2006-07-31 22:44:05 · 24 answers · asked by benam 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Its not that you"re not a good man maybe it has just been you and your wife for sometime then a baby comes into your life you have to understand that when a woman has a baby that is the most wonderful time in her life and yours she wants to be protected of her child as a new mother. you are not being neglected the only thing you may be neglected of is sex and right now what is more important sex or the joy of a newborn? So I conclude your time will come and things will be back to normal just let her have time and respect that because not everyday a woman has a baby to enjoy.
2006-07-31 22:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by APRIL K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is normal. The baby has altered your relationship to your wife...and it is perfectly okay to recognize and grieve for what was...but the good news is, you will eventually see how your life has been enriched by the presence of this new gift...so be patient, it will pass. Right now, your wife is recuperating from labor, which is conducive to major surgery, her hormones are raging, and she suddenly finds she is needed by a helpless creature who needs her 24/07. What you can do to keep your love intact is to remember she is still the woman you married, and help her whenever possible. This will only give you a better marriage...for trust me...a woman never forgets how she was treated during this period...when she has given you such a beautiful gift. If you respect this, then your wife will be in your arms before you know it...so just give it some time.
2006-07-31 22:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by riverhawthorne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is totally normal. You were once the only thing she had to take care of and now there is someone else. What you need to do is get in there and help out. Make yourself involved, change diapers, do feedings, play with your child. Turn the tables and take care of your wife for a while. Help out with house work and running errands. Do whatever you can to get involved and those feelings of neglect should go away.
2006-08-01 02:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by couriousk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is totally normal. Alot of new fathers go through that. You are still a good man. Try helping her out with her tasks - help with the baby, housework, cooking, whatever, then she will have more time and energy to spend with you. She is probably so busy and consumed with taking care of the baby and everything else, that she doesnt have anything left over to give to you. If you help her out, you may see a difference.
2006-08-01 02:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by dixiechic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have gone through a tremendous change and your lives will never be the same now that your child is here. Mothers have maternal instincts that can't be explained, like a lioness and her cubs. We each have our own places in another's heart, your place hasn't changed in her heart. Others have suggested that you share the baby with your wife, and I feel that is an excellent idea and she will love you even more for it! Have a wonderful life with your new family and accept each day as a new experience!
2006-07-31 22:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your wife and explain how you feel in detail. Some women get way too wrapped up with their babies, and that is understandable and good in a way - but they ignore their primary support, their husband. Make sure, too, that you are available to listen to her - even if you can't totally understand what she is going through, because a woman naturally feels differently than a man. I hope you resolve this, because you need one another when you have a small one.
2006-08-01 03:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. This is a pretty common problem for people with children.
Give her a little time to adore her newborn. Hopefully she will remember she was a wife before she was a mom. You can still be a wife and a mom, it's sad but a lot of women forget that.
2006-08-04 19:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by princesszoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not doubt yourself. Spend time with your wife and child and you will understand. Its hard for a man to understand what woman had gone through during pregnancy, child birth & childcare, unless you go thru it yourself. Right? Woman always put their child at the 1st place & you know what, they put themselves LAST. Love & Care for your wife more now and enjoy your family life. Best Wishes! :)
2006-08-01 04:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by keke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, @ least u're takin it in a good way. Sum men would just throw hissy fits. But u got 2 realize,once there's a baby involved,everything else takes the backseat. Ur wife needs 2 bond w/ her baby & dat will b so 4 quite sumtimes. So hang in there,dude. Remember,u're not being neglected in any way-She luvs u but needs 2 take care of ur child more.
2006-08-01 01:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your a great guy, this is not an uncommon feeling that fathers of newborns feel neglected. Babies require a lot of attention. They're totally dependent on Mom and Dad to have all their needs met. Be patie4nt things wil get better. Try to bond with your baby, it will be one of the most rewarding relationship you'll ever have.
2006-07-31 22:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋