i was raped when i was 7. i was sexually , mentally , physically abused. my parents didnt want me as i was unwanted child. they couldnot abort as it was illegal and my mom would be in critical state if i was aborted then i was raped my bf n gang raped by him and his friends . still i managed to do my graduation and now i am also working for an NGO, and i am doing my MBA also. i want to get married but will anyone marry me after knowing my past, till date no one is interested , they avoid me but my most important condition is to that the guy should know my past ,i am 23 yrs old indian girl. i just need some friendly advice. thank you.
2006-07-31 23:07:24 · 17 answers · asked by isha s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm proud to here you have done well in school. remember one thing, You are not a victom any more as how I see it, you are a surviver. that is great . Be good to yourself. Someone will cross your path some day when you least except it. I don't feel you have to go into details about what happened to you with someone until you are use it is the right person to share your life with. when you feel comfortable with him, then you will know it is ok to tell him and he will undrestand. You are very worthy of some one to love you. But you have to love self first.
My best wishes to you in and may all your dreams come true.
2006-08-01 00:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot be held remotely responsible for what the others have done to you. Continue with your education. You might find someone who can look past your previous life. Perhaps there is some counseling available at your school. I think it is unnecessary for you to tell any new guy about the rapes until you get to know him for a while. Then you may have a better idea how to approach the subject without turning him away. If there are no men in India who can accept you I know there are in the U.S.
2006-07-31 23:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear your past is so full of pain and degradation. Guys can know about your past, but maybe you are telling too much information a little too fast. Get to know the guy first, divulge a little information over a long period of time. Then hopefully by the time they know all about your past, they'll already be in love with the person not the past.
2006-07-31 23:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm truely sorry for what you have been through in your life. I hope you are in some sort of therapy to help you cope with your past. It might not be easy, but I have every confidence you will find a man who loves you and understands that nothing that happened in the past was your fault. I wish you luck.
2006-07-31 23:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you find the right man and it might take time to. I have a horrible past but a wonderful husband. He is the most patient person in the world.
2006-08-01 00:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they will marry you even if this happened to you.
If a man loves you he will try to protect you so others wouldn't take advantage of you.
Just try to find a guy that don't wants you or tries to play with ur head remember you come first.
2006-07-31 23:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u can get a trustworthy person i feel sorry for what happen but u r honest and this is a big quality 2 say the truth i really feel u will find one soon
best of luck for future
2006-07-31 23:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by indian beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course get some help and talk to someone. Don't let them know until you have been in the relationship a little bit. good luck
2006-07-31 23:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi dear, i am very sad to know about your past. it is very bad happened with you. but you are getting married so congrat.. and i want to tell you that forget the all things and done your mba carefully.
shadi karo aur ek achchhi jindagi gujaro aur apne hsband aur bachcho ke liye fikr karo. sab kushh bhool jao aur kisi ko kuchh nahin batao.
i want to tell you many things but there is no time and no space to write here baby. i am 28 yrs indian married man. i understand with you. you can contact me at mkp780325@yahoo.co.in
be happy. may god bless you and congrat... again
2006-07-31 23:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't share your past with a man until you feel you can trust him and he has feelings for you. Its horrible that you went through that, but it will probably scare most guys off if you tell them from day one.
2006-08-01 00:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋