2006-07-31 21:51:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, if your family is pretty liberal, it shouldn't be too much of an issue to just outright say it... but if not, it might be best to slowly introduce them to the concept-- for instance, if you've heard of tomboys, start dressing like one, one article of clothing at a time over a long period of time, until one day, you're completely dressed as a guy, complete with sagging jeans and boxers. Then go out and tell them that you've had a revelation and would wish that they'd accept your decisiion. Ultimately, it is your choice despite their acceptance, though.
good luck!
2006-07-31 23:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by Zyxxin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will work but takes determination.
Mope about 4 as long as possible, stay locked in UR room & ignore the phone.
When UR family ask U "whats up"?
Tell them straight, UR gay.
They'll B so relieved that UR ok, the whole issue should pass fairly quickly from shock 2 acceptance if all they want is 4 U 2 B happy.
2006-08-01 04:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Honey you have a tough one here. It is ok. Have you seen the movie on Lifetime that was born in a males body but had a female brain? Yes it happens. Yes it is real and Yes I believe that God MADE you that way. You are not a joke or a freak. You are a beautiful person. Have your folks watch the movie, her name was Gwen something, you can find it through Lifetime, but her life ended badly. I pray that will not happen to you. Then after the movie, make sure you have a friend or someone there with you that supports you in case your parents have ahard time with it.
God bless you and i hope that everything turns out well for you.
judy
2006-08-01 05:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by Wind In her Hair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.outproud.org/brochure_coming_out.html
Of what I've read that's the best. It doesn't all apply (aimed at 'rents of LGBs), but it's very good and the advice is spot on.
You know pretty well whether or not you'll be initially accepted. Not many will surprise you. If you're dependant on your parents you should be careful-- being trans and on the street is no good. What's harder to predict is those who don't initially accept you but will come around with time. Family bonds are strong and time heals all (even if it does leave scars!).
My personal advice is this: be calm and confident when you tell them, tell them one at a time one-on-one, and personalize your message. Let you know you love them and value their relationship. Let them know it's not a bad thing, and it's not their fault.
Some also include "fear" statistics to make their parents accept ("do you know how many trans people KILL THEMSELVES MOM????"). Not recommended, but suit yourself. Others like to go the opposite direction ("being trans doesn't mean you'll necessarily lead a crap life, did you know there are many successful transmen?" [1]). I'd recommend this, but you know your parents best.
If you're not sure about yourself they'll tear at you like rabid animals. Or something. They're parents, they love you, but you're backing them into a bit of a corner. For awhile you'll be in the parental role as you let them know it's okay.
Try and anticipate their questions before the conversation, and answer them as best you can, but make sure you give them a chance to talk (like, don't interrupt too often).
Good luck, take care, try and have fun.
2006-08-01 11:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is going to have to be more of a discussion then a telling!
Make sure you are prepared for them to be shocked and remember when people are shocked they say things they don't mean.
Explain that it is something you have thought about a lot and it will make yuo very happy. That you are prepared to take the bad with the good and you know there will be prejudice people out there but all you really want is your parents blessing because they are the ones you love and they are the ones whose opinions you care about.
2006-08-01 04:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by vixenrules80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it hurts your family too much, I guess it's better to keep it in the closet. But if your gut feeling tells you that your family might accept your gender preference, then come clean about it gently at the most opportune occasion. It's your own life journey that you are walking after all, not anyone else's. But with every action that sensible adults take, know that there will always be consequences that we have to face up to.
2006-08-01 04:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you want to fight with the supreme Almighty , better make your self strong and become an athlete and enjoy a life like a super human being without changing your sex .
2006-08-01 04:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the sex change and then show them that way they can't do anything about it...either way you go with it your family will probably be in an uproar about it, but hopefully they will accept your change and move on with their lives.....or you could tell them straight up and get it over with....like I said either way...its probably going to be a bad situation.
2006-08-01 04:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by lildevilchild_87 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take them through the process slowly. The F-to-Ms should have advantages in transition than the other way since women in male attire are more accepted.
2006-08-01 10:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
G'day KB,
It is difficult issue to speak with family but I would try it.
I have also attached links to transgender counselling to further assist you. Hopefully, they will be of some assistance.
Good luck and best wishes.
2006-08-01 05:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋