my ex-bestfriend and i used to be very close, we did everything together. when school started she found a guy she liked, on the first day of school she started telling me she was in his class and that he liked the same music as her. for 1 and a half months i would listen to her talk about him, one day she got his email from my other bestfirend. all i would hear aobut between the two of them is about him. i was getting so sick of it. my friend started hanging out with him and they were together ALL THE TIME, she was in love with him and he didnt even know it. me and her completely stopped hanging out and sh basically left me for him. one day they got drunk at her house and had sex, the next day he asked her out, i was happy for her until he took over her life! they went out for 2 months and he finally broke up with her on valentines day, he told her he only went out with her because he thought she was easy and in 1 month he started talking to her. she ruined our friendship -- twice!
2006-07-31 18:52:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she told me shes sorry for how she acted and she knows she ruined the relationship. for 2 months i tried to patch up the relationship but she was only concerned about the guy. he ignored her for 1 month and told her she was immature, he broke her heart and she still took him back. he still talks behind her back and i keep trying to tell her she needs to move on. she wont listen to me. she acts as if im jealous, i used to miss hanging out with her but now shes just pissing me off. she only calls me if hes busy, shes doing the exact same thing.
2006-07-31 19:04:41 · update #1
Guys come and go! Your girls are forever! He'll be gone before you know it.
2006-07-31 18:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are young this all seems so important and boys will come and go getting between you and your friends. Girls want a boyfriend and they want to spend their time with them. Some will be good guys and some plain jerks. Real friends are there for life and as you get older you will lose the amount of friends and keep only a special few. Think about if it was you in that situation, would you want her to be there for you? As long as she doesn't really treat you badly and admits when she is wrong, give her a bit of space. We all make mistakes and need a friend when we know we have made one.
2006-08-01 02:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a very similar experience. Just tell her that if she wants to talk to you make it not about him especially if shes only complaining about him.
treat her the same way ignore her and show her what shes doing. when she finally gets the picture that you wont take her treating you this way anymore talk. if she doesn't light a candle for her and say good bye.
don't let it get out of hand though keep it in control.
2006-08-01 03:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by Gray Fox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we get blind and deaf when we call ourselves falling in love. You can only warn a person so many times when you see they're not getting it then let them learn the hard way or it will appear to them that you're jealous. Hopefully one day she realizes that you are a good friend and she should treasure you guys relationship. Don't give up just be there when she needs you.
2006-08-01 02:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the thing is....we can only advise so much to our friends/family and anyone else for that fact. I would give my suggestions and if they listen to it or not it's always gonna be their choice. We have no control over people's choices. All we can do is do our best to guide them. Love and accept them for the choices they make. I know there will always be disappointment in life and if we truly love someone we would let them be. They will sooner or later come round (hopefully) and understand. Yes, I would remain friends and forgive them.
2006-08-01 02:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by bond_babe_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in her shoes. I do not think she meant to hurt you at all,
she fell in love, and all she could do is think of him.
She must be a teenager.
It's very hard on you, and hurtfully also, I am sure. Try to find it in your
heart to forgive her, and still be her friend, even thou she is not really
paying attention.
A true friend is forever, and I am pretty sure she will need you, and when she does remind her, you are truly a best friend.
I have alot of friends....however, true friends, how many can you count on your fingers? me...maybe 3. and they have been with me for years.
2006-08-01 02:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by Eve 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be the true friend even though it is hard and forgive her, I mean she seems like she has suffered enough from the guy. I mean true Friends are supposed to be a shoulder to cry on for their Friends even when they make the stupidest decisions.
2006-08-01 01:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by Qui 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay quiet. You should always forgive because it is good for your health. You can still talk to her, but stay at a long distance type of relationship.
She still has to earn your trust and learn to respect you as a human being. She is the one that has to prove herself.
2006-08-01 01:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yr gf has being cheated by that guy for free sex & enjoyment.do take her in & be a close friend like before, we must learn from mistakes.
2006-08-01 01:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no found an other friend but if u were bestfriend then help a friend out as many time as u can
2006-08-01 02:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋