why do some women live off their partners money?

Question

i've got this neighbour that has her "boyfriend" pay for her house and everything.she claims she works, yet i don't think she does. why do women go on about how independant they are, and still only look for guys with money...gives the rest of us a bad name.

ok...so...why do men pay for it? are they so willing to part with their hard earned cash for a bit of booty?

to sexybrowneyedog i mean girl.....are u my neighbour....yuk! jealousy is for the weak.

touched a nerve here.....why are we women so defensive???? if ur a goldigger..stand up and be counted!

Answer 1

I absolutely have NO idea! I have a fiance that would pay for EVERYTHING if I wanted, but I DONT WANT! We have compromised that I won't work when I'm pregnant and a few years after, because we want a few kids, pretty close in age....haha...again...thats just what we want. However, I want to work and be able to buy my own things. I think if all men worked and women stayed at home, the power would stay in their hands and we just can't have that! :)
However, I do want to own a nonprofit animal shelter and volunteer with the Red Cross, so if he helped me out with my student loans and some things, I wouldn't have a problem with that. I do have my bachelor's degree, but decided I don't want to go into that field. My fiance makes very good money, enough to support us both and have a family, so it's not that terrible for me to stay at home with the kids. I think that living a few years in the domestic world after we have a baby will be rewarding, but after that...it's right back out to work for me!!!!


To answer your second question Dee...I think some men pay for things for their girlfriends so they'll stay around...maybe insecurity? My fiance is very old fashioned...he feels that it is his duty to take care of his family...and that also includes financially. He doesn't want me to stress about having to find a job. It also SCARED HIM TO DEATH when I actually did talk about working while I was pregnant. He wants to give me the world and while his intentions are very very sweet, he understands that I cannot live with an "allowance" from my husband...no matter how much money he makes.

Answer 2

As others have said, everyone's different and I think this set-up is fine if both partners are happy. (I'd say the same if she was "keeping" him.)

Having said that, I do think an arrangement like that makes both partners very vulnerable (albeit in different ways). The problem for her is that status in society -for those of us who aren't aristocrats- is still often measured by what we do in the outside world and this means she is at risk of being seen as an extension of her partner. Another potential danger, if she doesn't have a job, is that she will become unemployable and grow to completely rely on him for her basic needs. He, on the other hand, is vulnerable to becoming a wage slave with no time to enjoy the money. However, to be fair, this woman may well work really hard at running the house. It may be, for example, that he earns the money while she actually manages the finances, making sure all the bills get paid on time. As another answerer said, looking after the home *is* a job and I'd say that we won't ever see an equal division of household labour until we give that role the respect it deserves.

Btw- does this woman actually "go on" about how independent she is? I don't mean to sound picky. I just get alarm bells when I see what looks like a caricature of a particular kind of female hypocrite.

Answer 3

all women who do not work are not lazy...just so you know...I personally, do not work. I have worked most of my "adult life" (the only time I didn't work was in college, and my husband was more than happy to support me), but now that my husband makes enough money that I don't have to work, we decided that I should "stay at home." We both grew up where the woman takes care of the house and the man "brings home the bacon" (unless it is financially neccessary for the wife to work). I always wanted to be a stay at home mom (housewife untill the kids), but I am by no means too lazy to go out and get a job. I just prefer to take care of the house and have my man's supper on the table when he gets home from work. And, just so you know, being a stay at home mom or even just a housewife IS a job....if you have never tried it, you should. There is a lot more to it than just keeping the house clean and cooking dinner. However, with that said, there are som sorry, lazy @sses out there...both male and female. But if both partners are happy with it that way, then it's really none of anybody else's business. The ones that kill me are the ones living off of the government, knowing good and well they don't have to, and don't do anything to better their situation.

Answer 4

Hey honey,
That is the age old type of work.
Prostitution is the Oldest Profession in the world.

It is marriage without a license.. No play, no pay.

You will do the same thing later.. You will not go with a guy that has no money.
If you pay the guy's way, then a person could say that you are paying just to get a guy..
Either way is wrong.
You have a good day.

Answer 5

Well, there's the joke that "A successful man is one who earns more money than his wife spends; a successful woman is one who can find such a husband"... Anyway, I think there are times when a woman had better have a man to rely on (late pregnancy / caring for a small child - then it's possible to work, but it's nice if there is somebody else to lean on for a while and pay attention to your child). But myself, I'd like to be independent as much as I can, builds my self-confidence. I can't imagine being able to work and allowing myself to become a dependent again... just doesn't click.

But there are different people. The husband of one of my friends had a period of time when he was relying entirely on her and his mom for support (my estimate of his character really dropped then). He felt OK, but I don't think I could. So I don't think it's limited to women.

Answer 6

I really find this to be the problem with women, ever time a women does something, either way, there is some women to stand around and say something about it.

if that is what this chick does, and there is a man stupid enouph to pay for it, so be it, I find it much worse when the dude is married and takes things away from his family, time money. but if they are both single, and she is comptable taking money from some dude, so be it, you dont have to do it, and raise you kid to do it, hopefully you dont. but if this women whats to.( I am sure how her self essem is just taking money like a street hooker). let her. it really doesnt make her wrong, it makes her different then me and you.

and yes I would want women to stop this, unless they need it, single mom,.

but this women should never call her self independant

Thanks

Answer 7

because their is a difference between being independent and just saying it. they are also lazy and feel every man owes them something cause they are a woman, and to theyre defence men dont help the situation doin whatever they can to get the P.U. and it aint even worth it, I meet allot of them and say why would I pay for something I get for free, then they try to convince me how good it is, thats neither here nor there I love my strong women but women need to aknowledge that there are biaches, tricks, hoes, sluts and Goldiggers out there and stop defending them

Answer 8

i believe women are all different in their own ways dat is why at times dey go all out feeling independent but deep down inside they use their money on their personal pleasure and use their boyfriend or a man for all the things that they believe he is meant to take care off. they still say they are independent because they believe it is just a little bit of fun or pampering

Answer 9

Not all women sponge off their boyfs, partners or hubbies! In my case I am chronically disabled and cannot go out to work, and my hubby works full time and looks after me the pets and house, I work from home when I am well enough to help with the bills, but we are not all the same and have our reasons!

Answer 10

1 where is it any business of yours whether shes working or not.. thats her bfs problem if he has a problem with paying for things, he'll let her know..

2 sounds more like your jealous that she has a man that does things for her and u dont..

And shes not giving me a bad name.. so i think thats all in ur own head too.. lol..

Awwwww and the immaturity shows even further with name calling.. awww why so defensive if it doesnt bother u lol.. GROW UP.. lol..