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I try not to, if its something he really wants he gets mad and sometimes will strike out at me, but he is short for a man, only 5' 6" so I hit him back. Its a real beotch fest in our house. How about you? What does he do to you?

2006-07-31 19:09:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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dear sexy,
not all men r this way...
find your strength... realize this is not the way you want to live and tell him so...he will change, or he will live without you. you r worth having and if he can not see this in you then he is not worth your time.... striking back only proves that you accept this as your lifestyle... there r men out there who will not abuse.

2006-07-31 19:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by who be boo? 5 · 6 1

o.k hun....really this isn't normal and you need to leave immediately. I know because i'm speaking from experience. For one it doesn't matter how tall the guy is....he's still a dude and he's stronger than you. Secondly, it's not health to be in a relationship where there is physical or mental abuse and that's what is going right now in your home. You can do whatever you want (besides cheating) and he shouldn't get angry at you to the point of hitting or verbal abuse. You need to seek help immediately before it gets worst. I know I almost died.

Go to a family members house or to a women's shelter, but whatever you do get out the relationship and never look back. You are your own person and should be able to do whatever you want without someone reacting like that. It's not normal nor healthy. I am not talking through my *** either....take this advice from an once abused women.

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2006-08-01 02:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Ummmm no, my husband and I have a little more respect for eachother than that. In 11 years of marriage we've never raised a finger to eachother, that's a sure way to end up in jail. Sounds like the both of you need some anger management. Since when is hitting a person acceptable?? That's just asking for some serious trouble. I'd seriously rethink this relationship, sounds like two very controlling/selfish people are trying to cohabitate. You'll both only end up miserable...or in jail...or dead.

2006-08-01 02:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by dixi 4 · 0 0

Do to me? He treats me like a queen and would never lay a hand on me. You have some real problems. Not the least of which is a physically abusive guy. The second in line would be the fact that you're actually standing for it.

2006-08-01 02:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

And you think this is OK or normal?? Sounds like you got yourself a real control freak on your hands! Not a good thing, sorry to say sweetie! I suggest you do some heavy soul searching and maybe look at getting some counseling preferably for both of you but at the minimum for yourself!

2006-08-01 02:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

regardless of your height...Don't ever let a man put his hands on you. Althouth you are sticking up for yourself...doesn't mean it is right what is going on in your relationship!!

Noone should EVER hit anyone! Ever!!

I in my relationship don't ever hit my husband nor does he hit me...if he did then there might be a bitchfest going on here...But in all seriousness...there should not be hitting PERIOD THE END...

if you cannot get along with him then leave him. Don't matter if he is shorter, taller, fatter, skinnier or just a man....Nothing is solved with Hitting!!! And if still wants to continue doing what he does then call the Police....NOthing is Ever good coming Out of hitting their partner!! EVer!!!

2006-08-01 02:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 0 0

You are not a servant he needs to grow up and learn to take care of himself. The hitting each other isn't good maybe you should look into getting out of that relationship before the violence escalates! My husband knew when he married me that i am very independent and strong willed so if he asks the right way maybe but if he tells me to forget it he can do it himself! My husband doesn't do anything to me if i don't do it for him he just does it himself but honestly i usually end up doing it because he gets so sweet.

2006-08-01 08:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by spoiledrotten 2 · 0 0

You are your own person you do what makes you happy, your not a slave don't take orders. Relationships are equal you share things together but abuse dont do it. none of us were put on earth to be punching bags, this is no life. I was beaten up when in relationship i got out after years of fear. Now i'm my own person, my partner is wonderful never orders me we just ask each other if we want to do things together. If we dont its ok as we are together every day of our lives anyway.
Relationship is a 2 way street, not meant to be a boxing ring. By you hitting him back you are lowering yourself to his standards. Tell him ship up or ship out, or you make first move as you have to find your own independance.

2006-08-01 02:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by a mother 3 · 0 0

Hell no!!!! I don't do everything he says, I am my own woman, yeah I love him, but that does not mean he owns me. I mean we do for each other, I don't feel obligated to do everything he says, what if you don't agree with it. Remember he is your husband, not your daddy and that's a difference!!! Girl find you some strength from somewhere...Also don't play the hitting game, I don't care how short he is, on day it might turn real...

2006-08-01 02:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by Qui 1 · 0 0

No I don't do anything I don't want to do. That's how I know he respects my decisions and me as a person. If your guy hits you and doesn't respect your decisions I'd advise you to rethink your relationship. It's none of my business but that doesn't sound healthy at all.

2006-08-01 02:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lorelei 1 · 0 0

If it is a reasonable request, I will try to fufill it. If I cant or dont want to I simply say no. He shouldnt hit you if you dont do as "your told." Youre not his slave or servant! Next time he tells you "what you HAVE to do," laugh in his face. I dont put up with controlling men.

2006-08-01 02:16:03 · answer #11 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0 0

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