Why do people hate me?

Question

I am very insecure. Is this why? I try to be friendly to otheres. I am always nicer to pepole than they are to me.
guess nice guys do finish last!

Answer 1

people probably don't hate you. if you are as insecure as you say than chances are good you take things too seriously or are too sensitive about other peoples' perception of you...

it will take a lot of time...but you need to get to a place mentally where you really like you...the rest will follow.

good luck

Answer 2

Let's turn this around. Maybe it's only your insecurity that makes you think people hate you.
People get busy nowadays. They get caught up in their daily lives and lose touch with others. We focus on where we need to be and how late we are and why we can't get our cell phone to send the IM while we are trying to make the left turn from the right lane. We are in the right lane because we were distracted by our PDA. See what I mean. Maybe the people who "hate" you are just way too busy and stressed to notice anybody. Just a thought.
You know you have worth. You know who and what you are. Don't take the busy lives of others too personally. Continue to be kind and polite. Let your wit and positive outlook show regardless of the reaction of others. Just relax, it's all good!
But I know what you mean. Often I'll speak to others in passing and they don't even respond. They are thinking and worrying and who knows what. It's okay, it's not you.

Answer 3

I do not pay a lot concentration to the Jonas Brothers, however they do look kinda poopy. Miley Cyrus turns out like a self-situated entire within the butt who is just too grown. (Jonas Brothers look too youngster like.) Who do I hate? Courtney Love is gross and ridiculous. Of direction every person hates Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie is disconnected from fact too. Lady Gaga sucks!!!! She's so unsightly and untalented. That's it! That's my reply! She had a track approximately dancing and she or he can not even transfer. Stupid.

Answer 4

Possibly you are just trying to hard to be liked.

It's good to be nice to other people and there is nothing wrong with being nicer than they are.

What could be a problem is your reason for being nice. And maybe you are trying to cultivate the wrong people.

The trick is to be genuinely friendly, to listen, to be polite regardless of how others act. Don't push things, let them develop on their own. Care about other people, and look beyond shallow and superficial aspects of how they act.

And don't worry about it. Worrying will make you more insecure.

By the way, for whatever it's worth, I like you.

Answer 5

First, study how to gain confidence and security. Second, find people who put you first and then you put them first. Make sure that you do not "split" your world - you are the nice guy, others are the bad guys.

Do not be masochistic, because then you are inviting bad people to step on you. Make absolutely sure that you do not derive pleasure from others' mistreatment of you.

Realize that you may be victimizing yourself.

If you are overly giving out of insecurity, if you feel you are not worth being around unless you give to make up for your deficiencies, then no one is going to ever match your level of giving.

My post is overly direct and I may not have provided you with any insight. It is just what I am reading into your post.

Answer 6

They don't hate. It's your imagination mostly

People don't hate unless you do something despicable behind their back ___ You aren't that kind of a guy

maybe you are around a bunch of unsociable red necks

Try hangng on the beach in San Diego for a few days___

Answer 7

I'm sorry you feel that way. You know it's ok to be who you are, just don't see it as people "hate" you. I feel that way too sometimes but look in the mirror. What do you see? If you see a man who knows what he wants in life and you can smile and walk away. Your going to be ok. If your incapable of saying your content with you life then sit down with yourself. Figure out whats wrong, what is really upsetting you. Figure a way to fix it. And never look back!!
Best of luck!!

Answer 8

Nice girls finish last too. Just keep your head up and believe in yourself - being the nice guy will pay off someday!

Answer 9

Maybe they don't hate you. If you do feel so insecure it could very well all be in your head. Just chill out and be yourself and don't worry about what people are thinking of you.

Answer 10

I don't hate you. I'm sure you have some nice qualities. You need to get your mind off yourself and think about others, then people will like you more.