Why do people think it's okay today....?

Question

to just make a baby, before any real commitment? It's not a second thought or unheard of to hear a couple talking about having a baby...and they are both still living at home with mom and dad. It doesn't make any sense to me, and most of the time they end up splitting before that poor kid is born anyhow. Sure are alot of "baby mamas" out there. Is it me or do the women today just not think or do they just not care who the father of their kid is going to be as long as he's "hot" and good in bed? I mean seriously...making a baby with a man who can't even hold a job or take care of himself, what makes them think that they can take care of another human being? I can only hope as a mother of three beautiful intelligent girls that they have higher standards for their husbands, and future "baby daddy". *sigh*

I had to lagh when somebody mentioned anyone with morals is "old fashioned" it's amazing how "back in the day" there weren't so many kids without a mommy and daddy, and there wasn't as much crime as today. I agree with the woman who said that it's because society has decieded to take God out of everything, that's what happens when you think you have all the answers and can do it all yourself, you make a big ol' mess of everything. I'm just as sad as most of you are when it comes to this issue, and agree it's not going to get any better, but I can start with my children and hope that they will not buy into the lie that is out there. I understand we all make mistakes, but that's why they're called mistakes so we can learn from them. When you keep making the same mistake over and over, that just shows your unwillingness to make positive changes in your life. I also don't agree with having a baby so somebody will love you unconditionally...how selfish!

Answer 1

Good, solid morals have gone in the toilet pretty much. When America started taking God out of everything it showed! And it only gets worse. The word "family" has been twisted and turned to mean anything you want it to be. And society is paying for it either in crowded prisons or through the welfare system.

I feel the same as you as a mother of one daughter and one son. I want both of them to regard a relationship as something serious and save sex for marriage. That is, in reality, the only true way to make sure babies come after marriage.

Answer 2

It's really sad when you see a women pushing a stroller, a kid running beside her and she's pregnant with another and you know that it is your tax dollars paying for everything. I don't normally judge a book by it's cover but you can just tell by looking at her. Sure love is one thing but if you have to rely on other people to financially raise your kids then why bring them into this world? Well it's sad and I know why, it's because the more kids you have, the more your welfare check will be and hardly any of it goes towards the kids in a lot of cases.

Answer 3

The scariest thing about this situation is that, what if, the half sisters and brothers come together as couples without knowing that they have blood relationship. Won't that be more sinful?

Guess the only thing we can do is educate our kids in moral ethics to the best we can. And just hope the society wakes up from the dream of sexual freedom.

Answer 4

Well not everybody thinks that way i for example am a single father i have had sole custody of my son from 6 months on he is 11 now and i dont agree with the thinking its ok to reproduce just to habe a kid or whatever it is but there are deadbeat moms and dads out there and i for one say enough is enough and people should raise there kids with morals in mind im34 and my son is 11

Answer 5

Most people look at today's' society and figure with all the failed relationships out there why become a statistic. Wanting someone to love you, who will always be there is that of a child. A man or woman can leave you any time they wish, but your child will always be yours and no one can take that away from you. Having a child only secure the mind set I will always have someone to love and who loves me unconditionally.

Answer 6

Does not it bothers everyone, that your parents and mine are (again) proven right? All their talk about responsibility, choosing the right person to be with, that guy is not for you, you are making a mess about your life.

But somehow, we do not listen to that, we think they are all fashioned, we know better, all that. That is why so many people end up doing the wrong thing for all the wrong reasons. Because they thing they know better.

Pity.

Answer 7

It seems like there are a lot of women doing that today,i think it's because they just want the child support,not the man.But for any man(that's wrong,Male) who would make a baby with a woman he barely knows,it Sevres him right of doing something that stupid.

Answer 8

Baby's daddy. One of the saddest terms used today. Seriously, every time I hear it, it makes my stomach drop just a little.
It even sounds derogatory.
It's sad when you can't even refer to that person as your ex. Which is also a sad term.

Answer 9

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH U!! I`m still single with NO kids!! NO, i`m not gay! lol My brother has 3 to speak of, 2 are recognized. He`s with another woman, both are 38, wanting to have a child.
I, as his brother, want him to sleep with Lorena Bobbit!!! He doesnt work! Sick of supporting HIS kids and EVERY other kid that depends on us taxpayers! No, it`s not the kid`s fault!
It`s the SICK *** people who have sex without PROTECTION!

Answer 10

I have to speak now. I know its upsetting that tax dollars help some families that take the system for granted. But myself, a single mother of three children, have had to rely on the system after my lame as$ baby father(cuz he aint no daddy) took off and got married, and has never paid a dime for child support. I cant work because I cant afford the rediculos price of child care, and I am finally going to med school at night because my loving boyfriend is helping take care of three kids that aren't his. It is very hard to be in the system, you have no privacy at all, and most of your rights are eraced until you can manage on your own. Yes, some people have kid after kid to get more money, but it aint much more money, and they are paying the price trying to raise that kid with maybe an extra hundred dollars a month. CAS is always in there if a young mom has a child and is trying to raise it on their own, so then not only do you lose your privacy, you have some strangers that want your baby, just staring over your shoulder waiting for a tiny mistake, so they can take your child. No one can say that as a parent they have never made a mistake, but when you have money, other people are blinded. I know with my three kids, after my rent was paid, we only had maybe 300$ to get groceries, pay bills and transportation, get clothes and diapers. I never had extra and most of the time had to borrow from my mom every month. People don't understand we are doing the most important job in the world, and are having to suffer trying to do it. We have to pay people to raise our kids, so we can make money to pay them to raise our kids. If you are born into a poorer family, it makes it very hard to have standards, goals, motivation. The system makes it very hard to make it on your own. I just happened to meet a guy and find a loop hole.
I believed my first man when he said he'd be around forever and get a better job to help pay for the kids, and be a good daddy, and I had (thank god for him) to find myself a man who didn't think I was dirty for having someone elses kids, and wanted to help me raise them.
In this world today, it is almost impossible to even meet a honest, caring, loving, tolerant human being, little own trying to land a man with these qualities.
I am 24 yrs old with 3 young children and a evolving new daddy. I have never pushed my children on him, nor have I pushed him on them. He has just been very accepting and willing to lend a hand, and truly loving and patient. I wasn't even looking for a daddy for them, jus accepted the fact that I might have to raise them on my own, and then finaly, I met the one, I believe, that I will be with forever. We will eventualy will get married, and have our own children, but not until we got rings on our fingers and goals being met.
We have had a young girl in town, accidently get preg, starve herself (so she wouldn't show) so no one found out, then went to a park, delivered her own baby, and left it there because she was ashamed and didn't want to be found out.
We need to get back to our roots, and some how get these young kids to not fall into blinding, fake love. we need to teach our kids that what they say, they should mean. Feelings should not be played with. Teach them to be honest, trusting, caring, beautifull human beings. Teach them that they are kids and there are alot of things a child/teen can acomplish other than procreating. They need to set goals and aim high to meet them. never give up, have high standards, and NEVER to SETTLE.