how do you give your husband his own space?

Question

to be with his friends, family, do his own activities, ect.....is asking him where u been and with who or which friend where u with to much in his space?

Answer 1

You could be taking it too far. You don't have to know what he is doing every second of the day. However if he is or has been unfaithful then I understand your reasoning. My reasoning is this... you can't stop him from cheating. Why worry about it all the time if you can't control it? If it happens, deal with it then. Don't worry about it constantly and cause damage to your marriage that could push him away. My husband and I do most everything together. But there are times when we both need our space. Spending time with the guys occasionally is one thing. Constantly is another all together. Only you can decide if you are being too possesive or controlling. Or if you have a valid reason for being possesive or controlling.
If you want to give him more space, maybe you need to take the time he is with his friends or family and go be with your friends or family.

Answer 2

My husband just takes the time and does whatever he wants. He spends 10 hours a day at his mothers. At least this is what he is telling me because he says he is an adult and he does not have to report his where abouts to anyone. I don't have any personal space because I have too much going on in my life to be concerned about my own space. However, I do intend to get my own space very soon.

Answer 3

You give him his space by giving him space. A grown man has a right to do things on his own without his spouse questioning him like he's in a interrogation and need to disclose his whereabouts.

The wife need a self esteem boost so she can spend less time wondering what her spouse is doing when he's away which has very little to do with where he's at but more whose he's with.

Now some husbands have a bad track record so many have to be interrogated to let them know your watching their every move.

Now, I don't agree with having him have to name names when he leaves the house because I would feel like I am treating him
like a child and this type of behavior can be a turn off and cause problems that cause a deterioration of a marriage.

Answer 4

I think that a good husband will offer you all of that info without you having to ask. It is your right to know where he is. YOU are his wife and he shouldn't be secretive. You need to know if his stories add up, cause if they don't he could be cheating. If he isn't cheating, yes he does deserve time with buddies and family, but your needs should be met first. He should spend most of his time with you, and Some time with family and friends. Let him know if you feel neglected. Talk about some sort of schedule that you both agree on and also, take time for yourself and visit your friends and family too. You need stuff to do without him once and awhile too!

If you find for some reason he is cheating...give him all the space in the world...it's called a divorce.
Good luck my friend.

Answer 5

How does the husband give his wife her space?? Its called "trust". Do you trust your husband have his own set of friends, his own activities or hobbies, work or extra job?? We all need to have some space away from the family (referring to men) when we feel stressed from the family. I know from experience that both men and women need time to themselves away from the family to help them coupe with stress that comes with having a family.. Do you feel that you need some space for yourself, to do a few thing that you might like to do with out having the whole family tagging along, having time to yourself. I hope this makes since to you and gives you some incite to family pressures.. I hope this helps.. Good Luck

Answer 6

first in a marriage you need TRUST!!
then each person should have their own time with who they want without being asked those questions.
but they should be home in time for dinner and be home before dark.
once the trust is gone, I think its still wrong to ask theses questions. no trust--time to talk about the trust of each other.

the wife and husband should have time away with those people they want to visit. but within limits. and they should know what that limit is without being told by the other spouse.
and should have the same amount of time spent away from home as being at home. thats the balance. same time at both places.

when you do ask these questions when he gets home he will get defensive if you keep asking and there is nothing more to say. if he says with a certain person believe him.

Answer 7

yes, I let my husband have all the space he desires, he takes off on his Harely for a couple of days at a time. when he gets home he has had his fun and in a much better frame of mind, I don't have to ask him anything, he tells me all about what fun he had,
AS for my space it is here at home by myself were i can pamper my self and do whatever i want, and not have to be a wife for awhile. this is what works for us.

Answer 8

my husband doesnt ask for much space, but yes especially with his family i give him his own space..

Answer 9

We don't get much time together at all. He works very long hours but sometimes at night we will be sitting on the couch and his friends will call. I have to force him to get off his butt and go over there. I don't want him to miss out on guy time.

Answer 10

give him his space dear, not the ponderosa. giving him his space doesnt mean keeping things from you as you are married to this man & that means sharing. sounds to me like this man is distancing himself from you