My wife is cheating on me. She knows I know. She used her friend to try and cover up where she was but I knew otherwise. I got into a big argument with this woman for doing this to me as we have all been friends for many years. During the argument I asked this woman [she is single] how would you feel knowing your partner was having sex with someone else and your friend was covering it all up. She said she would and does feel awful about lieing to me and was unhappy that my wife put her in this situation, she is very angry at my wife and I asked her if she would be willing to have sex with me, she said yes, not because of what my wife has done as much as she seldom feels comfortable enough with most guys she dates and hardly has any sex with anyone. She said she feels safe with me and would prefer that my wife doesn't find out. She also said this is a 1` time thing for now, it may or may not ever happen again. It hasnt happened yet, but I really want this gal even if its just 1 time
2006-07-31 22:33:07 · 22 answers · asked by paulsexpress 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
then go ahead dammit!
2006-07-31 22:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, so the real question for me here is what are the real reason to why you want to sleep with her? Now I'm not one of these people who believes that sex = love or anything so don't get me wrong, I'm just interested in your motivation. Is it because this is your wifes close friend and you have a strong sense of revenge (which is understandable) or are you actually attracted to her? I just fear that with out fully exploring the motivation you find that you unintentionally hurt the other woman, which I hope is not your intention. I think that maybe if you feel you need to take revenge by sleeping with someone else the better idea would be to pick a chick up at a bar or something...rather than going the road of sleeping with friends...if it was unintentional i would say cest la vive were all guilty in that regard but it's premeditated and I think that throws up a whole other bunch of issues.
Your wife is a real cow for putting you through this and your friend too...
Good Luck and I hope everything improves
2006-07-31 22:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is just the ultimate betrayal and having a friend "cover up" for the lies and deception is like adding "salt to the wound". I'm sorry this is happening to you but in all fairness, instead of thinking about getting with this "friend", you should be thinking about what you will do about your marriage. Is it worth saving? is the love still there? will marriage counseling help? OR is it really over?
Until you both can answer these questions- truthfully, only then should you be thinking about getting with this friend. "2 wrongs don't make a right". the anticipation of "getting with her" will make you think otherwise but I strongly urge you to look at the bigger picture, make the necessary corrections and if you still have the urge or desire, then go for it. good luck.
2006-07-31 22:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by angel eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother getting married and make promises of faithfulness.
Just to get in a tangled up mess of who is having sex with who
I am tired of hearing about it.
Why bother, just all live together and mate like animals
2006-07-31 23:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like it is a test, and you are being set-up. Don't do it if you love your wife. A one time fling is not worth it. Just like everyone else, I am going to say two wrongs don't make a wright.
2006-07-31 22:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by krash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wont say its a bad behaviour from your part.....
But you knw how a person feels when somebody is cheating on them....
I'm sure your wife's friend cannot be trusted....She was u'r wife's friend for this long and she is cheating her,for a man who she met yesterday!!!!
Feel for the trap....play safe
2006-07-31 22:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by jobin_martin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, that's a healthy way to handle a situation with a cheating spouse.
2006-08-01 00:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can be said is such situation.......but as for me i think you are a mature man to know what to do, right ? I dont know whether you got kids or not but i wish you are understanding and responsible to your children too. Only you can make your own choice, think before you do......
2006-07-31 22:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sk8ter^Punk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve your wife coz you are like her a cheater , what kind of marriage are you having , yalk to your wife if none of you will stop the cheaten better to divorce.
2006-07-31 22:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by Dayan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two wrongs does not make it right. leave your wife first and then go after the friend when the time is right.
2006-07-31 23:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adultery is sex with a person not his/her spouse and it is punishable under the Penal Law.
2006-07-31 22:38:59 · answer #11 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋