I'm married and NO i'm not cheating. I have not been "in Love" with my husband for about 2 years. He has been very violent in the past but now he is a better. I haven't forgotten all of the evil he has done. He is a wonderful person but I cannot bring back the in love feelings. I have told him this. However, I cannot forget the love of my life who is 34 and has a 22 year old girlfriend of 2 1/2 years. What should i do?
2006-07-31 18:31:42 · 15 answers · asked by hotcowgurl78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am sorry to hear of your situation. I am glad to hear that your husband has changed and is trying to be a better person. If you want to try and salvage your marriage the first thing you should do is pray to God and ask Him to forgive you for any bad feelings you have toward your husband. Jesus tells us to cast our cares on Him. Then I would pray for Him to heal your heart and restore your love for your husband. It will not necessarily happen overnight but with time and continually praying God can restore your marriage if that is His will. As far as the ex love of your life I would not recommend trying to interfere with that relationship.
Best of luck I will pray for your marriage
2006-07-31 18:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by ROBERT S 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get over your "true love". Marriage is commitment for life. It is not on a contract basis. You married him and vowed to be together in good times AND bad times. It would not be fair to abandon him or leave him when he needs you the most. Don't forget all the evil he has done. In fact, don't let HIM forget all the evil he has done as well. Because this should stop him from doing more evil in the future.
Forget your "true love". The very fact that he has a girlfriend tell us that he is already over you and he is moving on. If you do anything to leave your husband, who or what would you do it for...a guy who already has a girlfriend for so long???
2006-07-31 18:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by The Prince 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have emotionally detached yourself from your husband because you now no longer trust him and don't feel safe and secure with him based upon the past violent behavior and also he will never have a fair shot of proving to you that he has truly changed and that you can trust him as long as their is another person in the relationship (you may not have actually cheated with this other person however the person is still in your relationship because you can't get him out of your mind) Either you are gonna make it work with your husband or you or not. In addition it sounds like the person you are pining after has moved on with his life and you need to do the same. Make a decision whether you are willing to make your marriage work - sometimes in marriages you are always in love but you have enough love for that person to stick it out until you fall back in love - It's your call
2006-07-31 18:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by 2deep4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to a marriage councelor? Your husband loves you a lot to have changed and be a better person for you. Your "soulmate" has been in a 2 and 1/2 year relationship which means its kinda serious...Leave them alone. You said your husband is a wonderful person so give him a chance.
2006-07-31 18:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u r NOT in love then u should leave him. i am sorry but for the other guy u should tell him how u feel. i am sorry about in the past with your husband. if this dose not help i am sorry that is all i can say.hope u find a way to fix this DO WHAT IS BEST FOR U Fallow your heart it will take u the right way im sure.
2006-07-31 18:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by SAMANTHA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he finds out your wrote this, he'll probably relaps and hurt you again. Second, divorce the freak and find the one you love. Why do women persist in this "I loved him till he hit me then I still love him more?" game? What, is he killer in the sack? Evidently not since you can't get back into it with him and fantasize about other guys. That's when the party is over in a marrage.
2006-07-31 18:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have children? If so, stay till they are adults. If not, are you sure the "grass is Really greener" on the other side? If so, what does the "love of your life" think? You can ask him discretely, but if he does not indicate enthusiastic support for the idea -- as they said -- get over it.
2006-07-31 18:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by rehabob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married, and if you love your husband but are no longer in love with him..sounds like you really need to sit down and think to yourself, what you want out of life.
Don't mess with the so called soul mate if he is with another person, that isn't fair to him or the other person.
and needless to say it isn't fair to you or your husband.
good luck
2006-07-31 18:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you marry a guy for money with a teeny weeny,10 yrs goes by a couple of kids,looks are slipping,teeny's probably fooling around with his secretary,and you old stud boyfriend has moved on to younger greener pastures.typical
2006-07-31 18:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love the one you with;I mean in due time, however you gonna run off and miss your blessing your husband has for you...this other guy seems be going strong..leave him alone...good things come to them that way...pray and let God have his way in your life!!!
2006-07-31 18:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋