ok...im preg. i talked to my boyfriend and he was like he gonna be thea for me but the thing is my mama dont know im preg she dont even know im havin sex i wanna tell her but im scared but she prob. not be able to trust me no more and she like my bestfriend if she aint gonna be there for me i don know what to do my boyfriend mama say if im to scared she will pay for a abortion but i dont want one because i know imma regret it in the future but im to young to have a baby what should i do???
2006-07-31 17:28:30 · 13 answers · asked by 504girl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Please go talk to your mom. If you are as close to her as you say, you should be able to talk to her about this. She might be mad for a few days but she will come around. If you need to have a friend help you talk to her.
2006-07-31 17:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by misticalrose986 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God, I am so sorry, sweetie. I have never been there myself, but I'll advise you the best I can.
Whatever you do, do NOT have an abortion!!! I would suggest putting your baby up for adoption- it will be hard to do -but you and your child will have a better chance of living a successful life.
Tell your mom ASAP! If you're worrying about trust, she will be disappointed (no doubt about that) but she will be so happy that you had the guts to come and tell her even though you were scared.
STAY IN SCHOOL! Nothing is more important than your education. People will call you names, but ignore it. You know you made a mistake and now it's time to learn from it.
I suggest you don't have sex again until you're married. I think you just found out why. :-(
Remember, you and your boyfriend may not have planned this child, but God did. God has a plan for this. Maybe someday something great will come of it. I'll pray for you, and good luck!
2006-08-01 00:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by Susie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am BEGGING YOU. please tell your mother!!! She will find out anyway and as a mom (a young one but still,lol i'm 25) if my child was in this situation i'd want to know and help, even if I got mad at first! She will most likely be sad at first, not mad anyway so don't be scared! She can help you to make the right decision. I know you say you don't want an abortion and I am NOT trying to push you but raising a child is sooo hard. Think of it: you won't end up finishing school more than likely, and even if you do you have to pay for daycare, diapers,food and you'll need to make alot of money for all that! so unless you work like 50 hours a week and don't spend time w/ your kid you'll have to go on welfare. I am not trying to be mean but I think somebody has to talk to kids about raising a child, because there are soooo many teen moms these days, and it's making so many girls lives harder than they have to be. Don't you wanna have fun with friends and go to college?? all I ask is that you think about all this and PLEASE tell your mom. good luck hun.
2006-08-01 00:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to calm down. You really need to tell your mom that you're pregnant. She'll be there for you when everone else falls by the wayside. If you're that afraid to tell her alone then maybe you should get a trusted friend or relative to be there with you when you break the news.
There are alternatives to abortion. Many loving, caring families are waiting for a chance to adopt children who can not be kept by their birth mothers.
You can call 1-800-848-LOVE 24 hours a day 7 days a week for free to talk to a counselor who can help you sort through your options.
Check out these links for more information:
http://www.abortionalternatives.com/
http://www.nrlc.org/help.html
2006-08-01 00:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're too young to have a baby, then what the h#ll were you doing having sex? You need to be a woman about this- talk to your mother, give her the opportunity to support you emotionally, and either way, you need to have that baby. Even if you give it up for adoption after it is born. Just because you didn't feel like using protection is not an excuse to have an abortion.
2006-08-01 00:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by Cristalle T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem when i found out i was pregnant. You are better off telling your mom cause after you tell her you will feel alot better and you dont need the stress being pregnant. I dont think you mom will disown you cause i have never heard of a mother disowning their child for being pregnant. Yes your mom might be mad at you but she will get over it. Another thing is if you tell your mom she will be happy that you told her and didnt hide it from her. Your mom will always be there for you no matter what you do. i hope you listen to my advice.
2006-08-01 00:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by Mothertobe20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FINALLY SOMEONE DOESN'T WANT AN ABORTION!!! Okay. She'll find out anyway because she will see your fatty in a few months. It's best to tell her now. And I don't know if you boyfriend can be trusted or not. Man I'm glad I've never had a girlfriend.
2006-08-01 00:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom, you might be surprised by her response. If not there is always adoption. To many people in this world are to quick to jump on the abortion ban wagon. I think those people don't have a clue. Good luck.
2006-08-01 04:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by Lela34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you have to tell your mom.(after all she'll find out sooner or later anyway).If you want more advise from me just send me an e-mail and i'll give you more.I have friends who have had or are having the same problems.I'm like the therpist of my school.Any way my addy is wvcountrygirl_93@yahoo.com
2006-08-01 00:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by wvcountrygirl_93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL... if you didnt want to lose her trust why the hell were you going behind her back and doing that in the first place? sorry but you set yourself up for this one hun
good luck tho and do everything you can for your baby to have a wonderful life
2006-08-01 00:35:29 · answer #10 · answered by jtawsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋