iam in love with a guy of my choice the guy also loves me but he cannot get married to me because his parents?
iam in love with a guy of my choice the guy also loves me he is working in abroad but he cannot get married to me because of his parents, as his parents does not like me and they want him to get married to the girl of they choice and the guy doesnot want to go against his parents at they old age and he loves his parents but then i loves me too.
And thereby he suggest me to get married to somebody else .
what can i do ?
2006-08-01 00:48:00 · 13 answers · asked by angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
marry someone else.
2006-08-01 00:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First he doesn't love you. Love would make him do anything in this case since he cannot go against his parents then he does not love you.
Second why would he get married to some girl he doesn't love without asking his parents to consider his feelings?
Third If you could just move on and not think about him because he had actually asked you to get married to someone else, go ahead but first and foremost before getting involved with someone else please take some time before getting into another relationship. Seeing that you want to get married make sure the guy shares the same feeling so that you do not end up getting hurt a second time around.
2006-08-01 08:11:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Angel, I think I really understand the situation. There are only two things that can happen:
You marry him OR
You dont marry him:
If you decide not to marry him, the pain is only yours and you can put up with it;
If on the other hand you somehow get married to him there is the torment of his parents apart from the usual challenges of marriage -
Now that he has asked you also to marry someone else, I think it would be great if you can find the strength to accept and move on. I'm sure he loves you but still sometimes sacrifices are important. All should be fine Angel. Good luck and there are no dearth of fine people who your mind will like and begin to feel again, 'Ah this love is the best love I ever had!"
2006-08-01 08:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a good relationship with the guy's parents, be faithful and respectful to them, then they will respect and trust you. they will surly like you alot! And you are growing up to be a older and reliable girl and you are suppose to make your own decisons, you are more mature and old enough for this. Other people cannot make the decisions for you, its your life, its up to you to lead your own happy life and make the right decisions that you think would be right for you. Go up to the guy's parent's and have a conversation. Tell them that you love thier son and I really want to get married to the guy you really wanted in your life. And you also have a little problem, they guy agrees to marry another girl because of his parents. Tell him that ''i love you alot'' and not to marry the other girl. I know he really loves you and he wants to get married to you, but he cant coz of his parents prejudice. You two can go up to them and say, ''we are going to get married and nobody can stop us'' ''its our choice if we want to marry person you dont want us to marry'' ''how would you feel if the love of your life gets seperated from you and you dont get to marry that person?'' ''You will be sad and depressed. ''so please let us have a happy life and let us get married'' I am sure this will work. Good lukc and hope everything goes well between the two of you :)
2006-08-01 08:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him GO.
He's too immature for your love and understanding love as in - commitment. Also parental pressures will bog him down soon than later in life.
2006-08-01 07:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by Rainbow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure what to say really.. from the sounds of it.. he really does not want to go against his parents wishes...
i imagine its probably better to move on perhaps and find someone who's parents approve of you..
or perhaps figure out why his parents do not like you and try and work at making them see what a nice girl you are
2006-08-01 07:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy is old enough to make his own choices.so if his choice is not to marry u then it means he never wanted to marry u ever.it is not about what his parents want.he is just making a very stupid excuse.
2006-08-01 08:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by REFILOE M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. if he loved you he would push you to marry someone else, he would marry you against his parents will.
2006-08-01 07:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by ♫Pavic♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all make up your mind.....this ??? is about whether you should marry a guy.....but the last ???? you posted talked about you marrying a girl....CONFUSED? Yea me 2!
2006-08-01 07:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not willing to fight for you he must not be that much in love with you. i think you should move on and hope that you find a man that will love you and do whatever it takes to be with you.
2006-08-01 07:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey angel,many have the same problems.So i cant tell a solution.If u indulge more in it ,it will become a big problem too.So,wait and see ,God may find a good solution,if u worth of it..........Dont stop praying........-------------(((MaX)))
2006-08-01 07:53:45 · answer #11 · answered by MaxMetallica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋