Ok so here's the scoop...the man is 19 years older than I am. He was married to my cousin and had kids with her, which makes his kids my cousins. He's known me since I was 4 years old. He has been trying to get me to go out with him for 7 years! (I was only 15 when he first started this). He insists he's in love with me and i'm just really disturbed by the whole mess. I'm currently going through a divorce and even when I was still with my husband he was trying to persuade me! He tries to corner me when no one else is around and tries to kiss me or grab my hands. I really don't like it and i've told him no several times...he's just not giving up. I've tried just about everything I can think of. I guess what I want to know is how to get him to leave me alone. Has anyone been in this kind of situation? Thanks for any advice.....
2006-07-31 19:15:38 · 14 answers · asked by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Never been in that kind of a situation before, but i will recommend this: flat out tell him that if he doesnt stop pursuing you that you are going to file a restraining order on him. Sounds like he is persistant, and keeps being that way because you havent taken any action towards him. If you dont do something, he will keep going, and not trying to scare you but it could wind up into a stalking situation, which is almost already happening with him cornering you like that. I would take some action against him as soon as i could. who knows, maybe the next time that you are alone around him it could turn into rape (sorry, not trying to scare you but he is very persistant and might get tired of waiting around)
Whatever you do, do it soon. God Bless.
2006-07-31 19:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by Tracey E 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
If he won't take no for an answer you could file sexual harrassment charges.
I had a guy who just walked into my home after visiting his store daily as it's right down the road. I befriended his whole family and he took my friendship as something more.
I immediately called the cops after I finally got him to leave and they took him to jail.
I decided not to press charges as his wife and I are friends and I did not want to put his family through losing a father, but now he leaves me alone.
You have to be serious with this sort of thing, maybe a night in jail will let this guy know....no....means no!
2006-07-31 19:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is time to tell his wife about his unwanted attentions
if you have an older brother or a father in the picture take them with you when you make it plain that no means no and that you will do whatever it takes to ensure that he leaves you alone
try and avoid social situations where he may be present and have nothing else to do with him whatever the pretexts he may come up with
2006-07-31 19:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you tell your ex ? Get someone else involved.
Make it very clear to the man that you are not interested. Stop going to functions that he is attending and tell people why.
Get your family involved.
be careful. he doesn't sound right.
2006-07-31 19:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stongly suggest you tell his wife, your cousin, then if that doesn't get you any relief, file criminal charges of harrassment, this should get the attention of other family members who don't believe your accusations, be prepared to look bad within your family if they don't believe your story
2006-07-31 19:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him flat out that he has no chance, and try to avoid any contact with him. tell your family what he is doing so they can tell him also....maybe then he will get the point....but you shouldnt fell bad about anything
2006-07-31 19:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by Eric R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order against him the sooner the better
2006-07-31 19:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so pitiful, hope that jerk is taken to the mental hospital for good.
2006-08-01 01:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell every male in your family about this. Maybe they can help.
2006-07-31 19:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by Baxter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are letting him do this to you and you are being naive to it. Stop going where you know he will be!
2006-07-31 19:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by ronron2021 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋