Well, I know all about breaking up, and it's hard for me to summerize everything up here, but I know I'm supposed to be distant and back off and see what happens, but how am I supposed to do that when I am still deeply in love with him and I can't get over him and I can't seem to get over him?
To top it off, he broke up with me when I was 7 months pregnant to take a break from us and he said we would talk about it after I give birth. He has gone out with one other girl since than, but they are not together, she left him.
Well, I see him all the time, he hangs with his friends, parties, and I'm the one stuck doing and paying for everything...when we decided to hang out.
I've been fighing for him for about 3 months now...and he still says we will talk after the baby comes but he's not promosing me anything...I'm about ready to give up but how do I let go when our child is here and we have to see each other all the time for the baby? I really want him back, and he treats me like his gir
2006-07-31 17:19:04 · 3 answers · asked by aztec_princess_87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We were together for 2 years and we had planned to get married...
I don't know what to do...I don't want to get over him, I had decided I wanted to be with him since the day we got back together last year and decided to have a child...
He broke up with me, because of trust issues, I guessI feared for his saftey and I snitched to his mom so that he wouldn't end up in jail or dead.
Another thing was, before we got back together, I had cheated on him because I was not sure if he loved me, and I was unhappy, and I ended up getting drunk and letting all my problems go one night and I broke up with him the next day...I would never do that ever again because when I confessed to him before we got back together, he was so hurt, and I would never do that to him ever again, I would never take the chance to lose him all over again...
He decided to break up with me for so many reasons, but I want to work on it so much...my dreams, everything, it's all I wanted...
2006-07-31 17:19:22 · update #1
We've been apart for 3 months...
And I am 36 Weeks & 4 days right now...
He's not a complete a**...i mean, he did say we could talk about it...and he has yet to go out with anyone else...
He is there for me, he's not like out running the streets...
And he's native american, he has a tribal check coming, so child support isn't the issue...he wants to be as involved with this child as possible...my question was, what can I do to get him back with me, or if he decides to not come back to me, how can I let go, and be distant and all that if he's always around for our baby?
2006-07-31 17:19:38 · update #2
The thing is, I feel like giving up so much, because everyone's advising me too...
And I sit there next to him and I cry and cry about it, I don't whine, I just end up tearing up all randomly and he sits there and hugs me and kisses me face and stuff and he knows I want to be with him so much...
But all he says is that we will talk about it after the baby is born...that it's not that far from now...and he says that if we are mean't to be, we will be together...and than he'll say he needs time to heal...
He promises to be there for his child, and his parents are very supportive of me, there's nothing everyone wants more than for us to be together!
We still hang out ALOT together, he said he wanted time to reget to know each other and remember what brought us together 2 years ago, and move on from there...
There was a point where it was all bitterness and hate, but we took a vacation together a month ago, and it's been happy between us since. I just wanna wipe the slate clean, start ove
2006-07-31 17:19:53 · update #3
I'm ready to grow up, I'm ready to settle down, so was he, he had proposed to me, but I gave the ring back because he started treating me sh**y again and I told him to keep it for until we were really ready and solved all these issues we had....and I tried...I spend months trying to talk to him, get him to spend time with me...and now when I tell him about it, he said, he started to let go of me the day I gave that ring back!
I never mean't it like that, I just wanted him to purpose to me when he was really ready and happy with me...I was ready!
Believe me!
And I'm ready now...alotta the things I did that he did not like I did out to spite him, to get his attention, a rise outta him...he said I was smothering him...
But these past 3 months, I've been working on myself, I gave up all those things because I was never like that to begin with, I did it out of the need to get his attention...
He sees that I am different...and I am ready to work on this...
2006-07-31 17:20:10 · update #4
girl you are obsessed get over it
2006-07-31 17:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe. I'm going to be frank with you. You choice in a man is beyond poor. Only a man that is true navel lint would abandon you with a baby. And you are a fool for having a baby without being married. Basically, you are screwed. You will spend the rest of your life paying an enormous price for being such a jackass as to let someone who is the scum of the earth touch you.
If by some miracle, he stops being a scumbag for 5 minutes, you should get married. The chances of this are slim to none and he plans to never have contact with you ever again after the baby is born (if he hasn't already). He's probably impregnating some other idiot girl as I write this. He is laughing at you. But, let's say he isn't as bad as I know he is. Your best chance at not having your life ruined is marriage. Like it or not, you made this decision the moment you let him put his penis in you and the decision is not changeable. Because it is either him or no one.
2006-08-01 00:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot believe you will bring a baby into this mess. Grow the hell up and give your baby up for adoption so at least it has a chance. You are both too immature to raise a child.
Anyone who would leave their pregnant girlfriend is not worth wasting your time on. Kick his *** to the curb.
2006-08-01 00:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋