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Question

I love a boy very much started this relation three yrs back, he forced me to do something bad twice, he says that if i didnt do he will find other girls, i was scared whether i will loose my boy after having*** i loose virginity. i was never been touched and kisses by anyone in ma life he was the first person who did all this. now one day when i chat to his brother his brother doesnt like me dont know the reason, i always consider him as my own brother he took printout oh ofline mesgs to my boyfrd , my frd asked me who told u to say i am your frd to my brother after that he never talked to me, i am so sad.wht i have to do now, it seems he wont come back, he is not sending emails no calls, no mesgs everyday i am sending emails but he wont reply to me, dont know wht mistake i made but it seems he will never come back.my INDIANculture and tradition wont allow this way, how can i marry another guy when i am not virgin i feel sometimes to die cant marry another boy feeling am cheating him

Answer 1

i know things are hard for you but if he forced you to do things i wouldnt want him back and can't you talk with someone about marrying because he forced you you really didn't want to do it

Answer 2

Sweetie, You're boyfriend threatened you into having sex with him. Anyone that uses threats to get what he wants is immature, immoral and insecure. He's not worth your giving him the time of day, let alone worry over him like you are.
If he isn't responding to your attempts to contact him, then he's pretty much left you to deal with your feelings alone.
First Love feelings run deep, but you have no reason to feel guilty should you find some else you're interested in, you won't be cheating on him because he isn't in your life any more. And should he want back in it, tell him to go away. He'll not bring anything to you but heartache and you don't need that. He's caused enough pain in your life.
Be smart and kick this boy out of your life for good and learn from your mistake and move on with your life.

Answer 3

Hon, boys will say ANYTHING to get what they want from us. I'm so sorry you had to learn that the hard way. You're NOT damaged goods, you're NOT cheating on someone when he's made it clear he doesn't want you any more. You CAN and WILL go on to have a life, a husband, and children of your own. Any man worth a darn will understand when you say you were forced-if he doesn't, then he's not the man for you. The shame is on the boy who used you, not on you. I don't know where you are, but are there counsellors, therapists there that you can talk to confidentially? You need to get past what he did to you and enjoy life-you're young for such a short time, and this is a heavy burden for you to carry by yourself.

Answer 4

Honey I am sorry to say it but that guy is a loser. You are better off with out him. You wouldn't be cheating any other guy just yourself I am sorry to say You would cheat yourself if you didn't find someone else. You can't please everyone, you need to look at your own needs, he wants you to beg him back but don't do it be strong. You can marry any guy you way just make sure he doesn't try to push you into anything you don't want to do!!

Answer 5

if he treatd u bad in da 1st place he is no gud blieve me i had similar expierince wit a boy but i aint give it up ta hum n it aint ya fault b.c u were basicaly blinded by love mama it seems like da boy only wantd u fa 1 thang n 1 thang only n sadly sweetie u did it he took advantange of u dnt feel bad tho b.c u was/were in love wit him ya kno dnt put yaself down bout it.u dnt need hym move on i kno it mite not b e z but do it fa u it wil help alot trust me u ca do beta.as 4 marryn anotha boy b.c of ur culture im sry i cnt help wit dat i wish icud but frm wat i tol u i hope it helpd at least a lil i jus hope thangs work out fa u mama