We love each other but I have a feeling that this is going to cause problems once we are married. After all, we males need to feel needed by our women! (joke)
2006-07-31 18:55:37 · 18 answers · asked by Claude 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
If money is the foundation of your relationship - this could be something you might want to think about BUT if your relationship is founded on something other than money - this shouldn't matter.
2006-07-31 19:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by me 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure why it should become an issue. After you marry, your money to the main point becomes joint money. Rather than thinking about things in terms of putting in equal money, think about putting in equal percentages of your net salary. That way you are both contributing equally to the marriage.
Women have more needs than the obvious ones. Money is just a part of it and if, between you, you are earning enough, chances are it isn't something that would loom particularly large in her radar... the thing that women need more than anything is emotional support, communication, romance and to feel like they matter. Do things right and money will not be a problem - trust me.
The only way this will become an issue is if you let it. Money is such a silly thing to argue over. Life presents a lot more challenges. Think about whether you can live with this. If thinking about things in terms of contributing equal percentages doesn't work, I would suggest that you rethink getting married until you are more philosophical about this situation.
2006-07-31 19:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by Hallber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to really ask yourself if this is an issue or not. I know you put (joke) in there, but you need to honestly ask if it's a joke or not.
I was married to a guy who thought it was great I made more than he did...until he realized I'd always make more than he did. (*shrug*) But he resented any thing where he wasn't able to live up to his ideal of being "Mr. Macho".
You see, he really did suffer from the need to be needed...and being wanted, when he wasn't needed....wasn't enough. He honestly HAD to have a woman who was subordinate to him. (And married me...WHY?)
Where I'm headed in all this...honestly evaluate yourself. If you truly can't live with this...then you need to figure it out now. Then look for someone who can be needy and co-dependent. Leave the "independent" women alone, and find someone who can't stand on her own two feet unless some man is holding her upright.
2006-07-31 19:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This always bothers me, that men think that just because some women don't need men financially that they don't need them. What possible problems could it cause down the road? That you will be financially sound, that's silly. Other than your feelings?? You just need to forget it, go be happy, she needs you in other ways that have much more value than money. Just be happy she isn't with you for the car you drive or your bank account.
2006-07-31 19:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by Theavatar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so she earns more than you. Just make sure you both pay 50/50 on bills etc and you will feel that you are paying your way.
She needs you because she loves you she just doesn't need your money surely it is better knowing that someone loves you for just being you and nothing material?
2006-07-31 20:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, male boy, you are needed, that is for sure. Otherwise you would not have been asking this question, would you? Now, to solve the problem and resolve any future possibilities of role reversal in your marital life, you need to ask yourself just one question, why?
2006-08-01 02:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Shahid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once your married and want to start a family, you should quit your job and become a house husband.
2006-08-01 01:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by Gaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does it really matter? I am a civil servant and earn £20k a year my wife works for a large computer firm as a European manager and earns £46! It should make no difference just be proud of her for doing so well!
2006-07-31 19:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by camshy0078 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as the bills are payed, who cares. spends the same. what are her thoughts on this? you guys talked about it? or being a little insecure. I'm sure things will be cool.my ex and i used to split the balance of "left over money".
2006-07-31 19:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shake the stereotype, the problem will be yours, as if she was worried she would not be with you, money is a small part of life..we need people, partners because of what they bring to a relationship, not what their salary is?
2006-07-31 23:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by dianafpacker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋