how to not lose my temper?

Answer 1

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In this technology enriched society we find ourselves in, there will always be perplexities. Therefore, any answer may or may not meet your expectations. But you could just look up at the sky, wishing a birdie doesn't crap in your face, causing youto lose your temper. Do you understand?

Answer 2

People who have short tempers usually have an underlying problem. Counseling can help you work on that to solve the long term problems... Or even calmly addressing problems of issues calmly with THE PERSON(s) THAT YOU HAVE THE ISSUE WITH as soon as the issue occurs...but again CALMLY will help.

Also don't be afraid of crying. If you get that emotional, don't get angry with that person or with yourself that you are emotional. Just let it loose.

Short term answers could be to take deep breaths (when angry), exercise responsibly, eat a healthy diet (uh huh very important with moods too) and ofcourse get good sleep.

Ease that tension, get a massage. Not enough money? No one to do it for you? Get a damn handball, lay it on a mat and rub your body all over on top of it. It helps. May even make you laugh. You can also buy an electric massager.

Other mood boosters go shopping, not with credit cards...with actual money...lol we dont want a shopaholic. Buy some new clothes, change that image inside out. New haircut.

Take more baths and less showers. Use water softeners, bubble baths and so on. More scents in your life can help. Burn aroma candles, they look beautiful and smell great.

Make a numbered list of everything negative that happened to you. cry if you must. scream in a pillow. hit a pillow and pretend its the person u r mad at. write a letter to some person that angered you then rip it up. go back to your list and try to find something positive that came out of it or try to think of something you can make positive out of it...if u cant thats ok... then write your lists of positives. your positive list will have to beat your negative list. people often forget to put the obvious like the fact that they are living, that they have loved ones, maybe they were socially promoted to the public high school system. hey theres positives everywhere but you have to find them.

one million things to help you not lose your temper are out there. no 1 being... find out why you are losing your temper in the 1st place.

Im tired of typing. I hope I helped. Good bye.

Answer 3

If you're too angry to think rationally, remove yourself from the situation.
Give yourself a few quiet minutes alone to cool down. Think of something relaxing.
When you feel your body relax, take a few deep breaths.
Return to the original situation and try a different approach.


If your new approach doesn't help you stay in control of your temper, repeat steps 1-4
Tips:
Find something that relaxes you (music, skateboarding, drawing, etc.) and do it regularly.
If you've got a problem with someone, don't hold it inside, let him/her know about it.
Here are some tips that have really worked in numerous cases. You may try these as well:

Take a "time out." Count to 10 before reacting or leave the situation altogether.
Do something physically exerting. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets, for example.
Find ways to calm and soothe yourself. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "take it easy." You can also listen to music, paint, journal or do yoga.
Express your anger as soon as possible so that you aren't left stewing. If you can't express your anger in a controlled manner to the person who angered you, try talking to a family member, friend, counselor or another trusted person.
Think carefully before you say anything so that you don't end up saying something you'll regret.
Work with the person who angered you to identify solutions to the situation.
Use "I" statements when describing the problem to avoid criticizing or placing blame. For instance, say "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework." To do otherwise will likely upset the other person and escalate tensions.
Don't hold a grudge. Forgive the other person. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.
Use humor to defuse your anger, such as imagining yourself or the other person in silly situations. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's just another form of unhealthy expression.
Keep an anger log to identify the kinds of situations that set you off and to monitor your reactions.
You can practice many of these strategies on your own. But if your anger seems out of control, is hurting your relationships or has escalated into violence, you may benefit from seeing a psychotherapist or an anger management professional. Role playing in controlled situations, such as anger management classes, can help you practice your techniques.


Keep at it

It may take some time and intense effort to put these tips into practice when you're facing situations that typically send you into a rage. In the heat of the moment, it can be hard to remember your coping strategies.

You may need to keep something with you that serves as a reminder to step back from the situation and get your anger under control. For instance, you may want to keep a small, smooth stone in your pocket or a scrap of paper with your tips written down. With due diligence, these anger management techniques will come more naturally and you'll no longer need such reminders

Answer 4

Some simple steps you can try:

* Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won't relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your "gut."

* Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it easy." Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.

* Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination.

* Nonstrenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.

Practice these techniques daily. Learn to use them automatically when you're in a tense situation.

Answer 5

Seek counseling if it interferes in your relayionships, career, and/or friends and associates. If this is the case there are no quick solutions. It is something you would have to work through to find out what causes this self destructive behavior.

Answer 6

try taking a deap breathe and walk into ur room or something or going for a walk or just getting away from the person who made u mad.

Answer 7

count to ten if you are about to lose your temper. if that doesnot work count to 100.

Answer 8

Exercise to let off tension.

Answer 9

Pay close attention to your breathing.

Answer 10

"Since you are the only one who can lose it, it must be you who finds and keeps it."