I know building trust takes time, but my husband is deployed in Afghanistan right now and on top of the rest of the hell he's going through, he is really worried about me. So I'm looking for ways to make him feel better in the short term
2006-07-31 17:42:48 · 7 answers · asked by manda 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is worried about me cheating because of things I have done in the past. I have never cheated, but I have made some mistakes both in real life and online.
I already e-mail him several times a day and let him know everything I do in real life. Should I tell him everything I do online too?
He says anything I do to show I care helps. Any ideas for things to send him?
2006-07-31 17:58:53 · update #1
He's concerned that you are (or will) be unfaithful, right? If not, please add some details to the question. If so, ...
Make sure he knows how you feel about him. Tell him as much as you can that you love him, are proud of him, and are waiting patiently for him to come home. Let him know about the little details of your days so that he doesn't have to fill in the gaps with his imagination. He may feel guilty about being gone for so long. Try to let him off the hook for that.
Here a crazy idea. Buy a dildo, one that is not larger than he is. Then, put his name on it so that it's really visible. Take a picture of it and you together, and send it to him. Tell him that he's taking care of you even when he's not there. I know it sounds wild, but it will help.
Be sure to thank your husband for his service to our country. And I want to thank you for your sacrifice too.
Take Care. Be Strong.
2006-07-31 17:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't wonder about if you should tell him what you're doing online. Just don't do ANYTHING online that you wouldn't want him to see or know. Being trusted requires being worthy of trust. The best thing you can do is write your husband- daily. A letter from home is worth it's weight in gold to a guy away from home. Clip articles from the local paper. Tell him whats going on with his friends. Send cookies. He will stop worrying about you IF you don't give him cause to worry. Stay out of bars, don't have male friends around, and just be a wife. Difficult? Yup. But, being a wife IS a tough job.
2006-08-01 16:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you chatting online with people you shouldn't? If you
are stop !!!! You should be online to your husband and
encouraging him and letting him know you love him. Some people don't consider this chatting and all that cheating, but I do and if you are in the marriage for the long haul, then stay away from all the chat rooms or you
are asking for trouble.
2006-08-01 01:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question here, is why shouldn't he trust you? Does he have a reason to worry? Have you lost his trust in the past? Don't worry so much about how to make him know you are trustworthy as to just be trustworthy.
2006-08-01 00:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by sparklarutah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anything in particular he worries about? If so, maybe you can share with him what you're doing in that area. For example, if he's worried about your financial situation, maybe you can share with how well you're balancing the budget, how stable things are, etc.
2006-08-01 00:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by orangemen2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask what his favorite books, movies, songs, etc...are and then start getting into them. Chat about 'em with your husband, and he'll know that you're still thinking of him. Just a suggestion.
2006-08-01 00:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
study relationship books!
2006-08-01 01:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋