how to tell my mom?

Question

i dont know how to tell my mom that i want to get my upper ear (or my cartalage) pierced..i really want it done and i think it would look cute..let me know how to tell her..because i dont know how..

and yes i know it is spelled cartilage..not cartalage ..spelling mistake

i have hinted before i wanted it done but she always says "your kidding right?"

i am 13 years old

Answer 1

The one thing I always try to teach my 14 year-old is negotiation. Just because I said no, doesn't mean it can't happen. Example:

She wanted a cell phone, but she never asked. She'd just give me the puppy dog eyes everytime a cell phone commercial came on the TV. I'd say no, without even looking away from my book. Well, one day, she decided to go for a walk, and bought one with her own money, and then she walked around town with her friends, and was 3 hours late getting home.

Well, now that she has a phone, why can't she call and tell me where she is? When I finally found her, she was walking down the street with a friend, and they're both talking on cell phones. I took her phone for a week, for not asking me about it, and for making me worry about where she was.

Actually, it was a little longer, because I hid it in her room, and then told her to have her room clean by the end of the week.

Every time she told me her room was clean, I said, "No it's not."

She'd say, "But you didn't even look!" You should have seen the look on her face when I dug that cell phone out of the messy closet.

Anyway, once she had her phone back, I explained it to her, that if she uses her own money, she can buy anything she wants, as long as she's responsible about it. If she'd asked what I wanted for her to get a phone, I'd have told her I'd pay for the minutes, as long as she made my lunch for work every day, or something like that.

Try thinking of something your Mom wants you to do, and offer to do it, in exchange for getting what you want (don't be stingy about it, this is something you really want, offer something SHE really wants from you).

If you can't think of anything, just come out and say it, "Mom, what can I do so I can get my ear pierced where I want it pierced?" I think you'd be surprised how negotiable parents can be, if you're willing to sit and talk like a grownup with them. And I think your Mom will be surprised how mature you're being too.

And, after you get your way, tell her that I have my ear pierced there too.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You didn't say how old you are? If you're under 15, wait until you are 15 and ask her again. I agree, cartilage piercings do look cute, but my dad tells me I have to be 15 before I can get that done or a second piercing on the lobe. If you're over 15, she should be more reasonable. Here in Australia, you need parental permission if you're under 14 anyway, I don't know if that's the same where you are. Try asking if you can have it for your next birthday. "Mom, since I'm turning ?? this year (or next year), can I have my cartilage pierced? Please?" Offer to pay for it - they're inexpensive, or should be - make sure you get it done at either a hairdressing salon or chemist/drugstore. If she still says no, remind her it's only an ear piercing you want, not a tatoo =) Nah but seriously, asking it for a birthday present, or if you can get it then, would be the best idea, I think. Hope this helped....

P.S Oh right, I just read your latest message about your age... at least wait until you're 14, or 14 and a half... sorry, 13 is seriously too young. I'm 14.

Answer 3

I'm fourteen and I've had my interval for approximately 2 and a part years now and my Mum best learned six months in the past. It wasn't considering I exceptionally did not WANT to inform her ... I simply did not suppose it used to be a large ample deal to waste her time with (on the time, now not seeking to make you consider unhealthy - I simply have a horrible 'do not care perspective) and so I simply purchased pads and tampons myself and received on with it. When she learned after 2 years she used to be quite disenchanted that I hadn't advised her and he or she cried and the whole thing. I could not comprehend why, however you will have to simply inform her, it isn't a large deal. At least you then don'thave to pay to your possess stuff (oh yeah, why are you making use of tissue incidentally? There's flawlessly well pads and tampons within the save...)

Answer 4

You don't say how old you are or how your Mom feels about piercings. But I suppose the only answer would be to tell her how you feel and hope that she gives her consent. And hopefully you'll respect her opinion and abide by it after wards. I think it's great that you're talking to her about it and discussing it. It shows consideration and maturity on your part. But remember... Mom knows best and only wants the best for you... so listen to what she says. You can always wait and get it done later if she says she'd rather you wait.

Answer 5

Research it, find a place that's sanitary, learn all about the procedure, get the money for it and then go to your mom with the information you have and ask her if you can get it done. If you do all of the work to get it done, she'll look at you as being mature and ready to get the piercing.

Answer 6

Really no other way to tell her other than just spit it out. When she says, "You're kidding, right?" say, "No, I'm serious. Would you let me? And if not, when? Maybe someday?"

I have a 14 y/o girl and I'd be saying the same as your mom. I'd probably make her wait awhile and talk to her about it to see if she really, really wanted to. Then I'd probably let her. But don't tell her that, I don't want her getting ideas, she has enough horrible ones already.

Answer 7

Just talk to her about it. Tell her exactly what you just told us. Or you could me. I wanted my belly button pierced an I didn't want mommy sayin no so I just got it done. She found out like 2 days later but she didn't make me take it out. She wanted to get hers pierced. I'm 15 an I might be gettin my first tattoo with her on my birthday, which is like 12 days away. Wish me good luck. ~*Hope I Helped*~

Answer 8

Just ask her or make a deal with her.. You'll do more things around the house. Thats how i was able to get my belly button pierced. made a deal. but then again i was 16. I just told her if she lets me get it done for christmas i'll get good grades and keep them. She said ok. I got good grades and went to go see my piercer and got it done.

Answer 9

Well, is that your motivation? That it would look cute?

Or, is it because your friends have it done?

Whatever it is (your motivation) just be honest.

Say, "mom, I really would like to have my cartilage pierced. I think XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX, so may i?"

That's all you have to say.

The WORST thing you can do is sneak and do it if she's said no.

If she says no, then wait 'til you're 18 and see if you still want it done once you're grown.

Answer 10

Just ask her. Just say "Mom, can I get my upper ear pierced?" It's actually not that hard, and once you ask her, it's all over. The worse she could say is no.