what to do to find the inner happiness after being in a relationship for so long and now are alone?

Answer 1

First it's important to evaluate your life now.
Why did your relationship end? Was it because you gave up a great deal of yourself to please someone else? Were you cheated on?
Look at the relationship in a different perspective and you may see things that weren't who you really are as a person.
Starting there helped me.
Then I started doing things I couldn't do in the relationship (like be selfish of what I wanted) ie: start classes - redecorate the house the way I wanted - rent my kind of movies - have friends over or go do stuff more often with friends.....the whole point is getting back in contact with yourself - the real you - get to know YOU again. You'll become a true friend to yourself and that brings out an inner happiness. You are the one you can depend on now - and be true to yourself.
Plan a future the way you want it to be - take a trip by yourself or with a friend - just take on your freedom of choices now that the whole world is your canvas and you are the artist.
Self worth and freedom to choose your life's destinations IS true happiness.

Answer 2

God is always the answer to inner peace - build a relationship with him and he will wipe away your sadness and your tears with time - by the way it's joy that you are seeking not happiness - happiness is based upon the events that are happening in our lives - joy is something that is on the inside and isn't determine by life's events

Answer 3

The one thing you do not want to do is get into another relationship quickly. It spells disaster more often than not. Some people above this message gave you some sound advice, but forgot to tell you this one. Right now, you are vulnerable, and someone who can be a dirty individual will use that against you. Go out with friends and spend time with them & give yourself time to heal.

Answer 4

I suggest praying and asking God for help. I also suggest living life for yourself. Find what makes you happy. May take a while, but you will find it. You just can't let anyone person be the source of your inner happyness. People let us down. Be good to yourself and live a life that makes you proud to be you.

Answer 5

I don't know how religious you are, but I always turn to God for help with stuff like that, I would also suggest family and friends, but sometimes they can be judgmental and won't understand, so the only person that will understand without judging you or giving you unwanted input is God. I mean just pray and ask him for help, you don't necessarily have to go to a church. I mean with all brake ups comes tears and lots of pain but keep praying for help and put in your mind that you ca do it and it won't happened over night but things will change eventually. I hope this helps :-)

Answer 6

Inner happiness is an issue of the heart. Place your hope and trust in Jesus, He is the Lord of the heart and He will give you that peace and joy you've been looking for.

Answer 7

Jesus.
www.upci.org They can help you find Him in your life.

You need to work on you. Make yourself a better person. Pray for your ex. You do what is good, and good will come back to you. Join a womens'/mens' group to help you find what your role in life is. Whether it is a traditional role, or a non-traditional role, a group like this can help.

You are never alone, Jesus is with you and loves you for who you really are.

Answer 8

give yourself time to grieve, and do things that you enjoy doing.
Find things about yourself that you like. When that is expressed outwardly, POOF...a new relationship comes in. Next time around will be better.
Remember to take care of yourself and treat yourself kindly.

Answer 9

it is hard , i mean it hurts so bad but time is the only thing that can heal that wound ,

Answer 10

find a new partner