my boyfriend has cheated on me and I am not sure how to take this. I work at night 12hour shifts four days aweek right now I need the money for bills and he knows that I need to work the overtime. I have no idea why he would do this to me. I work hard to give him what ever he want from me. I have never turned him down for sex new ideas or anything like that in our relationship. The worst part about this is that the girl and I work at the same place and the same shift. We had a child together but our baby died and no I have not gotten over that. It has been a year now. I try to be there for him as much as I can, and sometimes it feels like I am giving more of myself than he is sharing with me. Since he has cheated I can not look at him the same way. I am still in live with him. I am hurt by all of this. He tells me that the reason why he did this is because he was hurting inside and he said that I needed to know what his pain felt like. what can i do i need help. i have given so much ??
2006-07-31 20:17:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hurting inside, geez and your not!!! Leave him
2006-07-31 20:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I'm very sorry for you loss of the baby.
That said, you need to unload this awful man.
Betrayal is bad enough but to cheat with your coworker is the lowest. Then he plays the victim and says he did it so you would feel his pain??? Gahhh! He's lucky you haven't given him some cast-iron frying pan pain. Out with the trash hon,. Unload him or move out. Also, see if you can transfer to another dept (or perhaps a sympathetic supervisor will transfer your low-life coworker.)
2006-08-01 03:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by llazyiest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what I would do if I were in your position. Leave, without warning, the sooner the better, and never look back. But I'm not you. So I suppose you'll have to make this decision yourself.
Life is too short to waste even a day of it.
2006-08-01 03:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realise that you are the most important person in your life.
He is taking advantage of your loyalty and devotion.
Move out and get some space. You both need it.
Spend some discovering your own needs.
Decide if you really want to let someone treat you that way.
What would you say to someone in your situation?
2006-08-01 03:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by camillascorner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need a break not neccessarily break up but have some time apart to think about if this is worth it i also think you should both go to therapy together and seperate if you think he is worth forgiveness and would do the same for you then do it but if your husband wouldn't then i'd call it quits it also sounds horrible that he thinks u r not hurting as much as he is i mean you as a mother are probably hurting more
2006-08-01 03:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by danny p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should move on - I feel that everyne deserves a faithfull partner!!
Life should be enjoyed yes there is heart ache along the road BUT when you a couple you handly the problems together!!
2006-08-01 03:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by Ant C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse Me! He needs you to kow what his pain feels like! Does he think you don't have a lot of pain yourself. I think he is selfish. Not trustworthy. I would not stay with a man that I can not trust. He is lashing out at you causing you more pain, that is not love. You need someone who is supportive of you and understanding, respects you. It doesn't sound to me like this guy does.
2006-08-01 03:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help? He cheats on you and you want to help him? Wow you are a super sized sucker aren't you? I'd like to help but I wouldn't even know where to start and you aren't ready to hear the truth so I'm just going to skip it.
2006-08-01 03:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him. he's only using you
once a cheat always a cheat
and do you know that this is really the first time?
2006-08-01 03:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust him anymore, and that is a deal breaker. You will always wonder where he is and who he is with, just break it off and move on.
2006-08-01 03:23:41 · answer #10 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! leave him...selfish of me to say this but he's not worthy of you...he's also selfish letting you down and not even telling you how he feels...
2006-08-01 03:23:09 · answer #11 · answered by justine b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋