if after ten years in a relationship, I find my partner is lying about my contribution, financial or otherwise

Question

what should I do? Ten years of working 6 days a week, buying all the littlle things, putting up with inferdalities, being honest, but then after ten years I am ugly, I don't contribute, what should I do, I still love this guy, but how much can a dog be kicked before they bite you

Answer 1

I'm so sorry to hear you are being hurt.

Seeing as you have been together so long, a break-up will be too hard to take I would expect, but I would say find someone else. Oh how easy it is for someone not in love with this man to say that. Your partnership is just the same as any other partnership and it does sound as if you are being taken for granted.

There is no magic wand. When, one partner pulls one way and the other the other way, well there isn't much you can do but talk. If the talking doesn't work maybe a break-up. We can love but there comes a point in our lives when we have to stand up for what we know is the right thing for us. In other words for you.

Ten years is a long time to give someone and just throw away. I think you should do your utmost to try and get things put right, give it your all. If it doesn't work then be honest with yourself and know, it will never change. You then have two choices, do you stay and live this way, or do you go and start again? At least if you decide to go you will know you did everything you could to change things, to make it better. You will at least not have to say 'if only I had'.

I'm waffling on I know, but I think I know how difficult it must be for a gay person to meet another partner after being with someone for such a long time - it's the same with hetro's. I could be wrong, I'm no expert, just a pebble in the sea. I hope you can sort it out, even if you have already tried before submitting your question. Try again and then call it a day even though it will hurt.

I wish you every success in your partnership - I pray your partner grows up a bit and smells the coffee. Good luck to you

Answer 2

Why would any woman put up with infidelities? You gotta get some self respect and be strong. you work 6 days a week, you don't need the stress of being lied to as well. Good luck.

Answer 3

was your partner contributing at the same time you worked? how long has it been since ither of you worked. i ask because i am guilty as your partner when it comes to this. a person can't expect someone else to live in the past. work with communication. for instance who had your back when time came to go to and come home from work, things like that aren't exactlly leisurely. who had theirs' after ten years then name calling i would tell them to bite me!

Answer 4

wow, i say kick the dude to the curb. I mean love is great, but if he loved u as much as you seem to love him, I wouldnt think he would lie about such things, and if he lies about that....what other lies is he telling that you may not know. I think being in a relationship with someone...they shouldnt lie to you, or about you..no matter what.

Answer 5

When you are beat down to the point where you can't respect yourself any more for what you've put up with, that's the cut off point.

Self-respect is important.

Answer 6

Never bite on the first bait

Answer 7

bite back first and send him packing you dont need **** like that in a relationship,just trying to make you feel insignificant.

Answer 8

kick em to the curb.

the dog bit you when he cheated

Answer 9

he dont do anything in this relationship as far as finances???? i would say kick his little a.s.s along.....stop paying this creeps way

Answer 10

give some pigs ,he wud learning