My husbands sister wants to get married in my back yard and have a Hollaween wedding. She expects everyone to dress in costume...including her, the groom, everyone in the wedding and all the guests. As fun as it might sound...I think the majority of people will not go for this because it is such a lame idea. I can't imagine half of her family taking her seriously and actually dressing up. She is from a very catholic family who I know will be outraged & insulted by this. Her family will be mad at me for allowing her to do something so strange in my yard. How can I talk her out of this idea?
2006-07-31 17:21:52 · 19 answers · asked by pet stylist 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My spelling is not the issue here. Also...I should mention that this IS my business because she wants to do this in MY back yard. I need to remind you that we are dealing with a very catholic family...my in-laws. If I allow her to do this in MY yard...my in-laws might resent ME for allowing it. I just don't want to get in the middle of all of it. I prefer to keep the peace.
2006-07-31 17:37:03 · update #1
To Lera...
I find it hard to take advise from a little girl who dresses like it's Hollaween year round. I think you're the one who needs to grow up. Goth is an outdated fad. Get with it girl.
2006-07-31 17:57:25 · update #2
It is her wedding, but it is your backyard. If you don't feel comfortable having it at your place, suggest a better place. "Oh, my backyard isn't that great, you should really check out this other place......" You don't have to be rude, but redirection is often a great way to not hurt someone's feelings.
2006-07-31 17:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by NotMySecret 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sis had a similar wedding...it was a blast! Though not everyone was into it at first, they ALL were by the time the reception got started. She even had games for the kids, like a pinata. We had apple bobbing, which the bride and groom did first...It was awesome. I think a lot of families aren't sure what to think about "change" from the norm...whether they are catholic or not. But if the bride and groom have no problem with it, it's not really the "family's" choice....it's the couple's...no matter who's yard it's in. If you are uncomfortable with it, tell them to find a new place to have their dream wedding. But to stifle their desires for their wedding is just selfish, since it only comes once. A change would probably do all of you good and if you guys try, you might actually enjoy yourselves! I know we did! A masquerade type party allows everyone to pariticipate in some way and is a great idea...I wish I would've done it!
2006-08-01 00:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by sbhb090896 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that! It is an absolutely horrid idea. It's selfish and self-centered and the height of rudeness to ask people to dress a certain way for a wedding. I know you'll get a lot of responses from girls who will think it's cool, but stick to your guns. Your instincts are right on this one. A wedding is supposed to be a solemn exchange of vows, witnessed by family, friends, and God. To turn it into a circus makes a mockery of the institution and frankly I would have nothing to do with it.
The real problem you have is how to tell the bride that she's way off-base with this idea. Suggest that perhaps she'd be happier finding a more suitable location for the ceremony and reception, since you're uncomfortable with the concept. Maybe you can enlist a few family members who can discuss this with her calmly and rationally.
2006-08-01 00:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by Fall Down Laughing 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, this isn't the first I've heard of this craziness. I've also heard of Goth weddings like this where everybody dresses up. I think the good thing is, it's not you and your husband. Maybe you can convince her to hold 2 ceremonies, a real one, and then later on have a costume party where she can invite all the people that WOULD be into that. Other than that, you and your husband will be able to get away with so much s*it for a while, because everybody is going to be so bent out of shape about this!
2006-08-01 00:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF this is a 2nd or more marriage for her/him, no problem what so ever...very common to have a costume wedding...fun, the marriage is every bit as serious, yet the people attending certainly have a better time than at a "normal" wedding. What is the problem here?
2006-08-01 00:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, have a wedding at Hollaween? I wouldn't do it, but I guess it's their day. I never heard anything like that either. Hmm, ok, whatever!
It's not like they have 364 other days that they could get married on. Oh well, my parents got married on April fool's day, so I guess if they want, oh well.
2006-08-01 00:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldn't try to talk her out of it if this is the wedding they want and it makes them happy you should be happy for them. Besides who says everyone has to have a traditional wedding this one sounds like fun. Sounds like it would be very memorable.
2006-08-01 08:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by spoiledrotten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boo Hoo, i want my in-laws to control what I do and how I think and run my life. Grow the f*ck up and do what you think is right, and quit being a little low life second-guessing sponge of a human being. Like you said; it's "your yard", not your in-laws. You let them make your decisions for you and next it will be the clothes you wear, your hairstyle, what kind of car you drive, and what kinds of plants you want in "your yard". Pathetic!
2006-08-01 00:48:09 · answer #8 · answered by Lera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if that's what she wants then that's what she should get. Perhaps you could tell her that you don't feel comfortable with the whole theme and would prefer if they held the wedding elsewhere (maybe a cemetary? lol) if they want the H-ween theme. You could always let them hold the reception there still.
2006-08-01 00:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by ChaCha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suggest that instead of the wedding have a pre-wedding party, that way, everyone is happy
tell her to dress up as a dead bride on halloween ^.^
either way it still sounds very fun!
2006-08-01 00:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by Miss. Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋