Too nervous to tell my husband what I like in bed?

Question

I don't know why I'm so shy, but I just can't seem to communicate with my husband about sex and what I like in bed. Does anyone have any tips of how to approach the subject without feeling uncomfortable and embarrassed. TIA.

Answer 1

Goodness girl listen, were you too nervous or embarrassed to marry this man, are you too nervous to tell him or show him you love him, no then why be too nervous to let him know what you want from your love making, I think your going to be very surprised when you get a grip and tell him, he will probably give a huge sigh of relief and make everyday a more fulfilling one for you, don't be shy or you will spend the rest of your married life been unfulfilled emotionally and physically, you love each other there is nothing to be embarrassed or shy about, go get him girl.

Answer 2

Try some of these,,,buy a few sexy movies or even soft porn and one night the two of you watch them together...he will like most men comment on what he sees. He will start the conversation and all you have to do is respond with answers to his questions and comments. If he doesn't respond then say you want to see how good of an actor he is and he can be the guy in the movie and you can be the girl and see how well you two can try it like on the movie. Make up a movie scene you saw and tell him about it include of course what it is you would like him to do and get his reaction. If he makes you nervous afterward you can always say yeah it was just a movie but at least that will get him to thinking. Try having a phone conversation instead of face to face and write down what you want to say...practice it out on a close girlfriend a dn then try it out on him. Sometimes people can not be as nervous during a phone conversation than face to face. Purchase the book...The Joy of Sex and read it and look at the pictures together it will do the talking for you. I know a man that really appreciated this book said it changed his whole way of making love and the book is very detailed about what a woman likes.

Answer 3

I'm that way, too, but I've learned that the best way to start communication is with small words. Try simply saying "yes" or "no" to things you like or that you don't like. Or, while you're talking after sex, tell him that you really liked something that he did and if there is something that you're interested in trying, bring it up casually, such as, "I was reading something in Cosmo and it sounded like it might be kind of fun to try. What do you think?" The best thing you can do is just start small and work your way up to full speech when you feel comfortable enough. I usually hide my face a little and have to laugh to ease my nervousness when I talk about sex with my boyfriend but if you can open up the communication, it gets easier. Good luck!!

Answer 4

Leave him a love note in his pocket when he goes to work. Nothing heavy but just to say that you really love him and that you are so glad that both of you love each other so much And just a hint in the first note that you sometimes feel so shy when both of you get intimate and you wish that you could actually express yourself more during lovemaking
See what follows from that note.
If he is receptive then give him a few more days and then leave another note in his pocket saying that you are getting so turned on by just by writing this note and maybe when you are making love he should do ( whatever you would like him to do to you) and you know that it will blow your mind.Also say that because you feel so shy you are finding it easier to write these sexy notes to him.
Good luck.

Answer 5

Sometimes it's easier to write down your feelings in a letter or an e mail. It's a lot easier to summon your courage when you're not face to face. He probably already knows you're shy, just be sure to let him know you're happy with him and not to take it the wrong way. Tell him you're too shy to say it, then tell him what you want. You could be in for a pleasant surprise, and it might come easier for you in the future. Good luck!

Answer 6

This man is your husband! You need to tell him exactly what you want and you shouldn't be afraid, because there are maybe somethings he would love to share with you that HE himself is afraid to tell you.

So, one night while you both are laying in bed, be the one to break the ice........

Ask him, "baby I have been wondering if we could try something new in bed"............

He'll say something like what do you mean, and just tell him, I have fantasized about us doing this or that and was wondering if you have ever...............

and go from there! He'll open up to his fantasies also! You won't know unless you ask! And believe it or not.........he won't see your red face, nor will you see his because you will be in the dark!

Good Luck!

Answer 7

Since you can't see me or don't even know who I am, why don't you try telling me? I won't laugh, or tell anyone, or make you feel uncomfortable in any way. Maybe with a little practice under your belt, you'll be better able to communicate to him what you like.

Answer 8

A simple way to do thi would be to ask him about what HE likes. Maybe next time you two are getting intimate, give him your hand and say 'show me how you like it' No doubt he will do this! Then, when asking him what he likes, say 'me too!' when you agree, or 'really? that's funny because i prefer...' Another option is for you to take his hand and say, 'try here' or even when your caught up in the moment say, slow down, or whatever it is you want. Good luck!

Answer 9

If you don't want to be direct,you can send him hints of what you want. For example you can tell him what you dreamed he was making to you, or you can tell him you read a magazine about some sex tips which you would like to try. you can even play with him during sex, covering his eyes and just guiding him to do what you like.

Answer 10

It's common though...however start by asking him if he likes you doin xxxxx to him & also ask him what he hates most. Then he might ask the same too to you & IF NOT then you should ask him if he knows your weak point ??? By playing this game then slowly you'll be open to him .

You should also mention that it is good if both of you understand each other likes & dislike ....especially in bed.....then tickle him with a laugh....follwed by a soft loving kiss....am sure this will work.............