33 + years old don't drive no education, how do I start over ??

Question

I am a displaced homemaker, 33 gave everything for my ex to thrive and now he has moved on now that he has his degree and destroyed my credit, every state agancy say sorry no funds to help you how do I start over ??

Serious Answers please

Answer 1

Only one honest way. THe hard way.

Start working for a living and don't give up hope.

Once you get comfy in the job (withing 3 months) start studying part time. And progress in your job.

Don't talk to your x. Just show him you can survive on your own.

Answer 2

Talk to a lawyer. A woman in your situation is entitled to a divorce settlement that will give you some money to get started with.

I suspect there probably is some form of government assistance you would qualify for, so keep investigating. A lawyer might be able to help you with that too.

If you really can't get any government assistance, you might see what kind of help you can get from your local church.

Short term, you might try doing some things that relate to your skills as a homemaker--daycare, nanny work, housecleaning. You could also start a home-based business. You might try just selling a few things on EBay--that's a low risk opportunity.

Long term, get some more education while you work--office skills, records keeping skills. Get a loan if necessary. It's worth it.

You say you don't drive, I don't know if that's a physical impairment or you don't know how, but if you don't know how, make learning a priority. Until you do, make that work to your advantage. You can save a lot of money by not having a car. Once you find a regular job or a place to go to school, look for someplace to live that's within walking distance. Look for jobs with your city, county, or state government. Public sector jobs can be more accomodating to the needs of a single mother with transportation problems than the private sector.

If you're really stuck for finding a job, you might try doing some volunteer work for a few months. That can get you the references you need to move into the work force. There should be both paid and volunteer temporary jobs in the next few months related to the November elections, so check with your local Elections office and the candidates' campaign headquarters.

Don't panic. I know of several women in your type of situation who rose to the challenge and became quite successful. You can do it too.

Answer 3

I am so sorry you are in this situation. I am not a mother but I'm sure it is hard for you being a single mom.

Have you ever thought of getting in to the Child Development field? It's lucrative I'm sure and since you have kids of your own, you are most likely tolerant enough to babysit, teach or play with a few more right?

Go to your local community college and talk to a counselor. Ask about Child Development courses or programs they might have available. The average course takes anywhere from 6-18 months to complete and since you are a single mother and probably on a tightly budgeted income, you should be able to qualify for a fee waiver regardless of your credit standing.

Another thing you could do is take a driving class...they are pretty cheap through the DMV and I think everyone, especially mothers need to know how to drive a car at least in case of emergencies.

Also...Try going to your local Employment Development Department, they'll will provide you with all sorts of information for starting over!

Good Luck with your new beginnings!
And Keep Your Head Up!

Answer 4

First of all, calculate your monthly overheads. Secondly, start looking for a job that can help you sustain your monthly overheads. If you have a child to look after, you may want to consider a sales job that will pay more. There's no such things as working something of your interest. Interest needs to be cultivated. You may want to invite your parents to stay with you or vice versa so that they can take care of your child while you are at work. Remember there's no such things as bearing grudges. Be basically groomed when attending interviews. Last but not least, pls don't spend on unneccesary. Hope this helps!

Answer 5

please check out your local anglicare they have free courses for mums like us i just finished a basic computer course and im on to doing a web page course, also i have found that i can sell my old stuff on ebay as the kids grow and you dont need a credit card for ebay... also have a few garage sales get your friends to donate the stuff they dont want , you could try your local community group for help and im sure if you are willing most church groups will help......just do some research in your area and im sure you will find someone too help .....just remember not all people the same there are some very generous people in the world ... any how dear mum good luck and take care the world is your oyster...cookie

Answer 6

Get some job preferably a part time one. Register for distance learning (Correspondence Courses). Study whenever you get time. Study on weekly holidays. Try to get some job related to the field you are going to study. What is essential is determination and hard work. First get whatever job you can get and start the process.
Best luck !

Answer 7

I'm not from USA, but from Europe. The majority women in my country don't trust to man, because love doesn't last for ever. You should be responsible for your life by-self and do not search for another man to support you. Start studying or start working. If you don't have an education, open cleaning serves or take a child in care to your home.

Answer 8

Learn manicure from the shops. yes, you maybe start with a very low salary, let say $500, but the skill you acquired will worth around market rate of $1300 after you gained about 2-3 years experience.

So, you are paid to learn and after that, your life is sustainable.

Answer 9

You are not to old to pursue an education. Go to the welfare dept. of your state and see if they will help.
They helped me after my husband deserted me and our two kids.

Answer 10

Get a job, and take classes part time.