2006-08-01 01:17:12 · 23 answers · asked by Krix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have two kids under 4, and we have not made love since number two came along. I want to desperately, she looks great but finds it sore even after 18 months. I need to feel close to her again, but she is too tired and is afraid. She has seen the doc and they say give it time. i'm going blind. Thanks for the responses
2006-08-01 04:13:15 · update #1
If you want to have a sex life with your partner, then talk to her. If you are happily married in other areas of married life, then try to stimulate your partner towards your wish. If not, then find somebody else.
2006-08-01 01:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by dotab 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've heard the jokes about no sex happening after a few years of marriage. Its true though. Because with monogamy comes monotony. The humdrum of responsibility really does have a bearing on how your wife is feeling. Maybe shes bored with it all; thats why shes lost her oomph.
Try to woo your wife again. Make her feel like she's more than just a house wife and mother. Because believe it or not, it does grind us down, the everyday chores we get sick and tired with.
If you can get a babysitter, take her out, romance her, surprise her and let her know shes still sexy. Even a weekend away.
Let her know you love her, and don't treat sex as just another thing you HAVE to do. Make her want to. Don't forget the foreplay, its just as important (as you know).
Rekindle the passion, before you need a white stick and stunt your growth too. ha
2006-08-03 15:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people live together there is no sense of excitement or spontaneity. A woman can elect to wear lingerie even she usually sleeps nude, its still the same coochie.
Sex games and toys are a great way to add excitement.
Think about it, if your wife isn't making moves on you, you have probably become redundant or repetitive in your performance as well.
Be careful when bringing new suggestions into the bedroom. woman often think that men have experimented with someone new and is now trying to reenact it.
Magazines have good articles regarding ways of keeping marriages or relationships alive.
2006-08-01 08:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by nubianbx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happily married without any sex? Sex isn't the end all be all of a relationship but if there is no physical intimacy between you two how can you be fulfilled? Try some couples therapy. Maybe try some role playing games (if your adventurous) or even try watching porn (if u like it). But if the two of you are happy without sex then I guess there is no problem. Right?
2006-08-01 08:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by woodybmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently having lots of short session sex is the way to get your sex life back on track. Ask your partner if they fancy a quicky, there's no pressure ot perform and everyone can find a spare 5/10/15/20 minutes.
2006-08-01 08:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by ralphseviltwin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Who has an issue with Libido, you haven't been very specific in your question to illicit an accurate response. Is there an underlying issue with one partner wanting sex etc and the other not? or is it balanced fairly equally, where neither of you do? If neither do, but you are quite happy otherwise, why upset any apple carts? But the fact you are asking the question tells me, that deep down you are wanting....
2006-08-01 08:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by SunnyDays 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be happily married then??? Isn't sex part of marriage??? Or did I miss something here??? You better reassess your marriage. Or are you happy without the sex??? Do you have no working hormones??? Why don't you make an appointment with your doctor???
2006-08-01 08:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you don't require the amount of sex that is more than you are getting. I once heard a person say, "if you have an excellent sex life, in your marriage, it equates to 10% of your marriage satisfaction. However, if you have a bad sex life in your marriage, it equates to 90% of your marriage satisfaction." Take the steps to increase your happiness! Good Luck
2006-08-01 08:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think back to the days when you were just hitting puberty and no girls liked you. What did you do? You turned to thee ol' hairy palm of course. Um...is your wife hot? Maybe you need to make her feel sexy or something...or maybe she turned lez? Or she could be dating the pool boy. But lets not get all homicidle just yet...try the first method then you can end up on the news...good luck.
2006-08-01 08:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by zetser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you and your spouse? How long have you been married? You can be happily married with no sex if you've been married over 30 years or so. If it's okay with both of you, fine.
2006-08-01 08:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋