what are te tell tale signs of needing to separate?
2006-07-31 18:41:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you bicker all the time, say hurtful & cuss words to each other. When that happens, there may still be love, but respect? I don't think so and that's when you should part ways. Easier said than done, no?
2006-07-31 18:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You start growing in different directions - you want this in life and they want that - no longer a compromise for a partnership but a struggle for individualism....you want to be validated as a person with feelings, wants, needs and even a mind that's capable of making good decisions.
They may want totally different, like material things or decisions that only are good for them.
If you don't or can't enjoy eachother anymore for whatever reasons there are, talking about what is lacking or wrong is the best way, talk AND listen and go from there. This does need to be discussed out of respect for yourself and your partner.
By all means be honest about what it is that you feel and ask what they feel too - it may be a friendship that you both need in eachother to make a decision.
2006-08-01 02:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that we all see the same signs. I think we each see different ones, though there might be some overlap. That said, a loss of trust, loss of respect, arguments, stupid emphasis on little things, once known positions on issues suddenly change, who is this person? what is happening here? all run through your mind. I think the hardest thing must be to decide to seperate when things get like this, because you cant seem to find any solid ground anymore so dont know if what you're thinking is fair. I feel for ya. Take care and good luck.
2006-08-01 01:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by twerf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is such a broad idea. Well lets start with the obvious.
Silly Arguing , Cursing , etc. I would say that if this keeps up. You should see a professional together.
A codependent may just be overly concerned that there partner is cheating and may very well not be the case. I think that it is such a detailed topic. I would have to write 12 books and still not cover all the respective topics.
2006-08-01 01:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there done that. You just know, you really can't talk anymore instead you just want to keep hurting each other. It's kind of like you really dislike them but love them at the same time. With me it was on and off for a long time before I finally realized this is it. You just get stuck and can't seem to move forward anymore. And you really seem to lose interest in sex with that person also, maybe not in all case's. Usually if your partner used to be sexual with you and that change's they may have someone else on the side. Anyway, good luck!!
2006-08-01 01:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by allyson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seperation is a sign that someone wants to see what the options are. Seperation in my mind would be the thin ice before divorce. I mean it would be a last resort that I would use when I really already know divorce is inevitable, but you are trying to give one last ounce of hope. Use seperation only when you are at your wits end and ready to move on unless the situation improves.
2006-08-01 01:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by krichard70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you don't really want to be with the person any more but you're comfortable or afraid of being alone; when you know deep inside of you that you need to move on but you convince yourself that maybe things will get better because you don't want to deal with all of the heartbreak that goes along with breaking up with someone; when you really have nothing in common any more - nothing to talk about, nothing that excites you about being around that person.
2006-08-01 01:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both are irritants to see eachother's face , can not bear the sight of the person in question , try to humiliate each other most of the time , stop eating together .
2006-08-01 01:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he sleeps on the couch, he takes off for hours and doesn't tell you where he's at, , he doesn't return your calls, he is asleep when you get home from work, he keeps secrets from you, he hides his cell phone, and he is texting someone behind your back, tells you he is at work when his not, , doesn't eat dinner with you, refuses to hold your hand in public but tells you that people already know that you are together, doesn't inroduce you to his friends as you being his wife,, need I go on?????
2006-08-01 01:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by E.M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lack of interest in one another not wanting to spent time together arguing about money no sex and another indcators such maybe comimg home late or not at all
2006-08-01 01:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by simmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋