he was a bartender & so was i , hAd the same shifts & hours but didn't work for the same company. after our "one night together he basically would blow me off, but yet did see me from time to time?.he's extremeley, i mean extremely handsome! gorgeous!! he owned his own house,harley, suburban ect... but then tragedy struck him! in oct. 2003 he got set up by the liqour control board( sting operation) & basically failed & lost his liquer license! so conseqeuntly eventually he lost his house, truck, harley ect....in may of 2004 i got an inheritance$70,000.00(went quick!) but i still chased after him & bought him harley tires as a gift & ect... he finally came around. so in june of 2004 our relationship started & still is now...BUT! >in dec. 2004 we got into a bad fight & i kicked him out! he immed. went to his ex's & they both lied & he not even 24 hrs had gone by yet! so he eventually cm home & ever since then i hVE HAD 100% NO TRUST! none! he says i should have it by now! should i? help?
2006-07-31 23:37:33 · 14 answers · asked by bashfullyblessed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's using you because he can. Get rid of him.
2006-07-31 23:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he used you for the money. Got new tires for the bike, didn't he? Was he working before you kicked him out? Or did you support him?
I can kind of understand going to the ex, who wants to sleep on the street, but why lie about it? And why did both of them lie?
"Eventually" came home? How long is "eventually"? Days, weeks, months?
Trust is going to be a long time in the making. Once broken it's one of the hardest things to repair. It's an EARNED thing and after the way he's acted, he shouldn't expect it to happen any time soon. He has to prove to you that he can be trusted again and it isn't going to be easy or be done quickly.
He'll either deal with it or not. If he's not willing to let it come at its own pace, then maybe you should reconsider your choice of him being your partner in life.
2006-07-31 23:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he expects you to trust him and you don't there is a reason for that and he should understand it. Explain to him that it is hard for you to trust him and if he can't understand that then there is nothing for you to work out. Trust is a earned privilage, not something that is just handed out anymore. For anyone that has done something for the other person not to trust them it seems like it should just be given freely and that just is not the case. He should start with small things to gain your trust back, like telling you I'll be home at blah blah, and actually do it. And if he can do what he says he is going to do, then maybe you should give him a little bit of that trust he is asking for. If he doesn't then don't, as much as he gives you a reason to trust him is how much trust you should give him.
2006-07-31 23:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by jad26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is not that easy to gain with someone after they have lied to you and you must still have suspisions about him as if you didn't then you would almost have at least a little trust in him.don't forget you are the one who chased after him and done things for him and maybe just maybe that is all he is sticking around for.Don't let him try to force you into trusting him as trust is a very hard thing to regain after a break up.Time will heal most things but trust is something someone has to earn
2006-07-31 23:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only harley should be the one you leave him behind with! you and he fought and by your own words " we got into a bad fight & immediately went over to his ex's house & they both lied & not even 24 hrs had gone by" look, he wants you to trust him so he can blind side you again............. don't trust this fool again
2006-07-31 23:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say your a fool, let me tell you a sob story and you blow the rest of your inheritence on me, the bible says "a fool and their money will soon be departed!! his losses were his fault,why you felt responsible to replace his losses is beyond me.. so stupid continue to be tricked into feeling sorry for sorry *** people and you will have nothing!!!
2006-07-31 23:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 05:38:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, kick the mooch out. If his ex wants him, let her have him. Find someone worthy of your love and kindness. He is not it. Good luck.
2006-07-31 23:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by bookfreak2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you and used you ,sorry buddy but it takes more than coming back to gain my trust.
2006-07-31 23:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by movin12006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters don't change. Trust is earned, he obviously hasn't earned yours yet.
Don't give in, and Good Luck
2006-07-31 23:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jon H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this kinda of people should never be trusted he only looks for u when he needed u but when he doesnt he wont even care about u...
2006-07-31 23:43:42 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋