I'm co-habiting with my boyfriend who happends to be my manager. He's twice my age.The main reason I accepted him is that he told me he has divorced his wife. (which is half true becos he has married and divorced for 4 times already). But last week i found out that he's actually still married since 1999, but already separated (but still in good term) 5 years a go. I am so devastated upon knowing that he's actually lied to me, and still seeing her, come over upon her call and still do things for her behind my back.
He told me that they are more like brother and sister, has been living apart since 3 years a go, no sex since the last 5 years, he's happy when she's there but doesnt miss her if she's not around.
He promised to marry me,but im afraid to trust him again, yet i love him so much too. He tried to get divorce in 2001 but she refused, and basically she's not making any mistake.
Anybody can suggest what should i do? or legal advise (ground) to get him divorce her?
2006-07-31 20:02:35 · 20 answers · asked by blurcirce 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been divorced twice.. maybe your state has different laws but you can NOT contest a divorce- if one person wants it than they get it.You may want to re examine your relationship
2006-07-31 20:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by loladoreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It boggles my mind that you want to marry a guy who has been divorced 4 almost 5 times. My legal advice, plan for your divorce before your marriage. He already lied to you about something important, don't let him off on a technicality that his current marriage wasn't over, any idiot knows what that means. I had a friend who refused to divorce, because she knew he had a girlfriend he wanted to marry. She only did this because she hated his guts after he treated her like crap and cheated on her. As far as him 'doing things for her'. Why on earth would you buy that its all so innocent. This guy had 5 tries at marriage, some people aren't meant to marry. Run screaming and find someone your own age, in 1 year you will look back and say 'what was I thinking'!
2006-07-31 20:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by Theavatar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believed me, you have just fallen for one whose wife is not prepared to loose. Believed me you have lost.
get out and get a life and pls open both eyes and look for someone younger.
If sex is what you are into, remember, a man's sex life is shorter which means that if you are 25 he is 50 and when he reaches says 60 you are 30. Hey when he stop performing, what will you be doing then, looking for bamboo?
get a life. perhaps I am old fashion but age should not be more than 12 years. 6 years are good. as there are breathing space and that when he is older, a man usually cannot look after himself so well and therefore a 6 to 12 years younger wife perhaps by then in the 50s are still ok to look after his needs.
Believed me, his P..... is not the best, love someone and that you could find that they could be better or even best when true love are there
2006-08-06 16:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he has lied to you about this in the first place he has no desire to divorce. There is no legal ground for you to get him to do what you want. Are you SURE he tried to divorce her in 01? Have you seen the papers? If not most in likely he hasnt and if u have doubts its public record. I would say move on! Find someone who isnt married to have a relationship with before you get deeper then you already are. I was in a simular sitituation 5 yrs ago and I should have left but instead he left me for someone else but he also lied to me bout his divorce.
2006-07-31 20:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by dmestle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, no legal gorund to get him divorce her, in fact, by Singapore law, adultery is an offence under penal code! You still seem like living in your own dream land! Obviously, he is cheating you! He can divorced 4 time and lied to you, so what if he really married you? Mostly will end up with divorce again! You deserve someone better! This man is irresponsible, dishonest and flirting around. Please spare some thought for his wife and children!
2006-07-31 20:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not REFUSE to get divorced, that only works for a short period of time then its granted regardless. She doesn't have to make a mistake. Your man is bs'n you again. I'm not sure what it is about this that you aren't getting. They have remarried 4 times already, she is still a part of his life and isn't going anywhere. Honey its time to move on, you are getting played and he's not even coming up with a good story to do it with.
2006-07-31 20:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why has she not been ordered to pay child support anyway, if the father has had the child full-time for 2 years? Really, why do you need to have her sign divorce papers now? You've been content to live this way for two years, without benefit of marriage. At worst, you continue as you are. At best, the mother can still be ordered to pay child support, even without divorce.
2016-03-27 11:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and get a real boyfriend. If he really wanted the divorce he would have all ready gotten it. If he really wanted to be through with his wife he would not have re-married her 4 times. It is so time to move on. You are worth more than being the other women. Also If he was or is cheating on her he will cheat on you also.
2006-07-31 20:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's been divorced 4 times - his lawyer should be giving him frequent flyer miles. In fact, he probably knows the divorce provisions in the Women's Charter better than the Judge.
Wise up girl, pack your bags and look for another guy!
2006-07-31 22:22:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lee S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sux to be you :D J\K
Sorry about the situation, but you must have known what you were getting into from the beginning. If he really wanted a divorce, he could go to another state or country and get one with no problem.
2006-07-31 20:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me but he lies to you and that B.S. about she wont give him a divorce is the biggest lie of them all.
Your in a relationship with person who lies and lies and lies. Why?
He is not going to change no matter what you think or hope.
What should you do? Leave find someone with less baggage. You will be happier in the then you ever can be now.
2006-07-31 20:14:54 · answer #11 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋