whats wrong with me?
2006-07-31 19:41:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yes i know im perverted. thanks thats a great answer.
2006-07-31 19:46:18 · update #1
Don't even worry about it... A fantasy is just that.
Even though you play it you still know that you are safe and that makes it enjoyable for you. It does not mean that you really want to be attacked.
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It does not mean that you have a mental problem at all.
But it does mean that you are a lot of fun to be with !!!
2006-07-31 22:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is something about a lot of girls and ladies, that makes them crave for a group sex or a rape fantasy scenario, deep down inside, which probably you might also deny. Its just a fantasy, its absolutely normal and there's nothing to worry about.
And definitely you are not perverted. Some of my former girlfriends, had the same kind of dreams and this is how most of them explained it. Sit and discuss it with your husband, I'm sure its just fine.
2006-08-01 07:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by sun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well jess--you are still excersising control here and so far have kept this "thing" within the confines of your relationship
The risky part of your exploration though comes with the fact that thrills brought about by playing around at things can encourage a move to add things to renew the original kick to the kink (when things get a little too same old same old)
As one takes that reach beyond--you step out into the area where your control of the situation begins to become somewhat less and the thrill of that is such that THAT becomes an allure---now you're dancing on the edge of some real stuff in the works
Carefull out there darlin----the edge is where people fall off---and sometimes the fall is a bit farther than some people care to leap
2006-08-01 03:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello. Lots of women have "rape" fantasies... and (imho) it is perfectly normal.
As some have posted here, some women have rape fantasies to overcome a previous rape experience. They re-play their rape, however, this time they have the control. They can let it go on if they want, but they also have power to stop the "rape" whenever they choose. But this is not the only reason women have "rape" fantasies.
Many women enjoy rape fantasies because they like giving up their control and submitting to the will of another.... (think BDSM, but on a lesser level). And this isn't something that only women like-- it is something that men enjoy too. Many men like having a women take control and use their body, to tie them up and/or force them to sexually pleasure her. However, men usually do not describe this kind of sexual fantasizing as rape... :)
I have also read that the submissive role that women take on when indulging in a rape fantasy is something that stems from the primative animal insticts that are still within us humans. All you have to do is look at the Animal Kingdom to see what I am talking about. Many animals, when it comes to mating, mate in a way that is much like "rape". Usually, the female animal is overpowered by the male and forced to endure his attentions.
I would not be concerned about these fantasies. I think many women have them, even if they do not want to admit it. If this wasn't true, then the romance novel industry would not be so popular. Romance novels are filled with Alpha males "taking what they want" from females. Pirates kidnapping women for ransom, only to end up bedding them... Warlords taking their enemy's daughter as a sex slave... Princesses forced by their fathers to marry a feared knight, knowing that it is their duty to submit to his will and desire on their wedding night whether they want to or not... and on and on the stories go.
Romantica (Erotic Romance) has become very popular. Check out an author like Jaid Black... all of her books have Alpha Males claiming some poor unsuspecting female and forcing her to him. Her "Trek Mi Q'an" series is very popular (amazingly handsome aliens kidnapping earth women-- very hot!!!). Her book "Breeding Ground" is awesome as is her new book "Deep, Dark, and Dangerous." And she is just one of many authors writing this stuff. These authors are writing it because we women want to read it!
Eitherway, I hope this makes you feel better... T.
2006-08-01 03:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by Theophania 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it difficult to believe that a lot of women have the fantasy of being clubbed over the head by an alpha male and dragged to his cave for sex. Alas, there is not much hope for humanity if these kinds of basic instincts still drive us.
2006-08-01 05:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by z_o_r_r_o 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you.
at all.
between two (or more) consenting adults, so long as no unwilling party is affected the only "problems" are those created out of conflict with "approved moralities"
whatever floats your boat.
enjoy!
the people that insist you "must have been raped before", etc are way out of line, residing somewhere in deep left field.
2006-08-01 02:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by dr schmitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... if it is not till the extend affecting your normal daily life, you are still fine. You can share the fantasies to your husband, maybe he able to give you some surprise :)
If you think it is affecting your life, then seek consultation from the doctor/expert.
2006-08-01 02:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by shin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were obviously raped when you were a child. It's the only sex you know, therefor it's the only sex that gets you off. I really hope you don't have kids!
2006-08-01 02:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by Melly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its okay.
Just as long as you know what is a fantasy play and deplore real rape.
2006-08-01 06:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it could be something based on your childhood or traumatic experience. I'm not saying you were raped. Not necessarily, but Freudian theories always interest me.
2006-08-01 02:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by London 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋