would you ever be able to be happy again?
2006-08-01 00:39:57 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I mean, it takes about 3 months to smile again. It takes about 3 years to get over them (as in not think about them every day). But after that, are there any lasting effects?
2006-08-01 00:41:58 · update #1
Of course !
If someone wasn't worthy of my love, and I realised it, I would be HAPPY that I had the chance to move on , and find someone who was worthy.
You can't make ANYONE feel feelings that are not there.
2006-08-01 00:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by super_star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make you do anything. Think about that. And be proud of the fact that you are able to love someone so much. You will find someone else. It was 35 years until I found the one and I am glad it did. You are not the victim by any means, you were the bigger person because you had these feelings. Focus on that and not on the fact they were unable to return the same.
Love people like a dog. Unconditional love. Don't expect them to return it. They don't have to love you back and that's ok. Don't tie strings to it and expect that it has to be returned because you are giving it. Be proud of who you are. I hope this helps.
2006-08-01 02:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by Scott 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is essentially a healer! I speak from experience!
I was once crazy, head over heels in love with this guy. No one could tell me anything! I didn't want to hear anything bad about him! Whenever I thought about him my heart would hammer like crazy! I became dizzy and breathless when ever I heard his voice nearby. I couldn't eat, sleep, or think straight because of him. I thought he felt the same way about me but it was not so and I couldn't see it for a very long time. I became bitter, angry, resentful because the love I felt for him was not returned! I cried grievous tears and lost my appetite, couldn't sleep. I just wanted to die! it was a truly painful ordeal to go through. It took me two years to get my head back together. But get over it I did and went on with my life. I am happy again. I never thought that I would be. I really thought that my world had come to an end. But like I said earlier, time is a healer, for which I am so thankful and grateful about.
When you are in a situation like this, you can't see the light of day but it does come and along with it a brighter more hopeful future.
2006-08-01 15:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - you pretty much remember the person for the rest of your life. That's not a bad thing though. If you are "normal" you can and will move on. The thing is, most people can. It shouldn't take 3 years to get over that person. A lot of times too, people are hurt more by the fact that the love isn't reciprocated rather than the person himself/herself.
2006-08-01 00:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will pass. When your heart speaks again, you will feel happiness again. Don't worry, and don't give up. Just go on. One day at a time. And don't forget to notice the small things - the flight of a bird, the smile of a friend, a sunset... Life is beautiful, and so are you.
2006-08-01 00:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has it's own set of unwritten codes. You loved somebody and didn't get it back in return....this is making you unhappy .
The cause of your miseries are that you want the other person to react the way you like but you can't have that always.
Live life just like freely, don't constrict yourself to the boundaries like , if the person you loved walks out of your life you would be mentally broken. this amounts to degrading yourself, that too for a person who doesn't care about you.
You will surely be happy again the moment you take yourself out of the past memories.
Do something intresting, participate in social activities, help out underprevileged children.
2006-08-01 01:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you get over it, because someone else will come along. It just hurts sometimes because you always think this could be the one. There is someone for everyone, sometimes it just takes a while to find the one that is for you. We all deserve to have the person we love to love us back and be happy.
2006-08-01 00:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by younggb77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, read Blankets by Craig Thompson, a beautiful comic about the bittersweetness of changing emotions within a relationship. and take comfort in knowing that you will be happy the day that someone loves you as much as you love them, whether it's a child, or a lover or God :)
2006-08-01 02:29:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lasting effect is the great big brick wall you've built around yourself so as never to get so badly hurt again.
You'll be happy again but you'll never forget that pain.
2006-08-01 00:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after the initial feeling of not wanting them everyday youre pretty much over them but as for lasting side effects of course there are. the feeling of seeing them with another person will crush you no matter how long you been apart. jealousy will begin to spiral out of control and youre back to square 1.
2006-08-01 01:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by madkat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋