its like this she always nags morning day night i really hate her she last week took a knife and pointed it to me infront of my 2 year old infact right now i really hate her i dont know what to do as for my side also on the financial part am really having it really rough but that doesnt make me stressed cause in life there are ups and downs and secondly she is pregnant whenever she quarrels she says that she wishes that the baby which she is carrying dies i really dont know what to do?
2006-07-31 22:18:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh wow you have to be strong for this baby and you and the baby get out as soon as possiable and once the other baby is born go to court and fight for this baby.. your wife sounds very dangours and there is a baby or 2 invovled leave while you can .
2006-07-31 22:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Melinda D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say, it appears you are overwhelmed and feel trapped! This situation has too many problems to settle alone, need professional help, PRONTO! Factors- Wife is pregnant, may not be feeling very good, overwhelmed herself, depressed, and all the stuff that goes along with being pregnant! I have to mention, what role are you playing in this drama to bring her to the point of using a knife, or anything? This problem must have been going on long before you reached the hate you are wrestling with. She needs help, so do you and it may a time where your child will be afriad of being hurt, or be hurt, especially if your wife does not want this pregnancy ! All is not well! Steps to take are to get PROFESSIONAL HELP!
This is an issue with multitudes of problems. When did you decide you hated her? It seems to have been for some time!
If you have to be safe get out! Mental health does not appear to be very healthy. This two year old need not be in such an enviroment, you and your wife will see results of your actions in your child unless someone intervenes. Write Dr. Phil, he will have a way to handle this! Good Luck!
2006-07-31 22:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by my4dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get her help. Make her an appointment with the doctor immediately. Does she always act that way? Is this new since the pregnancy? If she so callously says she wishes the baby would die, and would wave a knife in front of a 2 yr old, you really better think about the safety of your children. IMMEDIATELY
You should try to make your marriage work through all reasonable avenues, especially if this is a hormonal thing, ride it out and try to forgive her, but you can't let yourself go through life miserable. No one deserves that, good luck and god bless.
2006-07-31 22:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by Theavatar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be extremely patient and try to endure until the child is safely born. Then try to get her to seek therapist. If that doesn't help, file for a divorce and seek for custody. Someone who's waving a knife in front of the small kid is not fit to take care of the flock of sheeps, let alone of the small children.
2006-07-31 22:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hate her? Sounds like she hates herself too!
She needs counselling. The first and foremost thing in the world right now is the safety of your child. Do what is best for the child. Adults don't do what they are told to do. Advise her that you will stay with her on the condition that she seek help, but don't accuse her of being crazy, which she is obviously insane. Haven't you been paying attention to the media lately? what insane people have done to their innocent children?
You need to take aggressive action, do not argue, just do it. You will never forgive yourself if you don't act on their behalf......Do it TODAY. OR ELSE.
2006-07-31 22:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by peppermint_paddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look,u said it ur self.life goes up and down.
take it easy man. ask ur wife to have a break.u know what i mean. let her leave the place for a while,or u do so. relax and don't be in touch with one another unless u feel u miss one another.
and talk to her gently,don't hate her and dont get mad. just understand her needs.mayb she's kinda stressful now because of being pregnant.
u have to understand her,otherwise something bad happens to ur family and i don't think u need it,right?
may god be with all of u. and don't forget that once u loved ur wife that's y u married her!
good luck!
2006-07-31 22:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by Musty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your wife may be experiencing some hormonal changes however, this is no excuse for her radical behavior. To take a knife to you in front of your 2 y/o child is not only scary but perhaps a from of abuse. She is by far a danger to herself, your unborn child, your 2 y/o and yourself!
I suggest you seek out her OB doc and inform him/her of your wife's actions. They can help- either with meds or having her seek out counseling or therapy. You could also benefit from counseling- help ease your mind, time for you to relax and really get a feel for what's going on.
anyways, just a thought....
2006-07-31 22:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by angel eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to someone like this. First 9 months of marriage I could do no wrong. after 9 months, I couldn't do anything rite. She needs medical help. my now ex would not get help, and she has been all alone since the divorce of 15 years. Good luck! You will need it!
2006-07-31 22:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by krash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! You need to stay strong until this baby is born and once it is get a lawyer and get your children out of that house. That is a very unhealthy environment for your children to be raised in. Sounds like she needs some therapy to help get her under control. Seek some help somewhere.
2006-08-01 01:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by spoiledrotten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait til the baby is born and file and take the kids! She needs some major help!
2006-08-01 04:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by betina_scutt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋