · answer #7 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to talk to his wife not you this is between them.And to be honest she may seem straight but have you ever heard of a closet gay?Or she could just be curious thats all.The only way your brother will ever know is to talk to her
2006-08-01 01:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should run around the house screaming at the top of his lungs! Yipee! Hooray!!
2006-08-01 01:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by ready4it45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it would be embarrassing to her if you "knew" about it. Let him handle it. She may just have some fantasies, or be a bit curious. again...that's his discussion. You should butt out completely too. If they choose to pursue "other" avenues....you don't want to know about it.....nunya
2006-08-01 01:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋